DropEverything Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Ok so here is the really long story in short: I moved alot when I was little and in one town that I lived I met a really cool guy. Anyways time went on and we moved to three other towns. lost contact with him yada yada yada. now I live in holland for the next 1.5 years. My parents still live in canada and I am definantly moving back there next year. I'm only here for school. About 2 months ago he found me via facebook and we started mailing back and forth. He's online right now and I want him to start the conversation for once but how? How do I get him interested? Would it be weird if I randomly called him?
somedude81 Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 When are you moving back? What do you want from him?
Lilmisus Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 It sounds like y'all don't even live in the same area right now, so before you try to get him interested as being more than just friends you need to ask yourself if you're willing to getting emotionally attached to someone who doesn't even live near you. It's harder than it sounds, trust me, so if the answers yes, you still have to wonder if he's interested in the same thing. If not, then no matter what you do will not make your efforts worthwhile. Personally, if I were you I'd just try to keep things going friendly, at least until y'all could live in the same area or see each other at least once or twice a month, since there's a reason they say long-distance relationships don't work. Even if you move back to that area or visit before you move back, it'll still make it difficult to try to keep a relationship or keep his interest till then. But to answer your question, there are a few things that you can do to get his interest (if you're really willing to take things there). By mailing back and forth do you mean by sending mail to one another, or shooting messages over Facebook? If you literally mail back and forth, then try talking over Facebook. Don't just send messages when you get a moment, comment on his wall every once in a while, or send him an IM chat. Ask him after a good conversation how he'd feel about talking over the phone, since randomly calling without a heads up if you've never done it before, wouldn't really be the best of ideas. Talk to him about different things though. Keep things light and friendly, and keep the jokes rolling. For me personally, the more I joke around with a guy and make him laugh and show that he makes me laugh, the more likely he gets interested. Talk to him about what he's interested in, and show him you're interested in his day, by asking questions, giving positive feedback when he says something, etc. Also, be a little flirty, but not too much so, either with how you say something over Facebook like "Heyyy you! ;)" or something along those lines. The hard part isn't how you talk or getting his interest though, it's making sure you're willing to before you see him again in the future (if you do). So before all else contemplate the situation thoroughly and then just be yourself when you talk to him.
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