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I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months now, not long and i'm already doubting this relationship. I'm Struggling!

 

This is a long distance relationship, that started off long distance (we met at freshers week when i was visiting some uni mates, one of which he knows). There was never really the 'excitement' and passion that drove us together, more just mutual attraction and instant friendship.

 

He lives about 2.5 hours drive from me, not that far, and so far we've found time to visit each other every 2-3 weeks, which has been great! :)

 

However..I have recently become full time at work, and get two days off per week, but never two days off together, which makes me visiting him a little difficult, (i go by train, which takes nearly 4 hours). I asked him today if he'd want to visit me for my next day off, and he said yes, but i'd have to ask really nicely to make him drive 2.5 hours just to see me. *JUST, to see me..!?* I'm thinking he should WANT to drive down. We haven't seen each other for 2 weeks, and if I don't see him this weekend, it'll be another 3 weeks before we get to see each other again, for various unavoidable reasons. Surely 'seeing his girlfriend' is a good enough reason to drive that distance for two nights and a day together?

 

Am i being unreasonable or 'high maintenance' here?

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Are you sure it's not just a joke?

 

This was my initial thought too.

 

How did you have the discussion about it? Was it over the phone, or through text, MSN, etc? I find when we can't actually see them, and it's all just written, we tend to overanalyse what they've said and taken it in a much harsher way than what was intended. I would just assume it's a joke.

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Sounds like he's just joking around. While I didn't hear the conversation, you seem much more focused and he seems much more laid back.

 

Lighten up a little. He'll come down. If he doesn't, reevaluate whether you really want to continue.

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