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Guys, What's your view on long-distance relationships?

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I met my boyfriend in April, then left for school in May and was away at school for 7 months and was unable to contact my boyfriend apart from about 3 or 4 messages back and forth. Nonetheless he told me he was different from anyone else and would wait it out. From my experience with him he seemed really mature and reliable and I trusted and believed him. When I got back we were only a few hours distance from eachother so weren't able to see eachother and texted everyday for the first month or so of my being home. Slowly our communication diminished and when I askerd him about our relationship he said that he still felt the same, nothing had changed, and that he had just been working double shifts at work and was sorry about the lack of communication, misses me alot, wishes he didn't have to work so much and still feels the same. There have been gaps of up to 9 days that we go without talking and now it's been 2 and a half weeks. I sent him a text and tried calling on Valentines Day and haven't heard from him. I aldo sent him a facebook message asking him to call me and with my number. It's been 2 and a half weeks since I've heard from him at all. Any ideas of what's going on?

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I would definitely move on. I couldn't go more then a day let a alone weeks without contacting the girl I care about. Especially so on Valentines Day. Although the holiday is definitely commercialized, every guy knows that a girl cares about getting a message or a phone call, flowers, or anything really. By him not even attempting to contact you that is a giant red flag waving above your relationship.

 

If I was you I would find someone who isn't "too busy" to even send a short message or email in two and a half weeks. NO ONE is that busy.

Pyro Established Member

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definitely move on. Him not contacting you is more than enough and the fact that he hasn't shows that he never did take the relationship seriously.

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Wow, no I don't agree with what the two posters above have written.

 

He may just be busy. He may have had a death in the family. There are a million reasons why he couldn't have contacted you; it doesn't mean he's intentionally ignoring you.

 

If you feel strongly for this guy, I'd suggest giving the relationship a shot. But also, try dating someone on the side. It hasn't become serious for him and you yet, so therefore you have no ties to each other. I'd keep my options open, but at the same time, don't rule him out completely. He may just surprise you.

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Busy for two and a half weeks? :rolleyes:

 

Would 5 minutes of his time dring a half of month too much to ask?

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Yeah man. No one's that busy.

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If you're too busy for over 2 weeks to contact your girlfriend, something is wrong.

Even if he is that busy that he can not really spend time on you, the very least he could do is send you a message explaining why he is so busy and tell you he'll contact you as soon as he can again.

 

So yeah, doesn't really seem like that great a guy. Better to move to someone more in line with your needs.

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Yeah, Long distance relationship is not for the faint of hearts. I was in several of them. One ended up marrying another guy when the communication stopped? Your always going to be at a disadvantage because someone else close by may come along!

 

So just move on to someone closer:)

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ccleland New Member

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Wow, no I don't agree with what the two posters above have written.

 

He may just be busy. He may have had a death in the family. There are a million reasons why he couldn't have contacted you; it doesn't mean he's intentionally ignoring you.

 

If you feel strongly for this guy, I'd suggest giving the relationship a shot. But also, try dating someone on the side. It hasn't become serious for him and you yet, so therefore you have no ties to each other. I'd keep my options open, but at the same time, don't rule him out completely. He may just surprise you.

Thanks for your help! :)

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ccleland New Member

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If you're too busy for over 2 weeks to contact your girlfriend, something is wrong.

Even if he is that busy that he can not really spend time on you, the very least he could do is send you a message explaining why he is so busy and tell you he'll contact you as soon as he can again.

 

So yeah, doesn't really seem like that great a guy. Better to move to someone more in line with your needs.

 

 

Well he tried to explain but idk...

This is the message my boyfriend sent me 2 weeks ago:

 

f*cking technology is failing hardcore.

I can't send, nor receive text messages on my phone, they had to send it away for repairs and I'm p*ssed about that because I bought an extra warranty for my phone too which I pay per month for. Wtf is this sh*t about. I'm sorry I haven't been able to come online much. I can't even text right now I have a stupid piece of sh*t loaner phone right now with no ones number in it yet. I still have the same number though. I've been working ridiculous hours, my boss only wants two people, the person beside me and me to be doing the inventory so we know it's done right. the other people who did it f*cked up so much sh*t and we're putting in from 6 am till 11 pm every day. I go home sleep and repeat, it's been like that for like 2 weeks now, I'm extremely sorry for not being able to talk with you on here, nor texting.. I miss you. I know the last messages we sent, well you sent were of you saying you were getting mixed messages. Which I can totally understand where you're coming from because I haven't been on much lately. nor talking.. I do apologize for that.

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Well he tried to explain but idk...

This is the message my boyfriend sent me 2 weeks ago:

 

f*cking technology is failing hardcore.

I can't send, nor receive text messages on my phone, they had to send it away for repairs and I'm p*ssed about that because I bought an extra warranty for my phone too which I pay per month for. Wtf is this sh*t about. I'm sorry I haven't been able to come online much. I can't even text right now I have a stupid piece of sh*t loaner phone right now with no ones number in it yet. I still have the same number though. I've been working ridiculous hours, my boss only wants two people, the person beside me and me to be doing the inventory so we know it's done right. the other people who did it f*cked up so much sh*t and we're putting in from 6 am till 11 pm every day. I go home sleep and repeat, it's been like that for like 2 weeks now, I'm extremely sorry for not being able to talk with you on here, nor texting.. I miss you. I know the last messages we sent, well you sent were of you saying you were getting mixed messages. Which I can totally understand where you're coming from because I haven't been on much lately. nor talking.. I do apologize for that.

 

BlahBlahBlah...He might be seeing someone else and keeping you interested just in case? So you should move on and start dating! Don't waste any more time with this weezal!

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