sally4sara Posted February 22, 2011 Share Posted February 22, 2011 I know she is dysfunctional but the truth is I have never seen a criminal type struggle with women. I have never seen a player struggle with women either. And I've never known a demanding, gold digging woman who cheats in relationships to struggle with getting men. Gotta have a guy to make demands, dig in wallets and cheat yeah? Can't do it on your own. To me these people, male or female, are in a constant state of struggle. their relationships are not smooth or solid. Drama is always running high. How can you say they don't struggle? Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted February 22, 2011 Share Posted February 22, 2011 And I've never known a demanding, gold digging woman who cheats in relationships to struggle with getting men. Gotta have a guy to make demands, dig in wallets and cheat yeah? Can't do it on your own. To me these people, male or female, are in a constant state of struggle. their relationships are not smooth or solid. Drama is always running high. How can you say they don't struggle? This is true. I have never known a woman like this to struggle with men either. They usually have a man willing to walk over hot coals for her as well. Maybe it is not a man vs woman thing after all. Maybe the world in general is just messed up and those of us who know what a happy relationship is are the minority. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted February 22, 2011 Share Posted February 22, 2011 Some women have absolutely terrible people pickers. It's much more common to see a normal girl with a bad guy then a normal guy with a bad girl. Why is that? The answer to your question is right here http://homepage.psy.utexas.edu/homepage/Group/BussLAB/pdffiles/attractive%20women%20want%20it%20all%202008.pdf Evolutionary Psychology http://www.epjournal.net – 2008. 6(1): 134-146 ¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯ Attractive Women Want it All: Good Genes, Economic Investment, Parenting Proclivities, and Emotional Commitment David M. Buss, Department of Psychology, University of Texas, Austin, TX, USA. Abstract: The current research tests the hypothesis that women have an evolved mate value calibration adaptation that functions to raise or lower their standards in a long-term mate according to their own mate value. A woman’s physical attractiveness is a cardinal component of women’s mate value. We correlated observer-assessed physical attractiveness (face, body, and overall) with expressed preferences for four clusters of mate characteristics (N = 214): (1) hypothesized good-gene indicators (e.g., masculinity, sexiness); (2) hypothesized good investment indicators (e.g., potential income); (3) good parenting indicators (e.g., desire for home and children), and (4) good partner indicators (e.g., being a loving partner). Results supported the hypothesis that high mate value women, as indexed by observer-judged physical attractiveness, expressed elevated standards for all four clusters of mate characteristics. Discussion focuses on potential design features of the hypothesized mate-value calibration adaptation, and suggests an important modification of the trade-off model of women’s mating. A minority of women notably those low in mate value who are able to escape male mate guarding and the manifold costs of an exposed infidelity—will pursue a mixed mating strategy, obtaining investment from one man and good genes from an extra-pair copulation partner (as the trade-off model predicts). Since the vast majority of women secure genes and direct benefits from the same man, however, most women will attempt to secure the best combination of all desired qualities from the same man Here's what that means for this discussion. Evolutionary psychologist also separate men into at least two broad categories. 1 Men who have traits that are markers of good DNA. 2 Men who are traits that show they are good care givers and providers for children. Women are instinctively drawn to men with signs of good DNA...especially when ovulating. Hypothetically this first kind of man can get away with being an ******* so...he take advantage. He knows no matter how he acts he will get another woman. Women need to learn from experience that the second kind of guy...the good provider...is better in the long run. This kind of guy...is more likely to be the stereotypical "nice guy". Most men are however some mix of those two kinds of man...reasonably good looking, good DNA, and decent providers. Most guys are just "decent guys". Dude the reason the women you see always seems to be with a "jerk" with good DNA...is because she either does not want to be with him long term...or she doesn't know any better yet. Does that help? Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted February 22, 2011 Share Posted February 22, 2011 Maybe people are just like every other social animal. Most social animals have one or a small group of individuals who do the breeding...and the others take care of the resulting offspring. Perhaps on some basic level gold digging women...and jerky guys are there to spread their selfish genes while the rest of us unwittingly raise their children thinking they are ours? Never realizing that our gold digger wifes are passing their children by the jerky guy off as our own. While nice girls are raising a jerky guys step children by a gold digging woman while not having any of their own. Link to post Share on other sites
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