What if it really is love...

[OpenBook]

More like not believing lies by those who are helping to destroy marriages.

 

Nah. Clearly the M was self-destructing on its own before the AP even came into the picture - otherwise the CS wouldn't have placed themselves on the market to begin with.

[Snowflower]

Nah. Clearly the M was self-destructing on its own before the AP even came into the picture - otherwise the CS wouldn't have placed themselves on the market to begin with.

 

Wait, I thought the common mantra in affairs was "it just happened." Or, "you can't help who you fall in love with."

 

Now, the CS is purposely putting themselves out there on the market to cheat? So the A didn't "just happen" then? I'm so confused!

[findingnemo]

For the BS, perhaps. For the APs though, it certainly can be love (and in most of the stories on LS, it is )

 

Speaking in absolutes merely shows off one's own prejudices; it doesn't address the unique situation each poster brings. It just sends a signal to say, this poster cannot listen but can only broadcast, like those dolls who say prerecorded phrases when you pull their strings.

 

 

 

Nemo - you identify positives and negatives with both possible outcomes. That is realistic: seldom is anything completely uncomplicated. But you present only two possible scenarios - him rejecting you, or you ending up with him. The reality may be more complex. He may respond positively to your approach, but not offer you togetherness immediately (he would first have to D, etc) - what would your response be to that? How long would you be willing to wait? Would you be prepared to accept some "in between" situation in the interim, or would you tell him to contact you once he'd sorted his life out? How strongly would you be able to stick to your "bottom line" if he offered you some, but not all, of what you want?[/QUOTE]

 

Hi OWoman,

 

I could swear I responded to this a few days ago...Well, your questions gave me a lot to think about and frankly, I do not know what I would do. Your questions made me realize that I am living in lala-land if I think he will just get up and leave his wife. Since I last posted, MM's company and mine are partnering on a project further complicating matters. NC is virtually impossible. I have put off the "ultimatum" mainly because I'm a coward and any reason to postpone it seems welcome. I can't handle an A right now with anybody.

 

Thanks for your advice:)!