J200 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I've been reading a lot here about the "nice guy" thing. From what I have noticed is that when you have two girls who are equally hot, have an equal amount of sex appeal, guys will still more likely choose the "mean hot girl" because she is more exciting while they "nice hot girl" will be perceived as "boring" despite her hotness. Just because a girl is a "nice girl" doesn't mean she has to be nerdy or unattractive. I know plenty of nice girls that LOOK like "party girls" (but aren't) but they look hot, great bodies, know how to dress sexy etc. However they still loose out to the "hot party girls" because the "hot nice girl" only looks the part but she is more boring (stays home more, too quiet, has nothing to say, not really exciting) and guys get turned off by that. What do you guys think about that?
alex1960 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 That's partly true but only up until a certain age. At some point, guys want a decent looking girl who is nice and kind. Personally, I think those who complain about being single despite being hot and nice usually overestimate their looks.
Author J200 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 At some point, guys want a decent looking girl who is nice and kind. They do and when they marry the hot girl who is nice and kind, in many cases they will get tired of her and cheat on her. I am not talking about "Decent" looking nice girl but "hot"; chances are they will still get cheated on because the guy craves the excitement with the mean girl.
phineas Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I want a nice hot girl who is a mean hot girl in the sack
Author J200 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 I want a nice hot girl who is a mean hot girl in the sack Nice girls that are hot can be wild in bed. I dunno why people assume they aren't. A lot of times it's the quiet shy ones that are the horniest.
Yamaha Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 If a guy gets tired of the hot, nice girl he never really loved her in the first place. Guys who pick the hot, party girl want sex but not a relationship.
Author J200 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 Guys who pick the hot, party girl want sex but not a relationship. Many do; some even want to marry the hot party girl. The thing is that some nice hot girls party now too. It IS possible to party a bit but still be a good girl; I know many girls who party but never hook up with a guy at all, they just like to have fun with their girlfriends. Maybe it was wrong of me to label one as a "party girl", by that I mean that this girl has a much stronger personality while a lot of "hot nice girls" are quiet and don't say much and don't have as much personality.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 How does being nice get confused with being nerdy? Or not hot?
Author J200 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 How does being nice get confused with being nerdy? Or not hot? It doesn't! In my opinion it doesn't. However, I have been reading this board for a long time and came across topics why "nice girls" get passed by and then some male poster would come in and say "oh that's because nice girls are usually not as hot as party girls"... Most of the posters in various threads were saying that nice girls loose out because they are nerdier looking or dress down or look "Average" and "cute" but not hot. It's more easier to look like a "party girl" than ever with Youtube makeup tutorials; anyone can look like a "hot party girl" and plenty of "nice girls" look the part nowadays. I know girls who don't party but they have the hotness and look like they do; these nice girls don't look nerdy whatsoever but dress super sexy. So appearances can be deceiving.
Woggle Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 For some reason these days treating people like crap gets better results whether you are a man or a woman. It's a sad state of affairs. My wife is hot and a genuinely good person and I have no desire to cheat on her.
Yamaha Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I know girls who don't party but they have the hotness and look like they do; these nice girls don't look nerdy whatsoever but dress super sexy So why are they emulating the party girl? Wouldn't you want a guy who sees you as a good looking girl with substance and not just a body ( as they see the party girl)?
Author J200 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 So why are they emulating the party girl? Wouldn't you want a guy who sees you as a good looking girl with substance and not just a body ( as they see the party girl)? Not "Emulating", just because someone is a nice girl doesn't mean they don't enjoy getting dolled up and dressing attractive and looking hot. There's nothing wrong with that; most girls, bad girls or nice girls like to dress up and get dolled up because it's part of being a girl. Some nice girls genuinely enjoy fashion, makeup and just looking good. just because you're nice girl doesn't mean you have to look like a bookworm. It's not a crime to look hot.
Author J200 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 I don't think I am talking about "party girls" necessarily but MEAN girls. I knew a guy who always claimed he liked "nice girls" and he hates women with bad personalities who make fun of other people etc. The girl he fell madly in love with laughs at unattractive disabled people and rolls around the floor laughing at them (she is around 28 btw)... She also frequently still gets into fights with other women. She also cheats on him with other guys but he also cheats on her so I guess it's even in that department. She is "mean" as in the fact that she is a bully. She tried to physically "jump" and fight someone I know. She is a HUGE bully and always makes fun of people if they are overweight or unattractive or deformed, she will literally roll around the floor and laugh and he got to the point where he thought it was funny and started to join in too. She physically fights other girls she doesn't get along with' pulling hair; punching, scratching and she has A LOT of enemies. She is a violent person. Apparently men find this exciting and sexually titillating.
