Danqualye76 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Does My Co-Worker Like Me? Let me start off by saying I have already decided I will be asking my coworker out tomorrow. I am a college grad currently working retail so I am not too worried about any long-term problems at work as I don't plan to be here long-term (also dating is allowed at work). I think my coworker likes me but I am beginning to doubt myself and just wanted to share the situation with you all. What is causing some doubts for me is that this girl I like is incredibly religious. In fact, so much so that she has thought about becoming a nun! So, I am not sure if the usual signs of attraction apply to her. Anyway, here is why I think she might like me: 1. She is very reserved around everyone at work...except me. I wouldn't say she is shy, but she usually keeps a completely professional demeanor with everyone else. But, with me whenever we work together we can't shut up. We get into all sorts of discussions about practically anything. I didn't really notice how reserved she was until a bit ago when some coworkers commented how strange she was since she never really talks (which struck me as odd at the time because she is the opposite with me). Now, the one exception to her talkativeness with me is if a third co-worker is with us she won't really talk to me at all unless its to tease me about any mistakes I might have made. Actually, now that I think about it whenever we have 3 people at our station she is always looking for excuses to bring down the number back to 2. 2. She laughs all the time when she is with me (again other co-workers have commented how cold she is). She literally laughs at anything I said. She never stops giggling with me, but again its not a behavior she shows toward anyone else. 3. I have noticed she sometimes plays with her hair when talking to me provided she is wearing it down. 4. The other day she got off and left, but a few seconds after passing my station she ran back to ask me how a trip I had just taken had gone. There was a counter separating us and she had her elbows on the counter and was leaning in toward me. 5. She is quite attractive, but never wears makeup....but on Valentine's Day she did. In fact she really dolled herself up on Valentine's with makeup, a new hair style, and perfume which I had never smelt before. I noticed and asked if she was trying to impress her Valentines, which prompted her to giggle and state she was single and she had just put on makeup because "she had time for a change". Afterward, I was wondering why she had dressed up (I can't stress how odd it was to see her with makeup...or how hot she looked lol), when I remembered she had called my station before she started working and asked about the schedule. I now think she might have called to see if we would be working together and she was trying to grab my attention. Or am I being too egoistical here? 6. When I was with me ex she would often ask me how she was doing. The last time she asked and I told her we had broken up she was in stunned silence. Now here on signs she doesn't like me: 1. She has never touched me. I can't think of a time ever over the past year that we have touched. 2. I friended her on facebook but she never accepted my friendship. I know for a fact she has been on since I requested. Note: We are both in our late 20s.
alethean Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 This one sounds obvious to me. Ooh, she likes you!
alex1960 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 IMHO the positive signs aren't that clear at all. And the negative ones are rather compelling. I'm not suggesting she doesn't like you but it doesn't look that great so far.
Sprig Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I could be wrong, but what I read into this is, She likes you, but as a co-worker or friend that she shares common interests. I would suggest asking her out, but not on and one to one "date". Get some people together and go do a group activity. Approach it like this, "Hey (insert name) a bunch of us are bowlng on Saturday, you interesting in coming along?" Of course you would word it better than that, but you get my drift.
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