tiger20 Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 How a woman feels about a certain man during the times he's away from her is more important than how she feels about him during the times he's in front of her face. I think men can get a greater appreciation for the phrase "absence makes the heart grow founder". One of the best gifts you can give your girlfriend is the gift of missing you. She can't miss you if you are in front of her face everyday. It's during the times you are away that she has positive thoughts about you the most. This is another reason challenge is essential in a relationship. I believe in seeing a woman 2 to 3 times a week once we're exclusive boyfriend/girlfriend. I believe in calling her twice a week. You gotta keep phone conversations short. You gotta keep dates short preferably under 4 hours. A woman gains most of her interest level in you during the times you are away from her. This is not a popular view. We men tend to think that we can't raise her interest level in us unless we're right in front of her face but that's just not true. You can raise her interest level in your absence too even more so than in your presence. If anything the more you are in front of her face the more likely you are to say something or do something that will turn her off. It's during the times you are away from her that you can't do anything wrong in her eyes. You can't say anything stupid to turn her off. All she's thinking is good times she's had with you on the dates & wondering when she'll see you again.
self-improvement Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 I agree. The falling in love part happens when people are alone with their thoughts.
Lilmisus Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 This is another reason challenge is essential in a relationship. I believe in seeing a woman 2 to 3 times a week once we're exclusive boyfriend/girlfriend. I believe in calling her twice a week. You gotta keep phone conversations short. You gotta keep dates short preferably under 4 hours. .... If anything the more you are in front of her face the more likely you are to say something or do something that will turn her off. It's during the times you are away from her that you can't do anything wrong in her eyes. You can't say anything stupid to turn her off. All she's thinking is good times she's had with you on the dates & wondering when she'll see you again. I'm sorry, I have to disagree. It strains my relationship since I don't see my boyfriend nearly as much as I would like to, and can't talk to him over the phone or any other way. Although absence does make the heart grow founder, it doesn't mean don't ever talk to them or see them, it means take some personal time to do whatever else y'all want to do without each other. Like, go out with your buddies for the day instead of a date with them, and then talk about each others days that night or the next day. As one friend pointed out while talking about my relationship: How can you maintain one if you never talk or see each other? Girls don't just think "Oh my, he's so dreamy, like the way he holds my hand or the way he says my name" or "that joke was hilarious! When will I hear another joke like that from that great man?" I tend to wonder why I don't see my boyfriend as much as I like to, and wonder what he's doing and why I don't hear from him. It makes me reevaluate our relationship more than when we're together, and by not talking to him and knowing he's not trying to talk to me, it's just another way he screws up. Our dates though last way more than your simple four hours, since we don't see each other nearly as much as we'd like, and so whenever we get the chance we spend whole days together and shoot for the closest day that we can do it again. Once you're exclusive you're supposed to become more involved in one another's lives, not less so. And if you're not there in a woman's life like she needs or wants you to be, that's an easy relationship killer, and it's a clear reason as to why the relationship doesn't last. You need to show that she's "worthy" of your time and that you're willing to spend however much time you guys want to spend together and that she's one (if not the only) priority of yours. Either call her a lot, or spend a lot of time with her when you're together, if you don't, wrong messages will be sent, and she'll be gone.
LostLamb Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 I must be a strange woman because I don't like men who disappear , I prefer a lot of contact whether by phone , email or text. I think most women like attention , not a hands off approach.
Soxfaninfl Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 I agree. The falling in love part happens when people are alone with their thoughts. How long does it usually take to fall in love? I heard that after six months of dating that if your not in love with the person then it will never happen. I'm in my first relationship after a 10 year marriage. I don't remember how long it took for me to fall in love with my wife.
jane100 Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 short-term it makes me lovesick and jealous. but long-term i'd probably also like some reciprocation, then, or on return!
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