How long after a girl is single should you wait before asking out? Is this a good ide

[denise_xo]

Come on, Kain. You have been waiting for them to break up for a long time so that the two of you might have a chance, you have said so in several of your threads here on LS. Being someone's friend is different than being romantically interested in someone. There's obviously nothing wrong with the latter, and being interested in someone doesn't mean that you don't care about their well being. But friendships and romantic interests are fundamentally different things.

 

Cobaltblue has it right

 

Also realize one thing, whenever you try and date someone you risk loosing them as a friend, plain and simple. Its up to you to decide if its worth it.

 

This is the way it goes. So make a choice, and act on it. I hope it works out.

[Kain Highwind]

Come on, Kain. You have been waiting for them to break up for a long time so that the two of you might have a chance, you have said so in several of your threads here on LS. Being someone's friend is different than being romantically interested in someone. There's obviously nothing wrong with the latter, and being interested in someone doesn't mean that you don't care about their well being. But friendships and romantic interests are fundamentally different things.

 

Cobaltblue has it right

 

 

 

This is the way it goes. So make a choice, and act on it. I hope it works out.

 

Well I mean, sure, I'd be disappointed if it doesn't work, but I'm ready to move on if it doesn't. I'd still like to keep her as a friend though.

 

We were friends first after all lol

[Kain Highwind]

So... Now that I figured out that I'm extremely stupid, what would be the best way of asking her out on a date? (I always get really nervous >_>)

[mo mo]

So... Now that I figured out that I'm extremely stupid, what would be the best way of asking her out on a date? (I always get really nervous >_>)

 

I don't think anyone would call you stupid, just naive about dating and romance. We've all been there at some point, which is why we can give you solid advice.

 

To be honest, I don't think you're ready for a relationship. I've followed your threads. You've said stuff like "she means more to you than anyone" yet you've only seen her briefly over the past few months. I am not saying she isn't amazing or anything, I am just saying you have put way too much thought into this and now that you have an opportunity to make something happen, you really don't know what to do.

 

Inexperience doesn't make you a bad person, but in this situation, where she just got dumped, she could take you for an emotional rollercoaster and I'm not sure you're prepared to deal with that. It's a very sensitive time for her and quite frankly, you aren't the kind of guy she needs around.

[Kain Highwind]

I don't think anyone would call you stupid, just naive about dating and romance. We've all been there at some point, which is why we can give you solid advice.

 

To be honest, I don't think you're ready for a relationship. I've followed your threads. You've said stuff like "she means more to you than anyone" yet you've only seen her briefly over the past few months. I am not saying she isn't amazing or anything, I am just saying you have put way too much thought into this and now that you have an opportunity to make something happen, you really don't know what to do.

 

Inexperience doesn't make you a bad person, but in this situation, where she just got dumped, she could take you for an emotional rollercoaster and I'm not sure you're prepared to deal with that. It's a very sensitive time for her and quite frankly, you aren't the kind of guy she needs around.

I was mainly talking about the "omg she's avoiding me" thing yesterday. I forgot that she was gonna be there the day before >_>

 

Yeah, I will admit that I don't know what to do though, in this situation. Any other times, I haven't had problems but since this is so like... important, I'm worrying it a bit more than my past relationships lol

 

And it really wasn't dumped as much as "going back to friends". He had to do it apparently. It wasn't like he was caught cheating on her

[mo mo]

still dont know what you are waiting to hear

[Kain Highwind]

still dont know what you are waiting to hear

I really don't know either

 

I'm just really indecisive. Part of me wants to wait, part of me wants to do ti now

 

...And part of me is wondering how to even do it >_>