irc333 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 ...I have been...on a few occasions. The reason I know this was, well, one told me this. With me, this usually has to do with my sense of humor, if if my sense of humor clicks with another woman's, this could be seen as a threat to an unfunny guy or a guy with not the same brand of humor. I was out at a party with a group of people at a house. There was this engaged couple sitting together, and me and her were bouncing jokes off each other back and forth, we almost had beverage come out our noses. The boyfriend was kind of put off by it because he, well, didn't think the jokes were funny and also, well, apparently he doesn't have the same brand of humor as me and her. She actually told me that her fiance' actually thought she was going to lose her to me, LOL. I had another situation at another gathering, similar scenario, and you can tell by the awkward silence or look in the boyfriends face (in this case, they just started dating). Anyone ever have this situation occur? Ever been seen as a threat to someone else's mate? Even though it's completely harmless?
sally4sara Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 ...I have been...on a few occasions. The reason I know this was, well, one told me this. With me, this usually has to do with my sense of humor, if if my sense of humor clicks with another woman's, this could be seen as a threat to an unfunny guy or a guy with not the same brand of humor. I was out at a party with a group of people at a house. There was this engaged couple sitting together, and me and her were bouncing jokes off each other back and forth, we almost had beverage come out our noses. The boyfriend was kind of put off by it because he, well, didn't think the jokes were funny and also, well, apparently he doesn't have the same brand of humor as me and her. She actually told me that her fiance' actually thought she was going to lose her to me, LOL. I had another situation at another gathering, similar scenario, and you can tell by the awkward silence or look in the boyfriends face (in this case, they just started dating). Anyone ever have this situation occur? Ever been seen as a threat to someone else's mate? Even though it's completely harmless? Doomed marriage in the making. What she did there was continue joking with you and used her fiance as the punchline. His insecurities should not be the fodder she uses to amuse others. You ARE a threat because she will let you be one and he knows it. I hope he backs out before they get hitched.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Yes. One of my good friends in college. Then, one night when he disappeared and no one could find him. Me and her got drunk and smoked weed. Next thing I know she was sucking my di_k better than it had ever been sucked before...or since. I was so out of it high that I didn't resist. So boyfriends are not always overreacting. It may not be that he fears you'll try something....but that she will.
Author irc333 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 Yeah chances are, if another man's woman sees you clickin' pretty well with a guy, and he's somewhat concerned....well....it gets awkward.
utterer of lies Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Ever been seen as a threat to the boyfriend/girlfriend? Well, yes. But I was having an affair with this guy's wife at the time, so it was kind of justified.
Mz. Pixie Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Lots of times-even when I wasn't trying to be at all.
phineas Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 It happened once when I went to happy hour with a few women from work. The one who had a boyfriend didn't want her going without him because of me. But he was kinda controlling so I don't know. But, you know what? I'm so not into women that are taken. Why? because if she's the type to monkey branch to me, she'll monkey branch from me. If she'd cheat on me with her boyfriend then she's probably done it with other guys also. Yuk. Now i have had a lot of orbiter's view me as a threat. Which seems to work in my advantage because they start acting possessive around the woman & I just go do my own thing & it just drove the chick to me because he was smothering her, trying to put his arm around her. (mark his territory) and it was just funny to see.
Cee Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Once a friend told me his ex GF was jealous of me. I didn't notice it at the time, but in retrospect it was strange we didn't click. She was a negative person so I think any upbeat woman would have threatened her. I make it a point to befriend my male friend's girlfriends. I am careful to joke around with the woman as well as the guy. I don't want any drama with women and I want them to like me. There was one time a good friend married a woman who was hated by and hated all his friends. We discovered how much we hated her when she was a Bridezilla at their wedding. She didn't say a pleasant thing that entire weekend. All of us kept mum about it and when he divorced her 15 years later, everybody breathed a sigh of relief, including my friend.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 It happens alot. Sometimes no words are exchanged at all, the guy will catch his GF and I make eye contact, I'll disengage but she'll keep looking next thing I know her man is giving me the stank eye. Won't even go into if I know the woman on an acquaintance/friendly basis. But most of the time I'm just being polite to her approaches. Yeah the boyfriends are being a bit insecure, but I don't blame them. Most of these women would cheat on with/ leave their boyfriend for me, and that much is made obvious by her. Their boyfriends probably can pick up on it. This is common when you see a physically attractive woman with a not so attractive guy, the boyfriend knows she's out of his league. So when she's around men of her caliber (physique wise) he can sense her second guessing. And so can I, body language says a lot. This one guy actually deleted me from his GF's facebook friend list. I laugh but it sucks really, to be that guy. I would know, I used to be the same way until I stopped caring, and got in shape. It's not hard to spot when a woman wants your attention. Women like to put themselves in your field of view, find any reason to be around you or in your line of sight, ask you a random question, constantly preening themselves, re-ponytailing their hair in a dramatic fashion, find a reason to turn around for another attempt at eye contact. Once you're able to pick up on their subtle hints, the power in the dating game, you'll realize, is actually in your hands. This is why I always recommend the gym to men with women problems. It will change your life, in more ways than just success with women. To be attractive really is powerful. You walk into a crowded and noisy hallway with a wife beater on, everyone goes silent for a couple seconds and most eyes are on you, that's power. Well, think I've rambled on enough lol.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 It's not hard to spot when a woman wants your attention. Women like to put themselves in your field of view, find any reason to be around you or in your line of sight, ask you a random question, constantly preening themselves, re-ponytailing their hair in a dramatic fashion, find a reason to turn around for another attempt at eye contact. Once you're able to pick up on their subtle hints, the power in the dating game, you'll realize, is actually in your hands. This is why I always recommend the gym to men with women problems. It will change your life, in more ways than just success with women. If only guys like waynebrady would understand that. They would see that their probably are women very interested in them all around. Even if they may not just strip buck naked at hello...they at least want to flirt a little. @ whoever cares to answer. Since I have taken to defending the "nice guys" it seems that some people think I am such a person. Does screwing my best friends woman change that forever?
