Amor23 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 She broke up with me. I'm 20 and she is 18, about to turn 19. I knew it was coming kind of, but what I'm confused about is how our 1 year aniversary was so special. I went all out, got her a card and wrote down my deepest emotions in it. She cried when she read it. I also spread roses around my entire room with a box of chocolates and a promise ring in the middle of my bed. I cooked her dinner and we ate it by candle light. Everything was amazing and it was a perfect day... Then the day after things started getting weird. I noticed she stopped calling as much and of course I was not used to this. So I started to call her more, but she wouldn't answer. It got down to where she would only call me just before she was going to bed. She also started going out with her friends more, and not inviting me... Well I confronted her about this and she got all defensive saying how i was being a "phone nazi" Well today she didnt call me or text me at all and we were supposed to hang out the entire day. Well I just went over to her house and thats when it happened... She said she wanted to talk.. yada yada. Broke up with me because I was "holding her down" and "not letting her do things without her having to ask me" She was crying the entire time, and seemed as if she didnt want to do it. But I feel as if this is just an excuse to use because she wand to talk to other guys without feeling bad.. She also said she just "wanted to explore the world" But yet said maybe in a month or so we can go on date.. I mean WTF! But also the morning after our one year, she sent me a text saying "I love you more than anything in the world. I cant wait to have kids with you, marry you, and move in with you.." I did everything for her, and I truly don't know where I went wrong. I was her first everything.. (make out, sex partner, guy she ever spent the night with...) Please give me some insight guys I just really need someone to talk to..
dreamingoftigers Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 It sounds like she was trying to get you to make some kind of positive response by throwing out the whole relationship. Either that or she thought she knew what she wanted and then had secondthoughts.
Mixed28 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I would just walk away from the situation. There is nothing you can do except push her away which I am sure you don't want.
RomoGuy Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Sorry for your loss man, your breakup sounds similar to mine. My ex also broke up with me basically out of nowhere, she acted like it was something she had to do, but didn't want to. Gave me a bunch of nonsense reasons and kind of acted like I was holding her back from something. When just the day before the breakup I was 'Mr perfect'. And I have been in no contact since the breakup 50 days ago, just to find out today she already has a boyfriend. I think your ex and my ex has grass is greener syndrome. You can look it up and read more about it here on the forum. Stay in no contact and your days will get better and better, I promise.
Author Amor23 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 I asked her if there was another reason.. Like another guy, and she promised me there was no way there was another guy. That she just wanted to have fun with her friends. I asked her to just spend the day with me to see if she would re-consider her decision and she said she wouldn't because she knew she would end up staying with me. But like you said this was just something she "had" to do... I hate this... I hate not hearing her voice....
Hhhh Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 My ex as well, its starting to seem this is common for girls this age. They just want to live in the moment (go clubbing, flirting, etc) and think eventually they will find a guy that is better or just as good as us. I don't know, I will never understand women
Sugarkane Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 My ex as well, its starting to seem this is common for girls this age. They just want to live in the moment (go clubbing, flirting, etc) and think eventually they will find a guy that is better or just as good as us. I don't know, I will never understand women Its not jut women who do this. My ex bf did the same thing to me. Dumped me completely out of the blue. Lame answers that don't make any sense. If he was unhappy he never said so. Blamed everything on me, absolutely nothing was his fault. Went into NC and never heard at all, not once.
packers393 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Same thing happened to me.. Was doing NC until her bday texted her for a bit. Whats the difference between a "break" and "breaking up"?.
packers393 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 She is 18, and she asked for the "break" 2 days before our on year...
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