PhillyDude Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I'm noticing a trend now when it comes to meeting someone online. Most women would rather text or chat on IM but have no interest in talking on the phone. How the hell am I supposed to established a connection with someone over text? This girl i went on a frst date with said she only likes to text or talk face to face. Well that sounds DUMB because how oten am I going to see her face to face? So i haven't set up a second date yet because I just been annoyed with all this texting. She has responded to every one of my texts but I just wish she was a person who could talk on the phone atleast once a week. Same ole story, the girls I find ttractive like to text and the ones who I have no interest in just looove the phone. Online dating was so much better before 2005
AverageJoe Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I have noticed this recently as well. I don't mind the random txt from time to time. But when a txt turns the curve of a full blown conversation I am done. Basically, you don't put up with it. Why give into a whim of some girl that says she only txt's. You tell her you want more than a robotic txt and if that is unacceptable for her then she is no longer in the cards. Why put up with trivial antics like that?
Author PhillyDude Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 I have noticed this recently as well. I don't mind the random txt from time to time. But when a txt turns the curve of a full blown conversation I am done. Basically, you don't put up with it. Why give into a whim of some girl that says she only txt's. You tell her you want more than a robotic txt and if that is unacceptable for her then she is no longer in the cards. Why put up with trivial antics like that? Well I kind of been on the fence because she is the only girl I'm talking to who I'm attracted to. I received another reply last night from another girl who is on her leve physically and gave her my number last night but I haven't heard from her all day. So right now I just text her once a day until someone else comes along.
AverageJoe Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Well I kind of been on the fence because she is the only girl I'm talking to who I'm attracted to. I received another reply last night from another girl who is on her leve physically and gave her my number last night but I haven't heard from her all day. So right now I just text her once a day until someone else comes along. Great. Talk up the other girl too. Just don't creep into the mindset of "this is the best I will ever do" with one single girl you find attractive that has no social skills.
carhill Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Does the number provided only link to a text device? My cell phone does both, but I rarely use the text function. Same number for both. Call her. If she ignores it, ignore her. Erased. Texting, for some people, has two advantages: First, it's impersonal, just electrons in the air and pixels on a screen. Second, they have time to formulate responses and think about them. If one can't speak, due to circumstances, it's easy to text back 'I'll call you in a bit' and then do that. I, too, have met such women in my age group. My response? 'Call me' (or I call them). If no joy, next.
Woggle Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Texting is as addictive as crack for some people. I am not one of those people but some people can't enough of it. I don't think is just a woman thing because the other day I saw two guys sitting across from each other at a Taco Bell and they were texting back and forth.
carhill Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Yep, very equal opportunity. If I had a nickel for every man banging away on his Crackberry as we blast down the runway....
Mrlonelyone Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 It's a generational thing. To some people texting them is more personal than a phone call. I have a hypothesis for why....phone calls are often from people we don't know very well. Text are always from people we know personally. If I get a phone call it could just as likely be a bill collector, or telemarketer, or wrong number, as someone I really want to know. While the text on the other hand is always 100% of the time from someone I know. A similar thing goes for email Vs Facebook. A persons email is less personal than their FB because FB only has people we know....while email could be from just anybody and most of the time is spam.
carhill Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 IDK, I see a lot of people of both sexes of my generation (50's) addicted to their Crackberries. I remember one time, at a friend's beach house, he actually took the Crackberry away from his wife as she was texting while we were all carrying on a conversation. She would talk and then swing back to the texts. She's 60. Oh, another thought.....for women, it could be like an unending romance novel. What is the guy going to type next? OOH, naughty
january2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 If we've not met in person, I don't mind IM or email, though preferably not multiple emails in a short space of time and only IMing when it's convenient, otherwise it's a distraction. If we've met in person, I prefer the phone. But I abhor the to-ing and fro-ing of mobile text-message conversations within a very short space of time.
