ayjt80 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 i broke up a couple months ago, and i was completely devistated over it but im doing ok now. From the start of my relationship i told her i was interested in her and she said she liked me too. She even talked kids and how i would feel about marriage. than out of the blue she said that shes not ready for a relationship and she always viewed me as just a friend and she doesnt want me to get hurt, and im the last person she would want to hurt. Then she said she still wanted to talk to me. I work for the same company as her so I see her. When i do see her she acts like i have a disease or something yet shes always smiling at me. there is just so many inconsistancies in what she said and how she broke up with me. She does have some baggage but thankfully she was able to overcome alot of it but i think the scars are still there from her past. how should i read this. Im debating if i should go NC or not.
Jdw_Icequeen Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Sounds to me she isn't telling you the real reason and handed you a bag full of excuses. I would say you should probably just do NC at this point even that sounds rather difficult since you work with her. Be respecful and polite and do your best to be indiffrent about the situation.. Don't let her drag you into conversation. The best way to do that if she ever does talk to you keep it short and tell her your busy and get away from her as fast as possible. It won't be easy in your situation... Good Luck
Author ayjt80 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 I agree she didnt tell me the real reason. I wish she had though. i would much rather had the truth than excuses.
deadhead88 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 (edited) A similar thing happened with my ex. She broke up with me 6 months ago out of the blue after over a year together, because she wanted to move when she graduates college this year. She wanted to move to accomplish goals and dreams in her life. She also stated numerous times that she still loved me and that it had nothing to do with her feelings towards me. She also said tat if she was going to be with anyone, it would be me but she wants to move. After we broke up I of course was shocked and hurt like no other. We had made plans to live together after college and other things for the future. Once we broke up she would tell me how much she missed me and how lonely she was. I kept low contact with her because i thought she still loved me and I would take any crumbs she would offer me. I finally go no contact. I find out a month ago that she has been seeing this guy since about october. So basically all her reasons for dumping me and everything she told me after the breakup was total bs. She lied to me for her own selfish reasons so that she could still look like a good person. Now I have to work on getting over this intense feeling of betrayal and lack of respect. I also have to get over this anger and bitterness I now have for her. At the moment, I hate her for not being honest with me and making me hold onto something that was never there in the first place. Edited February 21, 2011 by deadhead88
depplover_1980 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Ayjt and Deadhead, both your ex's aren't even worth bothering about, try not to waste your energy and put it to positive use somewhere else. Liars are liars, disappointing but don't let them ruin your life.
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