Disillusioned Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 In one ear, out the other... Must be nice to be a player...
blind_otter Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 The woman that can handle my honesty is the woman I'll give my heart to lol. You seem pretty grounded, what draws you to these boards? Must give mom a kiss on the cheek for me next time you see her, she passed on more than a good sense of fashion. I will kiss my mama, and I came here years ago because I was a hot mess. I split up with my son's father a year ago and spent a while getting it together. I took a 6 month hiatus from LS. I'm back.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I will kiss my mama, and I came here years ago because I was a hot mess. I split up with my son's father a year ago and spent a while getting it together. I took a 6 month hiatus from LS. I'm back. You look surprisingly familiar. None the less. My hat is off to you, nothing screams "sex appeal" like a strong woman . Single Mother? Not an easy feat. Stick around, I could get used to your company, and your cute avatars.
Author singlelife Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 By reading the posts it seems like playing hard to get results in more negative then positive.
Author singlelife Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 It also gets old. I have a few girls who all know each other I found out. I left two of them alone since they were showinh know interest. The two new girls ask me a bunch of questions about where I been going etc. Came to find out they know each other. Seems once they found out they asked the new girls to back off and try to see what I was up to. This just funny because now I am just gonna leave the new girls alone pretty soon. Since I am not dating anyone exclusively I don't really like being checked up on. Especially since it's not like I am cheating. So the silly girls should have just dhown interest instead of runing all their chances.
andrew-bkk Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 The problem with playing hard to get is that it quickly become transparent and silly. Men don't quit the chase due to a lack of energy. They quit because they don't want relationships with women who are childish.
Author singlelife Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 The problem with playing hard to get is that it quickly become transparent and silly. Men don't quit the chase due to a lack of energy. They quit because they don't want relationships with women who are childish. I second that
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I think games are best left to XBox and Playstation. I'd rather date a confident, self assured woman, rather than one who resorted to playing games. I think that women who play hard to get usually are very insecure, and need someone on a leash to prove to themselves that they're valuable. They probably have very low self esteem, and very low confidence in themselves.
Sweetie1977 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 You look surprisingly familiar. None the less. My hat is off to you, nothing screams "sex appeal" like a strong woman . Single Mother? Not an easy feat. Stick around, I could get used to your company, and your cute avatars. is that really you in the avatar? I want your babies:love:
self-improvement Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 What happened to male persistence? If they really like you, they would do whatever to get you, no? I'd say men do like a little challenge to some extent. Which means for the women to not be too cheap and too easy to get. But I think that often gets confused with playing REALLY hard to get and sending out the wrong signals of total disinterest to the guys, leaving them nothing to chase after. So a guy does need to have a feeling that his persistence has a chance of being successful. A lion won't chase after an antilope he has no chance of catching either. And he stops chasing after those once he loses his breath (the comparsion might be a bit lopsided ).
zengirl Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 This is how I "date". I call you up, I ask you out. The answer is either "yes" or "no" I consider anything other than "yes" to be a "no". if there is no alternative offered I move on. period. Playing hard to get or just not interested? don't care. At this point in my life i look at the list of crap I gotta do inside my house before spring & the list of crap I gotta do outside my house once spring comes & I honestly just don't have time to waste on women playing games. It's a major turn off to me. Right, not sure why you said this to my post. My point was the way you "should" be hard to get is that you shouldn't change your whole life around for a new person or make them the most important thing in it. If a guy asks you out for the night that is your Book Club, then don't say "Yes." Say, "I'm busy that night, but how about (whenever you're free)" and don't fall for someone right away but continue to be an 'emotional challenge' while you get to know them, meaning you keep your sense of self. Playing hard to get as a game is crazy.
somethingsimple Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Playing hard to get is exactly what it is. "Playing", and when you play it's usually a game. Everyone knows that games include "players", winners and losers. So, I usually don't bother with girls who play hard to get. However, sometimes I am game, but don't really invest to much in the chase. Also, I have heard that some women play hard to get, as means to weed out several gentlemen callers. A Last Man Standing kind of game if you prefer.
hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 we all play games i try not to lead anyone on kinda in a situation now i asked for a girl # she gives it to me i try to call a couple of times: first time she busy and second no ans so i left a msg....only been a wk though but still i am a stickler about phone etiquette......if you have a missed call reply within 1-2 days dont leave ppl hanging...
