chryssy83 Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 About two years ago I dated a guy for about two months. He said he was really into me. We got along, I think he's attractive and a good guy. I still had an ex hanging around who I was kind of interested in, but I wasn't lying to anyone. Just dating. So then this guy got all antsy, saying I didn't like him enough, was just killing time. I would try to reassure him that I was not just killing time and I liked him and I'm slow about this sort of thing and just came out of a rough breakup, etc. He brought this up several more times, and finally I got frustrated and said that if I was making him unhappy maybe he was right and we should stop seeing each other. We texted some after that, then I asked him for coffee and he said he was seeing someone. Now I see him out and about. We talk. He isn't with a girl, he acts very friendly and a little nervous, and never mentions a girlfriend when I ask what's new in life. I am thinking about emailing him at work (I don't have his phone number anymore since I killed a phone a while back and lost the numbers) and just saying again it was really good to see him and I'd like to meet up with him again sometime if he's game. I keep telling myself the worst that can happen is he will say he's not interested or is with someone (although I really doubt he's attached based on his behavior). And then I'm back where I am now. OH! And the ex isn't around anymore. There is noone else in the picture and I feel like I'm more capable of doing what he wanted in the first place in terms of making myself available to him in the relationship and expressing interest. Thoughts?
Imajerk17 Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 I'd be impressed. Go for it! PS: There are a bunch of "old-fashioned" women on here who don't believe in making a move like that. It's a problem if you're doing things like initiating getting physical, planning dates, and so on. But you're just making the first push to get the ball rolling. So it's great.
mtber75 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Go for it! Nothing more sexier than a woman making the first move:)
Author chryssy83 Posted February 24, 2011 Author Posted February 24, 2011 I did it. Not sure that the email address was right...I just used the formula of other employees at his work with his name. And then got no response. So now I don't know if he didn't get the email because the address was incorrect or if he got it and didn't respond because he thinks I was completely out of line. Can't figure out any way to know for sure, so I guess it's just a missed connection one way or another. Kind of bummed, though.
musemaj11 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 I did it. Not sure that the email address was right...I just used the formula of other employees at his work with his name. And then got no response. Why would anyone send a letter without even knowing the right address?
blackmagik Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 I wouldn't say its a missed connection yet. Maybe he is busy formulating a response or who says it even got to him. Next time you see him just say hey I happened to lose your number but it would be great to do something sometime. If he is interested he'll let you know. I would have to agree, the woman making one of the first moves is super hot. Just sayin.
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