will no contact or friendship most likely succeed in this situation?

[roman_pavluchenko]

we're 18. ok well this girl and i talked a lot, for hours and hours on facebook, but not so much in person, i really liked her, not too sure if she liked me. I eventually asked her out and she said yes, i was her first boyfriend and we had some really good times for a couple of months. We had a bit of an argument where i got drunk and walked off by myself and started texting her asking why she wasnt talking to me and things, it kind of annoyed her as she said me walking off by myself and her having to follow makes her look bad, so the next day i got her flowers and apologized and she forgave me and said we could forget it. Due to one of her friends some plans we had a few days later were changed, and i didn hear about it so i was still waiting for her, when i called her she told me they were having a girls night and it annoyed me so i got a little angry and apparently it pissed her off. Next time i saw her i was happy because i was ready to sort out our problems face to face, but she dumped me saying she didnt feel the same anymore and we were better off like this, but i stayed at her house for a while and we just talked normally like nothing had ever gone wrong. I tried pouring my heart out to her the next day saying i know what i did wrong and that all couples have problems and the girls night was a big misunderstanding, my friends GF forgave him and he made her cry, i hardly even raised my voice to my gf, i told her how i felt and that i was sorry for what happened but she just said it cant happen. I avoided her for a few weeks, and ended up talking to her on facebook because she told me i was the nicest guy she had ever met and that i was really sweet but she pretty much ignored me, I got frustrated and deleted her from facebook. Ive been trying no contact with her, but its really hard because i see her quite a lot due to uni orientation and through out group of friends and she talks to me, so i find it hard not to talk to her, but it hurts to look at her. I really just dont know what happened, her friend told me that she was cut up about it, that she couldnt get me out of her head, but she just wasnt happy with the relationship towards the end and that if i chased her i'd just get even more hurt. Apparently the main reason was because i was too clingy, but we usually hung out in a group and nobody else thought this was the case, and that my friends boyfriend was way more clingy than i was. I do understand that i may have been a bit over the top with texting, but the thing is she never told me that it was a problem, it was just all so sudden. I really care about her and want to be with her still. We're going to uni, ive seen some pretty attractive girls but i just cant compare them to her, the most we did was make-out, but i didnt mind because i just enjoyed being with her. Based on what other people have been through, and based on what i've said, do you think it would be best to go no contact, or just try be friends with her, without the texting or facebook, just talk to her when i see her and be the nice/sweet person she said i was. She is really shy and relatively quiet, so i just dont know what to do. Ive thought about it quite a bit, i pinned the blame on me getting drunk on wednesday night and sending her those texts, then getting angry because they changed the plans without me knowing a few nights later, but i think maybe it was the way i reacted to these events, i maybe tried too hard to apologise? I think i mentioned it but we're both at uni, and i believe her friends are trying to encourage her to just go out and meet other guys...this kind of makes me want to contact her because i worry that she'll just forget about me, and if i try to be friends with her ill be put in the friend zone. But yeah, no contact, or friends, or anything else someone can suggest please.

Edited February 22, 2011 by roman_pavluchenko