NewGirlInTown Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 (edited) Hi every1, I'm new here and hope u could help me :/ My bf deleted me from his facebook. He considers me a stalker as i always update myself with what's happening on his wall or any post he shares and read any comments he writes to any1.. Most of the time when he is online on fb, I talk to him.. and most of the time he is playing a fullscreen fb game so he doesnt reply instantly so i think at that time that he is ignoring me and we start to argue.. We have been arguing alot because of fb lately.. -sometimes i get jealous when he comments on a girl's photo saying she is hot for example and we argue.. -othertimes when i call him and he doesnt answer and i find him idle on fb, i talk to him and he doesnt reply, i then think he is playing a fb game or something and keep arguing that the game is more important to him than me then i find out he was taking a shower or was busy with his dad, i then feel ridiculous about myself. -once he was telling me he has been out of home like 3 hours ago and i told him how come when u had changed ur status like 2 hours ago? (he didnt mean to lie, he was just asuming how long ago he was out when i called him on his mobile phone) when i said so he told me that this is too much and that he can't take it anymore. He believes that not having eachother on fb is the best thing to do. While i cant bare not having my bf on my fb. I love seeing what he is up to.. the pictures he uploads, things he says to his friends. facebook is all about sharing and it makes me feel closer to him as he is living in another city and we meet like once every week and sometime once every 2 weeks. What should i do to convince him to have me bk on his fb? He is so stubborn.. Edited February 21, 2011 by NewGirlInTown
glimmer Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Man this really sucks because you already lost your credibility by being so obsessive. I kinda don't blame him! Sorry, just being honest here. Just put facebook out of your mind for a while and simply work on your own relationship with him rather than looking at his relationship with others so closely.
mustofbeen Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 if i was him i'd delete you from my life too, you've lots issues, argument over fb?????????????? grow up
Space Ritual Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Hi every1, I'm new here and hope u could help me :/ My bf deleted me from his facebook. He considers me a stalker as i always update myself with what's happening on his wall or any post he shares and read any comments he writes to any1.. Most of the time when he is online on fb, I talk to him.. and most of the time he is playing a fullscreen fb game so he doesnt reply instantly so i think at that time that he is ignoring me and we start to argue.. We have been arguing alot because of fb lately.. -sometimes i get jealous when he comments on a girl's photo saying she is hot for example and we argue.. -othertimes when i call him and he doesnt answer and i find him idle on fb, i talk to him and he doesnt reply, i then think he is playing a fb game or something and keep arguing that the game is more important to him than me then i find out he was taking a shower or was busy with his dad, i then feel ridiculous about myself. -once he was telling me he has been out of home like 3 hours ago and i told him how come when u had changed ur status like 2 hours ago? (he didnt mean to lie, he was just asuming how long ago he was out when i called him on his mobile phone) when i said so he told me that this is too much and that he can't take it anymore. He believes that not having eachother on fb is the best thing to do. While i cant bare not having my bf on my fb. I love seeing what he is up to.. the pictures he uploads, things he says to his friends. facebook is all about sharing and it makes me feel closer to him as he is living in another city and we meet like once every week and sometime once every 2 weeks. What should i do to convince him to have me bk on his fb? He is so stubborn.. Young Lady, Facebook is a place where persons rise to their level of emotional and intellectual incompetence. Sadly even the most seemingly stable people prove this day in and day out. Please understand that you are not the firs, nor the last that this will happen to. The goal of many people on Facebook and other social networking sites is to flirt in order to get their ego stroked because they live truly dull lives, and refuse to admit it. It is a 500 million person popularity contest and virtually every person who has a page there falls for it to some extent. That being said, I am afraid that you really don't have much of a relationship with this guy. He is going to flirt whether you like it or not, lie to you whether you like it or not. That is what people do...ALL THE TIME. I would ask your to simply attempt to devote your valuable time to other pursuits than Facebook. That craphole is a relationship killer enough as it is... Go date somebody in your own city
Author NewGirlInTown Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 Young Lady, Facebook is a place where persons rise to their level of emotional and intellectual incompetence. Sadly even the most seemingly stable people prove this day in and day out. Please understand that you are not the firs, nor the last that this will happen to. The goal of many people on Facebook and other social networking sites is to flirt in order to get their ego stroked because they live truly dull lives, and refuse to admit it. It is a 500 million person popularity contest and virtually every person who has a page there falls for it to some extent. That being said, I am afraid that you really don't have much of a relationship with this guy. He is going to flirt whether you like it or not, lie to you whether you like it or not. That is what people do...ALL THE TIME. I would ask your to simply attempt to devote your valuable time to other pursuits than Facebook. That craphole is a relationship killer enough as it is... Go date somebody in your own city I agree with your words to a gr8 extend.. really thanks for helping. I know that fb ruins relationships.. but if it happened it would be my fault. coz i am the one stalking him all the time.. he doesnt really care that much about his fb. he doesnt download new pics except like once a month or 2, sometimes 3. he used to live in my city but he is temporarily in another 1. he will be back after a month. We have been together for 2 years and i believe he is my soul mate and the love of my life. I love him so much but it's just abnormal not to have him on my fb. I planned on changing my attitude but i just dont know how to convince him to have me bk on his fb. common friends started to ask me if there was something wrong between us. others already assumed we broke up :/
wbr4p Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 hey girl..i am surprised nobody seemed to really read what u did write. your bf is way out of line posting on other girls pics saying they are "HOT", i dont think thats approrpiate. i dont think he'd like it if u do the same and claim other guys as hot, u'd be quickly labeled as a slut while if a guy does it hes just being a guy. if ur suffering too mcuh then maybe its time to go, as we can see hes not the type who puts value in his relationship, doesnt even bother making u feel secure. there is also a thin line of being crazy jealous or being jealous w/ a reason, just think before u speak but dont ignore ur gut feelings either.
