LifesBeachy Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 How do I diffuse their sarcasm? I'm DROWNING in men that are sarcastic.... ugh. Someone toss me a life vest or point me to where people aren't sarcastic. Maybe it's just my area. .? Is anyone else incredibly put off by sarcasm? It's truly becoming a deal-breaker for me.
yongyong Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 You just haven't met the right person. If you meet the right person, you will like his lame jokes. I mean you won't care about those little things.
Leeway Harris Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 When I was browsing the online dating profiles of women on OkCupid, an AMAZING amount of women used the word "sarcastic" when describing what they were looking for in a man. As in "I like a guy who's funny, sarcastic, with self-confidence..." It was utterly baffling to me. I wanted to channel Inigo Montoya: "You keep using that word! I don't think it means what you think it means."
paleblue Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 you're just going to have to keep looking i guess, sorry. yes, it can get annoying if they are like that all the time.
Duckduckgoose Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Sarcasm is anger's ugly cousin. If they are sarcastic they might have anger problems too. Or they might be jerks. Or rude... or all three. If a woman seeks an angry rude jerk let her. As for you since you don't like the bad attitude behind sarcasm... say "Next please!"
glimmer Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 How do I diffuse their sarcasm? I'm DROWNING in men that are sarcastic.... ugh. Someone toss me a life vest or point me to where people aren't sarcastic. Maybe it's just my area. .? Is anyone else incredibly put off by sarcasm? It's truly becoming a deal-breaker for me. I'm turned off by sarcasm, a total deal breaker. I've learned that there are always other issues lurking within an extremely sarcastic person. Being sarcastic is a defense mechanism for them.
mtber75 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I'm turned off by sarcasm, a total deal breaker. I've learned that there are always other issues lurking within an extremely sarcastic person. Being sarcastic is a defense mechanism for them. That's true! I was sarcastic in most of my youth because I was pissed off most of the time. Now I'm much better and am only sarcastic to my closet friends and family:)
SmileFace Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Haha, this is a good to think about. The only thing me and my ex argued over was me being to sarcastic. I also hear this from my family and friends all the time. It doesn't bother me it is just who I am. I agree it may be a defense mechanism but I don't see it as anger problem in my case.
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 How do I diffuse their sarcasm? I'm DROWNING in men that are sarcastic.... ugh. Someone toss me a life vest or point me to where people aren't sarcastic. Maybe it's just my area. .? Is anyone else incredibly put off by sarcasm? It's truly becoming a deal-breaker for me. Ugh... It's the same with women. All they can do is be sarcastic, which usually isn't funny. It is without a doubt the lowest form of comedy. I would date a woman who had a penchant for Charlie Chaplin style slapstick first... which would be annoying at restaurants.
tami-chan Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 How do I diffuse their sarcasm? I'm DROWNING in men that are sarcastic.... ugh. Someone toss me a life vest or point me to where people aren't sarcastic. Maybe it's just my area. .? Is anyone else incredibly put off by sarcasm? It's truly becoming a deal-breaker for me. It is attention seeking behavior...<yawn> you are right, it gets boring.
sugarlumps Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 You're right. Nothing is worse than being sarcastic. All sarcastic guys are rude and annoying. That's definitely the case. There are different kinds of sarcasm, and different amounts that are bearable. Too much can be mean and get old, but absolutely no sarcasm can mean absolutely no sense of humor.
Feelin Frisky Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 It's two things usually: a) a power play to establish himself as some kind of authority b) a symbol of insecurity Sarcasm is not inherently bad--it's just how it's used that can get really annoying. That goes for both genders. I can appreciate a sarcastic comment about someone or something else for a laugh here and there. But if it's aimed at me, I won't abide it. It tells me right off that this woman doesn't even know how to negotiate a relationship much less wants to have one with me. These are the kind that often want to use a guy--be taken to the movies or dinner or an event with no real value on being with me per se. They fool themselves because I'm not just your garden variety male human being. I'm a fuc_ing genius. Word.
jane100 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 i know you're a f*****ng genius, Mr Frisky!
Author LifesBeachy Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 Sarcasm is anger's ugly cousin. Mind if I use this verbatim on my online profile? It's perfect in summing up how I feel. I'm going to forthrightly say I'm not looking for sarcastic men. I have a couple of pending dates also..I'll bring this up first date. I'm sure some folk can ever so sparingly use sarcasm and it be fine. With friends, I don't mind gentle one placed here and there.. I used sarcasm when I was a teen and thought I was all big with my zany zingers... mm, not so much. Looking back, it took the least amount of effort. And I've out grown it. I just feel older guys would use sarcasm to weave in potshots and such. And then when you let them know it was a bit too much, they'll give the ol' "I'm just joking.." or the even worse: "It's called sarcasm". Ugh. No win...... :/
yongyong Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Can someone please explain what sarcasm is? I'd like to see some good examples.........
irc333 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I think a sarcastic "sense of humor" is actually attractive to some people, but sarcasm that's berating is a whole other animal. How do I diffuse their sarcasm? I'm DROWNING in men that are sarcastic.... ugh. Someone toss me a life vest or point me to where people aren't sarcastic. Maybe it's just my area. .? Is anyone else incredibly put off by sarcasm? It's truly becoming a deal-breaker for me.
Feelin Frisky Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 i know you're a f*****ng genius, Mr Frisky! Aww, thank you Jane. You know authentic genius when you see it.
alphamale Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 How do I diffuse their sarcasm? I'm DROWNING in men that are sarcastic.... ugh. Someone toss me a life vest or point me to where people aren't sarcastic. Maybe it's just my area. .? Is anyone else incredibly put off by sarcasm? It's truly becoming a deal-breaker for me. we, unlike many women, actually have a sense of humour
fishtaco Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 What if he's a tall, dark, and handsome sarcastic man? With a lot of money? Drives around in a Ferrari saving babies?
SmileFace Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 (edited) What if he's a tall, dark, and handsome sarcastic man? With a lot of money? Drives around in a Ferrari saving babies? And he is a fireman? Edited February 22, 2011 by SmileFace
january2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Sometimes it can be funny but more often than not it's hurtful. Hurtful is not a trait I look for in men.
fishtaco Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 And he is a fireman? LOL, good call. And a professional athlete. And the lead singer of the most awesome band. But I have a feeling the OP won't date us now. Damn, I always screw it up.
SmileFace Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 LOL, good call. And a professional athlete. And the lead singer of the most awesome band. But I have a feeling the OP won't date us now. Damn, I always screw it up. Well, I am a chick . She said nothing against chicks who are sarcastic . However I am not into pitching or carpets,So. So, are you sensitive? And loyal , kind,caring, and save small animals from the dangers known as cars? - I don't the sarcasm would matter much if you have those qualities.
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