Yamaha Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Not "Emulating", just because someone is a nice girl doesn't mean they don't enjoy getting dolled up and dressing attractive and looking hot. There's nothing wrong with that; most girls, bad girls or nice girls like to dress up and get dolled up because it's part of being a girl. Some nice girls genuinely enjoy fashion, makeup and just looking good. just because you're nice girl doesn't mean you have to look like a bookworm. It's not a crime to look hot. There is nothing wrong in desiring attention from men but you have to realize that when you go out dressed in a sexy way most guys are going to see you in the way you portray yourself? It is up to YOU to let them know (even though you enjoy being a girl and dressing hot) you are a person as well as the visuals.
Author J200 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 There is nothing wrong in desiring attention from men but you have to realize that when you go out dressed in a sexy way most guys are going to see you in the way you portray yourself? It is up to YOU to let them know (even though you enjoy being a girl and dressing hot) you are a person as well as the visuals. When they get to know the hot girl who is "nice", chances are they will still perceive her as boring and not as exciting as the "mean" hot girl. They can see through the "nice" girl looking hot in most cases prefer the bitchier one.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Not "Emulating", just because someone is a nice girl doesn't mean they don't enjoy getting dolled up and dressing attractive and looking hot. There's nothing wrong with that; most girls, bad girls or nice girls like to dress up and get dolled up because it's part of being a girl. Some nice girls genuinely enjoy fashion, makeup and just looking good. just because you're nice girl doesn't mean you have to look like a bookworm. It's not a crime to look hot. Then, there are the "hot bookworm girls"... http://xee.xanga.com/b9ef52e167d34229868029/w181107599.jpg
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 And I tend to go towards the more average looking girls myself. The blond bombshells never have attracted me. Too high maintenance for me.
Yamaha Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 When they get to know the hot girl who is "nice", chances are they will still perceive her as boring and not as exciting as the "mean" hot girl. They can see through the "nice" girl looking hot in most cases prefer the bitchier one. That depends on YOU. There are plenty of nice, hot girls with personalities who way outshine the party girl. I think you underestimate guys or you are hanging out with immature boys.
Author J200 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 There is nothing wrong in desiring attention from men but you have to realize that when you go out dressed in a sexy way most guys are going to see you in the way you portray yourself? It is up to YOU to let them know (even though you enjoy being a girl and dressing hot) you are a person as well as the visuals. Back in 06 you wrote this The bitches are always so much more interesting than the nice ones. They give you **** and then they give you love. I guess it is a pattern men go through to validate who has the upper hand. If you can break down a bitch the nectar is so much sweeter because of the road traveled. If you like an upside down life a nice girl will not give you the surprises you desire. My 2 1/2 cents
Yamaha Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Back in 06 you wrote this The bitches are always so much more interesting than the nice ones. They give you **** and then they give you love. I guess it is a pattern men go through to validate who has the upper hand. If you can break down a bitch the nectar is so much sweeter because of the road traveled. If you like an upside down life a nice girl will not give you the surprises you desire. My 2 1/2 cents Maybe I did, I don't remember. Even so, I have the right to change my mind and I have as I am dating a hot gal now who is a good girl ( out of her own mouth ) and I agree with her. She is everything I want in sa woman and she is not a mean party girl. We can grow up and change.
Nexus One Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 (edited) I disagree with the thread title. I dislike b*tches and mean girls. If a girl is hot, but a b*tch and/or mean, then that will actually affect her physical attractiveness, because it affects the way I see her. It'll then be as if I can see her inner b*tchnes in her appearance. Edited February 21, 2011 by Nexus One
zengirl Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I disagree with the title as well. I'm a hot, nice girl, and I've done just fine. I don't think being mean ever gets you a quality relationship; it might be better for attracting certain, unhealthy people, or people who aren't really ready for a relationship and date jerks (male or female) as a repressed way of expressing that or whatever. But if you want a great relationship, it takes two nice people. Or at least two people who are nice to each other.
Leeway Harris Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I know plenty of nice girls that LOOK like "party girls" (but aren't) but they look hot, great bodies, know how to dress sexy etc. Awesome. Where are they? I'm serious, I want names and email addresses. I'm joking. (No, I'm not) But seriously, if I knew where the nice+attractive women hung out, I'd spend all my time there. I want nothing to do with "mean girls".
Titania22 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Awesome. Where are they? I'm serious, I want names and email addresses. I'm joking. (No, I'm not) But seriously, if I knew where the nice+attractive women hung out, I'd spend all my time there. I want nothing to do with "mean girls". I'm one, and I can tell you we are all in Australia.
somedude81 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 So uh, how exactly to hot nice girls miss out? Are they getting passed over by a type of man that goes after the mean girls instead. What kind of guys are they after in the first place? Seriously all a girl has to do to get male attention is be flirty. It really has nothing to do with mean nice or mean.
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