memorythief Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 okay..heads up!! first, i'm not here to listen to you personal judgment or be judged in anyway. so having said this... about 3 months ago i put an ad up on craigslist..i have before with the usual bot responses wanting me to join a website so we could chat. or flakey real people that would never follow through. i got a response from a spectacular young lady. we chatted, texted, and we have been in the most passionate, fulfilling, mutually perfect relationship since..i'm a writer and have been writing love poetry and prose since my first heart break at 18 (remember that number, lol) and in my heart of hearts she's everything i've ever wanted. i compliment her as well..she says i'm the best lover she's ever had. (never a milligram of viagra here) we practically read each others minds. when we're together time just flies like never before, when we apart we can't wait till we're together again. oh well..here it is, i'm 53 she's 24. i know, it's probably not going to end well. hearts are going to get broken. i know the psychology and psychopathology of this type relationship so don't go there. our families aren't thrilled..of course. but i'm 4 years older than her father so he has to respect his elders. omg i am in love with her and i know she's in love with me. we haven't said the words yet, but we've both hinted at it..like 831 in a text and "love ya" on the phone. i don't know what i want you good people to say or hear? your personal experiences ?? IDK
Knittress Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 My opinion... if you were so totally cool with the idea you wouldn't be seeking validation from a roomful of anonymous strangers, but... ::shrug::
Author memorythief Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 My opinion... if you were so totally cool with the idea you wouldn't be seeking validation from a roomful of anonymous strangers, but... ::shrug:: i am totally okay with it..i know she is too. we're going away for a quick weekender to vegas friday and i am going to tell her i'm in love with her..i know women like to hear it first. but your right, i need to turn my computer off and figure oout now why i was "seeking validation from a roomful of anonymous strangers" shrug is right..my poor head lol
SmileFace Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Wait , have you guys met in person yet? It's early and I didn't catch that in your post.
Cee Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I suggest that you live in the moment and enjoy the relationship for what it is. There's no need to push things with a declaration of love too early. Start with telling her you care about her and see if she reciprocates. I'm in a relationship with a man who is 17 years younger and I know that it will likely end in heart break. However, most relationships end that way anyway, even without an age difference. For the moment he and I are happy and that's all that matters.
Author memorythief Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 i am totally okay with it..i know she is too. we're going away for a quick weekender to vegas friday and i am going to tell her i'm in love with her..i know women like to hear it first. but your right, i need to turn my computer off and figure oout now why i was "seeking validation from a roomful of anonymous strangers" shrug is right..my poor head lol yes .. been together @ 3 months, we get together 1 night a week and usually spend the weekends either at my place or hers
Author memorythief Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 I suggest that you live in the moment and enjoy the relationship for what it is. There's no need to push things with a declaration of love too early. Start with telling her you care about her and see if she reciprocates. I'm in a relationship with a man who is 17 years younger and I know that it will likely end in heart break. However, most relationships end that way anyway, even without an age difference. For the moment he and I are happy and that's all that matters. good advise .. i loved to sabotage past relationships with the 'way to early' "l love you" thanks
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 oh well..here it is, i'm 53 she's 24. And you're "a little younger than she is"? I'm confuzzled.
Author memorythief Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 damn..how can i edit that to read "i'm a little older than she is?" haha
Author memorythief Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 okay..heads up!! first, i'm not here to listen to you personal judgment or be judged in anyway. so having said this... about 3 months ago i put an ad up on craigslist..i have before with the usual bot responses wanting me to join a website so we could chat. or flakey real people that would never follow through. i got a response from a spectacular young lady. we chatted, texted, and we have been in the most passionate, fulfilling, mutually perfect relationship since..i'm a writer and have been writing love poetry and prose since my first heart break at 18 (remember that number, lol) and in my heart of hearts she's everything i've ever wanted. i compliment her as well..she says i'm the best lover she's ever had. (never a milligram of viagra here) we practically read each others minds. when we're together time just flies like never before, when we apart we can't wait till we're together again. oh well..here it is, i'm 53 she's 24. i know, it's probably not going to end well. hearts are going to get broken. i know the psychology and psychopathology of this type relationship so don't go there. our families aren't thrilled..of course. but i'm 4 years older than her father so he has to respect his elders. omg i am in love with her and i know she's in love with me. we haven't said the words yet, but we've both hinted at it..like 831 in a text and "love ya" on the phone. i don't know what i want you good people to say or hear? your personal experiences ?? IDK i apologize, i'm 53 she's 24 sorry
Intricategirl Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Dan Savage, a well-respected sex columnist, wrote about the "campsite rule" for people with large age gaps. Truth be told, I try to live my relationships this way, even if we had been born on the same day in the same year. Campsite rule: Leave it better than you found it. That is, no diseases, no fertilized eggs, no emotional trauma, and whatever education can be provided. In other words, have the kind of relationship where she can sit and talk about it with her friends with a smile, and when they object to your age, she'll answer, "It wasn't a big deal. He treated me right." I swear to god, if everyone followed that rule, this board would not exist.
Author memorythief Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 Dan Savage, a well-respected sex columnist, wrote about the "campsite rule" for people with large age gaps. Truth be told, I try to live my relationships this way, even if we had been born on the same day in the same year. Campsite rule: Leave it better than you found it. That is, no diseases, no fertilized eggs, no emotional trauma, and whatever education can be provided. In other words, have the kind of relationship where she can sit and talk about it with her friends with a smile, and when they object to your age, she'll answer, "It wasn't a big deal. He treated me right." I swear to god, if everyone followed that rule, this board would not exist. that rule is the new black fosho..i love it thank you
Imajerk17 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Wait... I thought you said in your title that you were *younger* than she is.
Cee Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I avidly read Savage Love, but never heard of the "campsite rule." I love that.
Intricategirl Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I avidly read Savage Love, but never heard of the "campsite rule." I love that. Dan Savage is da man. I think that's my most superficial deal-breaker (but also the easiest one to correct). "Do you read Dan Savage? Are you willing to? Sorry, I think we're done here." lol
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