newb Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 If a guy calls a girl for a 2nd date, but has waited a few days to call, and she does not answer or return his call within 1-2 days, will he try calling her again or will he assume she is not intersted? (Assume the first date went well and both people appeared interested). Or to ask another way: Is it playing "too" hard to get if you ignore his call for a second date (but hope he will try calling you again?) or should the girl just call back, 1-2 days later?
glimmer Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 If a guy calls a girl for a 2nd date, but has waited a few days to call, and she does not answer or return his call within 1-2 days, will he try calling her again or will he assume she is not intersted? (Assume the first date went well and both people appeared interested). Or to ask another way: Is it playing "too" hard to get if you ignore his call for a second date (but hope he will try calling you again?) or should the girl just call back, 1-2 days later? Did you already post about this yesterday? This thread seems familiar. Anyway, if she doesn't return your call (I"m assuming you left a message?) within a couple days, just move on. Don't try to call her back. If the ball is in her court and she's interested, she'll reply even if it takes a few days. She might be busy.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 If a guy calls a girl for a 2nd date, but has waited a few days to call, and she does not answer or return his call within 1-2 days, will he try calling her again or will he assume she is not intersted? (Assume the first date went well and both people appeared interested). Or to ask another way: Is it playing "too" hard to get if you ignore his call for a second date (but hope he will try calling you again?) or should the girl just call back, 1-2 days later? Personally, I feel like if you like someone and are interested in seeing them again you should pick up the phone when they call (when possible) or return their call. I hate the idea of playing a game like this, it really is kind of childish. Real world scenario: I went out twice with a girl two weeks ago. I asked her out a third time to movie and she agreed then canceled the morning of the date. I called her the next day to reschedule, she didn't answer nor did she call back. I called one more time still no answer and still no call back. I saw her online last night and said "hi, how are you?" and she never responded. At this point yes, I'm assuming she is not interested.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Said guy might just rotate her to the back of the list, and place her as "last priority girl". Well if the guy is anything like me. :S I understand if someone is busy, that might mean a delayed 1-3 hour response. But if a guy is waiting a couple days? It's time to hang her up, or make her a small priority. Nobody is that busy.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Personally, if I make a phone call and I don't get a reply back within a day, I make no more attempts to reach out to the woman. She either gets written off or I just keep it moving until I hear from her. But even if I do hear from her, she won't be taken seriously. As it's obvious she's isn't being serious about me.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Yeah if I don't get any positive feedback from a woman I just move on. No call back after I call them (with no other contact either) would be the end of it for me.
BUENG1 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 If a guy calls a girl for a 2nd date, but has waited a few days to call, and she does not answer or return his call within 1-2 days, will he try calling her again or will he assume she is not intersted? (Assume the first date went well and both people appeared interested). Or to ask another way: Is it playing "too" hard to get if you ignore his call for a second date (but hope he will try calling you again?) or should the girl just call back, 1-2 days later? I may call back once but I would be dubious if she picked up the second time that I was on the back burner.
zengirl Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 If he calls more than once, he's an idiot. Unless he called her at some odd time, where she'd be unlikely to see it or return (i.e. Don't call the girl at 2AM). People who like you return your calls.
blackmagik Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 That two day before you call rule is stupid anyway. I always say if you are interested in the person, just call them. Stupid games like that are for children. I would never call someone back more than once. If they are interested they will contact you.
paleblue Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 (edited) i might call once. most times if a girl is really interested you wont have to call them. they will call you. like that night after your date. thre wont be any guess work. and if there is, forget about her. Edited February 21, 2011 by paleblue
xpaperxcutx Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Last guy I dated, I missed most of his calls. But I always, always called him back. And I certainly didn't wait a day or two. And I also apologize for missing his calls. What does that say?
alex1960 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Women who don't return calls are, at best, only slightly interested and having much better things to do.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Last guy I dated, I missed most of his calls. But I always, always called him back. And I certainly didn't wait a day or two. And I also apologize for missing his calls. What does that say? Says alot. You're a sincere and honest person. And you're straightforward..enough at least.
tami-chan Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 If a guy calls a girl for a 2nd date, but has waited a few days to call, and she does not answer or return his call within 1-2 days, will he try calling her again or will he assume she is not intersted? (Assume the first date went well and both people appeared interested). Or to ask another way: Is it playing "too" hard to get if you ignore his call for a second date (but hope he will try calling you again?) or should the girl just call back, 1-2 days later? Call once, if she does not return call, she is either not interested or is dead.
hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Personally, if I make a phone call and I don't get a reply back within a day, I make no more attempts to reach out to the woman. She either gets written off or I just keep it moving until I hear from her. But even if I do hear from her, she won't be taken seriously. As it's obvious she's isn't being serious about me. yea i have done a couple of women like that. One girl hooked me up with her friend...her friend called ME 1st we chatted on and off she said she was mad busy all the time (in skool) i can dig it im busy too but no one is THAT busy if ur interested then u make time. Now in a dilemma this girl gave me her # though i asked i texted her the same day(against better judgment) but i wanted to say what i felt no response...called her the next day she was about to take a nap...called 5 days later no response but i left a VM at this pt im confused...why even gimme ur # if u dont want to talk??? ughhhh At the point where you get a few times with me then if i get no feedback i k.i.m. not saying if i see them after i ignore them but no point of scratching my head if ur interested then make it happen i just hate when games are played.