Woman In Blue Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Oh FFS. Why do people continually act as though Facebook is some kind of GAUGE as to how their life is progressing? How utterly lame, juvenile, and just plain ignorant. I don't know what grade you two kids are in, but once you're all grown up, you'll see how utterly ridiculous all this childishness nonsense really was. You're asking a bunch of adults to comment on childish, insignificant silliness between two kids - one who plays games on Facebook all day and makes junvenile comments such as, "wow, you're like totally hot!" on other girl's profiles, and the other spending her whole day on Facebook wondering what her silly little boyfriend is doing. God, my head is ready to explode.
PegNosePete Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Oh FFS. Why do people continually act as though Facebook is some kind of GAUGE as to how their life is progressing? How utterly lame, juvenile, and just plain ignorant. I don't know what grade you two kids are in, but once you're all grown up, you'll see how utterly ridiculous all this childishness nonsense really was. You're asking a bunch of adults to comment on childish, insignificant silliness between two kids - one who plays games on Facebook all day and makes junvenile comments such as, "wow, you're like totally hot!" on other girl's profiles, and the other spending her whole day on Facebook wondering what her silly little boyfriend is doing. God, my head is ready to explode. PegNosePete likes this.
jusdeena Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 hey i noticed that your not getting very positive replies so im hoping that i can change that. im probably gonna sound really stupid now but i had a weird experience on fb too. it wasnt the same as yours but it was a bad experience from my boyfriend. he would always flirt with girls in messages and talk to girls all the time on wall to wall conversations. he wud comment on the same girls' statuses and it wud really annoy me. it came to a stage where i cudnt take the relationship anymore because i was forever checking up on him and when he didnt reply to me, i wud feel very insecure due to the amount of activities he had been up to on his wall. most of the time when he didnt reply, he had a very good reason (whether he lied or not is another topic) but as for the flirting with girls, it continued. i told him that in order for us to be together, he wud have to deactivate facebook which sounds stupid but its been around 4 months now without it and we havent argued at all which is a HUGE improvement for us. we used to argue daily. maybe if you both had a break from facebook it might help but it depends how long you have been dating in order to ask him to do this and also how much he is prepared to do for you to feel better about the relationship. i hope ive helped, this is my first ever reply (i joined today lol)
jusdeena Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Oh FFS. Why do people continually act as though Facebook is some kind of GAUGE as to how their life is progressing? How utterly lame, juvenile, and just plain ignorant. I don't know what grade you two kids are in, but once you're all grown up, you'll see how utterly ridiculous all this childishness nonsense really was. You're asking a bunch of adults to comment on childish, insignificant silliness between two kids - one who plays games on Facebook all day and makes junvenile comments such as, "wow, you're like totally hot!" on other girl's profiles, and the other spending her whole day on Facebook wondering what her silly little boyfriend is doing. God, my head is ready to explode. 'woman in blue' you talk about this being 'lame, juvenile, and just plain ignorant' when in fact, so is your comment. why dont YOU grow up and realise that everyone has problems no matter how big or small and if your gonna comment on someones post then at least positively help them instead of making them feel worse about themselves. obviously this post was made because it was a real dilemma for them and you are not helping matters so take your immaturity elsewhere.
betterdeal Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Do something you enjoy rather than stalking this guy who's doing what he likes to do.
eleanorhurting Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 Maybe its time you get off facebook? and also re-evaluate if you want to be in a relationship with someone who writes "hot" on other girls pictures... But seriously consider getting off facebook!
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