MJ2 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 For me, this is how & why i used to "play" hard to get: when starting to date someone, not showing all of my feelings at the very beginning, and creating a bit of uncertainty about how much I like the guy, will make him think more about me thus increasing his interest in me.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Saying your a nice guy is such a cliché, its sickening. I'm not a nice guy. I'm bitter. I'm negative. I'm mean. I often consider going into serial killing or bank robbing... I've yet to decide if I want to be the new John Dillinger or Jack the Ripper. I know I'm an extremley intelligent fella and I could easily do either and never get caught. If I was to become a serial killer... I'd defenitley... use the choke method... Choke... Choke some bitches. Ya know. Sure wayne...tell me your home address so I can call the poli... er ..um come over and help you plot your crime spree.
phineas Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Actually I didn't. Maybe it was some vibe that I gave out, like I wasn't interested or not interested enough for him. I don't know. So I gathered that most guys don't persist enough. Did you ever call him & ask him to do anything? If I feel like i'm doing all the work without any initiation on the woman's part i'll feel like she isn't all that interested.
phineas Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Right, not sure why you said this to my post. My point was the way you "should" be hard to get is that you shouldn't change your whole life around for a new person or make them the most important thing in it. If a guy asks you out for the night that is your Book Club, then don't say "Yes." Say, "I'm busy that night, but how about (whenever you're free)" and don't fall for someone right away but continue to be an 'emotional challenge' while you get to know them, meaning you keep your sense of self. Playing hard to get as a game is crazy. It wasn't directed at you personally. Having a book club is called having a life. telling me you need to clean your bedroom, do laundry, it's cold out & your staying in, ect is showing disinterest. If your doing it on purpose to get me to chase you then it's playing hard to get. Either way I don't care, i'll just feel like i'm wasting my time & stop calling.
phineas Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 For me, this is how & why i used to "play" hard to get: when starting to date someone, not showing all of my feelings at the very beginning, and creating a bit of uncertainty about how much I like the guy, will make him think more about me thus increasing his interest in me. And if he has other options? and if those other options show their feelings? Guess who the guy is going to go with? If it were me, given two women of equal personality, life situation (lack of drama), and prettiness, i'm going to take the path of least resistance to the GF. It's a no-brainer to me.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 is that really you in the avatar? I want your babies:love: Lol..why yes it is, and I'll take that as a compliment, thank you .
mtber75 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I actually don't mind a little challenge! But give me SOME feedback positive or negative! I hate to be chasing and not have the girl show me ANY directions? Let face it, its in the women's DNA to be like this in order to weed out the undesirables because they can only have a few babies! As oppose to men, we can afford to spread the DNA because of our unlimited potential (sperm counts). Of course this is a generalization in a biological term!
2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 My now ex done something similar but she flaked and played hard to get. I really liked her and she really wanted to make a go of it but I decided to leave I couldn't really be bothered with any more ****ty games. She lost out to a really good guy and all. To me it is just a game and you would not play games with someone you really cared about and wanted to be with, even if you did but wanted to initiate a "test". I never done this and made it clear I wanted her and she also wanted me but kept playing little games, think she read too many magazines about it. 2011
Author singlelife Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 My now ex done something similar but she flaked and played hard to get. I really liked her and she really wanted to make a go of it but I decided to leave I couldn't really be bothered with any more ****ty games. She lost out to a really good guy and all. To me it is just a game and you would not play games with someone you really cared about and wanted to be with, even if you did but wanted to initiate a "test". I never done this and made it clear I wanted her and she also wanted me but kept playing little games, think she read too many magazines about it. 2011 It never fails. WOmen....get the hint........show men you like them!!
blind_otter Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 You look surprisingly familiar. None the less. My hat is off to you, nothing screams "sex appeal" like a strong woman . Single Mother? Not an easy feat. Stick around, I could get used to your company, and your cute avatars. Watch out now, son. I'm fittin' ta get the vapors. OT - "Games" is in the eye of the beholder. What one person perceives as games (and that perception is ALWAYS a choice) could actually be the reality that the person they are interested in has a life that does not revolve around partnering with someone else and glomming (LOL!). I generally like to assume that anyone I am interested in has a life. I certainly do. I think ultimately whatever the outcome of a romantic interest that you pursue, the best attitude to cultivate is not one of self-blame. If that other person doesn't contact you frequently, or all at, then that says a lot more about them than it does about you.
Woggle Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 With all due respect Blind Otter why are your recent posts sounding like they come from the Dalai Lama or some kind of philosophe?
blind_otter Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 With all due respect Blind Otter why are your recent posts sounding like they come from the Dalai Lama or some kind of philosophe? I'm always a little wary of statements that begin with "with all due respect..." lol NLP, TIME Techniques, and Personal Development guru Steve Pavlina. You might look into them/him. I know a lady who is very good at TIME Techniques - they were developed to treat war veterans with PTSD. I am really just loving life and creating positive purpose nowadays! Things are going really amazing in my life, and all I had to do was change my point of view!
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