Leeway Harris Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 In my world, if somebody calls you, and you want to talk to them, you call them back. So, once.
betsssssy Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Really, who wants to date a girl who doesn't return calls anyway? Whether she's interested or not, she's a problem.
glimmer Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Really, who wants to date a girl who doesn't return calls anyway? Whether she's interested or not, she's a problem. Well that's the strange thing about it! For some reason men in these situations devote so much energy towards what's not happening rather than naturally moving on and focusing on what's actually giving them feedback in their life. Believe it or not the obsession gives off desperate energy. I bet if they were of a more carefree mindset, they would actually attract more call backs.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Really, who wants to date a girl who doesn't return calls anyway? Whether she's interested or not, she's a problem. Some people are too forgiving. I'm not forgiving enough lol, working on it though.
Pyro Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 there is no point in dating or attempting to date someone who will never answer the phone or return calls. Bottom line is that if they really are interested they will contact you in the least amount of time. We are living in an age where alot of people are connected at the hip to their phones. I would say to call them only once and be sure to leave a message but even that is not 100% fool proof. Around the time CE and I started talking I would sign on to IM and see she was online but she would never say anything to me. I took it as a sign of her not being that interested in wanting to chat with me but I eventually discovered that somehow the setting had put her on ignore, so anytime I logged on she had no idea.
glimmer Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 We are living in an age where alot of people are connected at the hip to their phones. This mindset really irks me. In my opinion, this unreasonable expectation is what causes so many of these problems. This one guy got so emotional that I didn't return his call right away within a few hours when he called and went off on a tangent that if I was really interested, I would have picked up his call or called back right away no matter what was going on. I had to count 5 seconds in my head before I responded just so I wouldnt get sucked into his emotional whirlwind. lol... I then told him, 'look I guess I'm an old fashioned girl. If I'm busy doing something, especially spending quality time with people, out of respect for myself and them and just really enjoying the whole experience, well, I am NOT ACTUALLY CHECKING MY PHONE or even thinking about it. I try to live fully in the moment. And that is no reflection on you.' I got his message from 3pm that night and I was very happy to hear from him. I called him back the next day, excited to plan some time to see him. And you better bet he'd get the same quality time that I gave others by not being glued to my phone. I guess I'm old fashioned but that stress of expectation that you must be available asap just because you have a cell phone is unreasonable. Good things come to those who wait. I don't want to date an impatient unreasonable guy. I take quality over immediate gratification.
carhill Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 How many times will a guy try to call a girl who is not answering?I call once and, if no answer leave a VM, and EOS. If she's not dead and is interested, she'll answer or return my call. I take her silence to be an indicator of death or disinterest, neither of which are beneficial to my cause, so move on.
Pyro Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 This mindset really irks me. In my opinion, this unreasonable expectation is what causes so many of these problems. This one guy got so emotional that I didn't return his call right away within a few hours when he called and went off on a tangent that if I was really interested, I would have picked up his call or called back right away no matter what was going on. I had to count 5 seconds in my head before I responded just so I wouldnt get sucked into his emotional whirlwind. lol... I then told him, 'look I guess I'm an old fashioned girl. If I'm busy doing something, especially spending quality time with people, out of respect for myself and them and just really enjoying the whole experience, well, I am NOT ACTUALLY CHECKING MY PHONE or even thinking about it. I try to live fully in the moment. And that is no reflection on you.' I got his message from 3pm that night and I was very happy to hear from him. I called him back the next day, excited to plan some time to see him. And you better bet he'd get the same quality time that I gave others by not being glued to my phone. I guess I'm old fashioned but that stress of expectation that you must be available asap just because you have a cell phone is unreasonable. Good things come to those who wait. I don't want to date an impatient unreasonable guy. I take quality over immediate gratification. OK let me reiterate my point. It is absurd to expect someone to have their phone within an arms reach at all times. There is more to life than having a phone. Most people have lives and a job so it is unrealistic to expect someone who is interested in you to answer the phone or call back immediately. IMO though if they are interested then they should be able to respond back within the same day, depending on the time of course. I wouldn't expect a response back until the next day if I called at 10PM
Questionis Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Did you do anything to make her angry? I think a couple of times is more than enough, then you just need to cut losses and move on
dispatch3d Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I have too much important **** to do that calling a girl 2-3 times when I ask her to call me back just isn't appealing to me. I could be putting my energy into anything else.
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