justletgox51 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 My ex-boyfriend and I of a year and over, have both went in NC for a month and about 24 days now, after a phone call I made last year on Christmas day. There are days when I feel like I have moved on and I don't need him in my life because he has replaced me for other girls in my high school, some that are a year younger than me and other girls that are in his age. I know NC is about moving on but we both go to the same school and we see each other at least once or twice or if we're both unlucky, the whole school week. Anyway, I miss him more than ever because I heard from one of my friends that he's going to ask someone out to be his girl friend... How is NC going to make him miss me? I know I'm holding on to false hope but ugh, I guess I'm just a stupid, over 'in love' with this guy teenager. Has anyone of you been where I am in high school and over the years contacted them?
Mixed28 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Listen hun I have been there and it sucks. I got dumped by a girl I loved with all my heart. But look you want someone who is head over heels for you as you are for them. You don't want someone who doesn't want you because that is not true love. Its best to walk away from the situation. I suggest you exercise that's what I did and still do it helps a lot with confidence. or do some other goal. Its so hard I know it is complete hell. But keep busy and it will hurt a little less each day. I promise. I am a 19 yearold college student and my girlfriend dumped me a little over 3 months ago and was with a new guy 2 months after our breakup. It sucks hard but like i said above you want someone who wants you. not someone who wanst someone else. hope this helps.
Author justletgox51 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 Thank you so much for the advice
precious1 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I have def been where you are. I have suffered the agony of a high school breakup and having him date my next door neighbor after the breakup. I am now 22 yrs old, about to graduate college and start working. And yes it was painful but yes it did get better. What I can offer you is that now is the time to put your game face on. Never let them see you sweat. If you need a moment, go to the bathroom and pull yourself together. Hold your head up high and always have a smile on your face, even if its fake. You will be so thankful in the future, when you look back and see how dignified you remained through this experience. If its any comfort, just know that the relationship with the new girl will not last (most h.s relationships don't). If you hear anything about him and the new girl, just remain calm, don't comment, and if you must just say something like "oh, good for them". If you must break down, only do so with your closest friends that you trusts because any one else may let him know how much you're suffering. live in the same apt.complex/go to the same university with my ex (different floors). When I do run into him, I just wave and keep it moving. Sometimes if the need arises and I cant avoid him, we just make small talk, polite stuff, nothing deep or personal (i try to avoid talking to him for the most part). Just stay strong, you will be just fine with time. I PROMISE. Think of this as a lesson learned. As you get older,be very careful and selective who you give your heart to. Let people prove through their actions that they are worthy enough to be a part of your life.
Author justletgox51 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 Precious... My goodness, I'm glad you came through... Thank you so much Precious for this wonderful advice. And that's what I've been doing, faking smiles and just trying to live my teenage life. However, I must ask this, why do some people marry their high school sweethearts?... I envy those relationships, and bleh. Anyway, thank you so much for this advice and I will follow this. It's just I felt so bummed after I didn't greet him for his birthday (on Valentine's day) and how he really didn't seem to care about it. :|
Mixed28 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Precious... My goodness, I'm glad you came through... Thank you so much Precious for this wonderful advice. And that's what I've been doing, faking smiles and just trying to live my teenage life. However, I must ask this, why do some people marry their high school sweethearts?... I envy those relationships, and bleh. Anyway, thank you so much for this advice and I will follow this. It's just I felt so bummed after I didn't greet him for his birthday (on Valentine's day) and how he really didn't seem to care about it. :| Highschool sweethearts are very rare. Hell most college students don't find their life partner in college. So don't worry about it. I know getting dumped sucks but just focus on you ok. Just walk away.
Author justletgox51 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 Yeah, I guess that's true that high/college sweethearts are very rare. I'll try my best to not worry about it that much, and yes it sucks... But I will focus on my own. I am and continually will... Sigh.
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