Author PhillyDude Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 I'm not a fan of the year of 2011. People didn't do things like this in 1989
Woggle Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I'm not a fan of the year of 2011. People didn't do things like this in 1989 This makes me feel very old that I remember when we didn't have these things. This is what people back in the 50s must have felt like when color tv came out. When I was a teenage you had it made if you had the internet.
Cee Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 The texting and IM thing is a bit out of hand, especially with online dating. I don't think I had many phone calls while doing it. It's pretty time consuming, especially IM because I'd end up stuck on my computer for a long time. In my current relationship who I met at an event, he called me to set up our first date. When I saw his name on my phone, I told my roommate, "The strangest thing happened in the world of dating - I got a phone call." I personally wouldn't want to go back to 1989 dating. That's when I had a phone and no answering machine. I did that horrible practice that is now antiquated, "waiting for the phone to ring."
Duckduckgoose Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Eh... I've gotten guys #s and they ask me to text them. I really hate that ****. I actually don't like texting back and forth very much, it gets on my nerves. Either call, or email.
singlelife Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I get that a lot too. Women are hooked on texting. You can't really get to know a person like that. I had a girl not pick up when I called but texted me back and we texted for like an hr. Weird. It's just how it is. I took it at first as she wasn't interested. But obviously she is.
NoMagicBullet Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I'm female, and I couldn't care less about texting, IM, chat or even talking on the phone. Actually, I've never enjoyed talking on the phone, even with people I know well. I think it's because I'm visual and don't absorb information well via audio. I'd rather talk face-to-face with someone, and after that, e-mail. Phone convo is sometimes better for catching up w/ friends & family. Text is okay if it's useful -- I hate "small talk" texting like "how r u".
blind_otter Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Online dating was so much better before 2005 Lawls, that was the last time I did that sort of thing with any seriousness. But I agree with NMB above, I don't particularly like talking on the phone. I mean, I do it when I have to and I am good at it when I have to, but it all seems a little insincere and sort of like acting. No. Marketing. Like: here is the PG version of my XXX throw down, kwim? So many edits. To the point that lots of valuable content just gets lost. I don't accept texts, either. I'm eeeewld-fashioned.
blackmagik Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I think texting can be very productive. I like it especially because it lets me talk to my new g/f while I am still at work without the hassle of a phone call or whatever. It also lets me respond when I have the time and not pause my life to talk on the phone. Emails are bad either they just take longer to respond. I do however enjoy the phone conversations for the fact that the responses don't seem planned or reread over and over to make sure everything is perfect.
Author PhillyDude Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 I'm female, and I couldn't care less about texting, IM, chat or even talking on the phone. Actually, I've never enjoyed talking on the phone, even with people I know well. I think it's because I'm visual and don't absorb information well via audio. I'd rather talk face-to-face with someone, and after that, e-mail. Phone convo is sometimes better for catching up w/ friends & family. Text is okay if it's useful -- I hate "small talk" texting like "how r u". But if you meet a guy how often will you see him face to face? Unless you plan on moving in with him-lol
East7 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 IME, texting/IM has 2 major disadvantages : 1. It is an interest-killer : when you're dating someone and you are ok with texting/IM you are reachable 24/7 and that doesn't incite the other person to meet and talk face to face. IME if a woman refuse to call or meet and prefer IM, most of the time = low interest. 2. It is VERY time-consuming. It takes x2, x4 more time to do the same conversation on IM rather than on phone or face to face.
SingVoice Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Even though I do like texting...(people I KNOW in REAL life)...in a lot of ways...it just adds more complication to dating. I mean...if you let yourself you can sit there and go crazy thinking "why hasn't he texted me back?!?!" or "ugh it took him 4 hours to return my text!!!" It can make you crazy. I don't mind a couple of texts in the beginning. Mostly because I won't answer my phone if I don't know the number. But you ABSOLUTELY have to have a phone conversation before you date someone. And while a few texts during the day are sweet....there has to be actual talking into a phone also! Plus y'all know that texts can get TOTALLY misinterpreted!!!
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