Author irc333 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 This one guy actually deleted me from his GF's facebook friend list. I laugh but it sucks really, to be that guy. I would know, I used to be the same way until I stopped caring, and got in shape. Oh MAN, you too? But it happened to me the other way around, I was really good friends with a rather attractive woman, the reason we kind of connected, was because she was new to our group, and I suppose I was the first person she enjoyed being in the company with at BBQ's or other events through Facebook invites to other peoples homes. Apparently, she was newly single, and was new to the group, and the first person she made friends with was me. lol. So at quite a few meetups, I'd be grabbing something to eat and sitting down somewhere, then she'd arrive later and see me , get some food, and simply join me....mainly because I was the only person she knew well....it was all bout familiarity. She was rather shy actually and have beautiful eyes...she had this really nice summer dress on at the event. I eventually added her to my FB, and when I saw her in that dress in one of her FB pics...I remarked how that was my favorite, and she thanked me. I never made a move, because she was a Veterinarian, a doctor, and I think she was kind of into the upper class type of crowd I suppose. She was dating other guys, and then one day she removes me from her FB friends list, I email her asking her why, and she said, "Well, one of the guys I'm dating doesn't really like the idea of you being my friend on FB, nothing personal." I thought that was kinda crappy, and I let her know that, but not in a vulgar manner. When I would see her at events, I would kinda snub her for doing what she did, actually CARING and doing what her flavor of the month asked her to? (Yeah, she's no longer with the guy). I think , after she started making more and new friends, she pushed me out of her list of FB friends.
tami-chan Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Ever been seen as a threat to the boyfriend/girlfriend? Often. Many of my colleagues are males and some of the wives are homemakers(This is not a dig on homemakers-but I find that when a wife has a career going for herself,she seems less interested in the personal life of her husband's single female colleague). Anyway, I usually meet them at social functions. The first reaction is usually how young I am...(I am not, I just look it ) then the next is "Is she married? (I don't wear a ring on my ring fingers). And so on and so forth. Some would actually ask me why I am single!!!!!!! The disturbing thing about this is, they don't seem to take into account that their husbands are...er...nothing to look at. I have since decided never to attend a social function alone.
blackmagik Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 To be attractive really is powerful. You walk into a crowded and noisy hallway with a wife beater on, everyone goes silent for a couple seconds and most eyes are on you, that's power. Well, think I've rambled on enough lol. I don't think that it is necessary being attractive. I am not the very best looking, I would say pretty average. However, I have a ton of confidence and I wear and own it. People see this and just know that I am a very confident and that is what they notice. This can also be seen as a threat to other men when you talk to their ladies, even when its just harmless chit chat.
Questionis Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 This is why I avoid couples and parties like the plague. I don't think there is much you can do about this though. You can't rid everyone of their insecurities in one swoop...
daphne Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I've lost more guy friends to new gf's than I can possibly count. Even though these guys and I were never anything romantic, once the girls find out about me they give me the boot. Even though I would never cheat or condone it. I don't hold it against them tho.
Author irc333 Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 I've lost more guy friends to new gf's than I can possibly count. Even though these guys and I were never anything romantic, once the girls find out about me they give me the boot. Even though I would never cheat or condone it. I don't hold it against them tho. Right, because these are the way of things.
phineas Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I've lost count of how many women "friends" that said they weren't interested in me that way all of a sudden become interested in me when I would start showing interest in other women. and when I say interested I mean wanting to come over, drink & watch movies & wind up naked kind of interested. women are evil.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I've lost count of how many women "friends" that said they weren't interested in me that way all of a sudden become interested in me when I would start showing interest in other women. and when I say interested I mean wanting to come over, drink & watch movies & wind up naked kind of interested. women are evil. So what do ya do? Take em to your room and slay that demon, and slay it good.
USMCHokie Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 No, that I'm aware of. I'm relatively harmless.
Intricategirl Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I've got one right now that I HOPE doesn't see me as a threat. I'm still good friends with that ex and we run in the same circles. I think she's pretty cool and a lot better match for him than I ever was, but I know she still feels awkward around me,and I'm trying to figure out how to lessen that. I've actually got a weirder situation. Long story that isn't worth going into, but I'm a threat to the EX-girlfriends! One of my ex's has an ex-girlfriend that is stalking me and a different ex-boyfriend of mine, because if I'm single, I'm a threat to a man that doesn't even want her. Psycho!
Knittress Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I think it's sadly common when a bunch of people to socialize as couples, and then one of the couples splits, the female friends will begin to reject the newly-single girlfriend due to insecurity.
daphne Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I think it's sadly common when a bunch of people to socialize as couples, and then one of the couples splits, the female friends will begin to reject the newly-single girlfriend due to insecurity. I've seen waaaayyy too many best gf's steal their friend's guy/husband to not understand why women can be paranoid. Shoot. I have a gf I won't let meet any of the guys I'm dating because she has given guys who showed interest in me her card in front of me and just hit on them in general. Has probably cheated with her bf's husband, and has cheated with different guys. There are some pretty selfish people out there.
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