gkaplan000 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Hi, So it was my birthday over the weekend end. My wife decided instead of buying me something she wanted to have sex with me Friday and Saturday night instead. She says that she doesn't want to confuse me about our separation and that she isn't ready to end the separation yet. I just don't know why she would do that if we are still separated. Any thoughts?? We are 2.5 weeks into our separation even though we live in the same house. We sleep in separate rooms and are going to MC. We have seen a MC twice in the last two weeks.
ShatteredReality Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 My wife decided instead of buying me something she wanted to have sex with me Friday and Saturday night instead. Cheaper than a gift and she gets something out of it too?? LOL...I'm sorry...just the first thing that popped into my head...and honestly I didn't mean it as a joke, though it might sound like one and kinda makes me chuckle at the thought. Or...maybe she's warming up to you but isn't really ready to admit it yet? Either way - don't get your hopes up just yet. Enjoy the fact that you got some twice over the weekend and don't read too much into it. If you get some more this weekend, let us know and we'll start talking about what it means...cause the birthday excuse was only enough to cover last weekend...
starting2wakeup Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Sex with a separated spouse is both a blessing and curse. It's great in the moment, but it leaves your mind all messed up. ShatteredReality is right, I would not read much into it. I got a little something something from my W on Christmas morning after a few months of not so much as a kiss. Here it is almost two months later and we have yet to "connect" in that way again. If she keeps coming up with reasons for getting in your pants (it's your birthday, it's a holiday, it's Tuesday), then something may be going on and I'd say post about it so LS can weigh in.
marqueemoon4 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I could really go for some sex with my separated spouse. unfortunately she is busy with her rebound.
What_Next Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 (edited) That is a confusing, difficult situation. In fact it is nearly impossible. I've been there. When my wife did the same thing to me at the time to say it threw me for a loop was the understatement of the century. Set boundaries, don't let her dictate the terms. Decided what will and won't go on. Sex during seperation leads to confusion for BOTH parties. Edited February 22, 2011 by What_Next
Author gkaplan000 Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 So monday I find out the she was thinking about sleeping with an exboyfriend since she is horny. I confronted her on it and we both agreed that we would help each other with our sexual needs through what we are going through. She also promised to never contact him again and she really didn't think she could cheat anyways. She says she didn't know if her having an orgasm with me would confuse me. I tell her I would rather be a bit confused now then have you commit adultery. Needless to say we had great sex that night and she had multiple orgasms. We even had sex again last night, she didn't want to have sex but she said that she wanted to see me happy. She still wants this separation and is not sure when she is ready to end it but I am taking it day by day.
KineticsEng Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 So monday I find out the she was thinking about sleeping with an exboyfriend since she is horny. I confronted her on it and we both agreed that we would help each other with our sexual needs through what we are going through. She also promised to never contact him again and she really didn't think she could cheat anyways. She says she didn't know if her having an orgasm with me would confuse me. I tell her I would rather be a bit confused now then have you commit adultery. Needless to say we had great sex that night and she had multiple orgasms. We even had sex again last night, she didn't want to have sex but she said that she wanted to see me happy. She still wants this separation and is not sure when she is ready to end it but I am taking it day by day. If my marriage had had that kind of connection then I wouldn't be very close to calling it quits. I hope yours works out for you.
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