Perplexed81 Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 So today is officially 63 days NC. I just happen to be cruising the forums and thought "I wonder how long its been?". Its crazy how long its been since last contact, seems like its flown by now. I still have 4 friends on my FB that are closely associated to her 1. Her single school teacher friend, 2. Her Dad, 3. Her sisters husbands Daughter, 4. Her sisters husbands brothers Wife and didn't defriend them as I didn't want to appear like a little high school kid. Apparently though, since the breakup, my EX of 2 years (you can read about the breakup in my earlier threads) has been hanging out with the one single friend she had which is like 10 years older than her and a school teacher. From what I can tell now that she's been single, since all of the people in our circle were married she's now the odd ball out and doesn't hang with them much. It used to be me, her sis, her sis's husband, a married couple which were close friends of ours her sisters brothers husband and wife and maybe the outsider which was the woman whom she hangs out with alot now. It wasn't until recently I logged onto my FB and the school teacher friend whom she's bff's now I guess, posted pics of some post high school kids that were over at her house along with her daughter which is also in high school. This friend took pics of my ex and some 19 or 20 year old all snuggled together. Well, by curiousity, i visited this guy's FB and he made the pic of him and my ex all snuggled up together his main pic and alot of people were asking if this was his GF. He never answered yet she still has single on her profile. At first when I saw this, I was like WTF? it wasn't pics of kissing or doing anything just snuggled up together LOOKING like a couple. I was like damn thats sad if its true, my ex is 30 years old and all snuggled up with a 19 year old???? Not to mention the friend that posted these pics up is like almost hitting 40????? There was like 30 or so comments on this picture people asking if they were together but there was never a clear answer. She still has single on her's from what a friend told me, she doesn't comment on his page at all except for one comment on this said picture were she says "We are just tooo dang CUTE!!" No i'm not FB stalking, I saw this as everything has been quiet for the past few months and when this popped up on my FB becuase i'm still friends with this school teacher friend on FB I got curious and just checked it out. Most people in denial would assume this was just a publicity stunt to get a reaction out me but I don't know, I just left it what it was, WIERD but never contacted her or anything at all. I told myself I've made it this far and I'm not gonna go back to square one again. My ex is a scorpio women and from what I heard about them, NC doesn't work, they'll stick to their guns to the very end, I may be wrong but I don't remember her EVER contacting an ex or iniating anytype of contact with any ex the entire time we were together so I guess that answers my question. Anyways, enough rambling, what do you guys think about the pictures? trying to make me jealous or just an honest being silly type thing by a couple of older women?
Author Perplexed81 Posted February 20, 2011 Author Posted February 20, 2011 By the way, I analyze things, its my nature. I noticed the guy whom she was all snuggled up with was all opposite of me. I'm wore Boston Red Sox hats all the time, this guy was wearing a Yankees hat, I drank coors light, her and him were drinking Bud Light, this guy was clean shaven and I always sported a goatee. Again I probably over analyze but its the things I noticed.
willpower Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Honestly buddy, I dont care how analytical you are you have to let go of this. Look at it like this - the way your mind is working is tormenting you. Just the very fact you have posted this shows what a negative effect its having on your mindset. I had my ex's best freind on FB after we split, I just noticed a passing comment on a status she posted about a celebrity guy - all of her girlfreinds (incl my ex) were posting "ohh he's so hot" etc then my ex's best freind posted "stand aside girls, I am the only single on the group after all" which by deduction meant my ex was still the with guy she left me for. This literally destroyed me. I since deleted her and blocked her as I found she had an open profile and I was finding myself looking for comments even after I deleted her from my freinds. Best thing I ever did. Its not that I have anything against any of them - but it was making me mentally ill seeing that stuff. Block those contacts and start living again as though your never going to see her again.
Rose T Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Hey Perplexed! I opened this thread to congratulate you on 63 days NC - amazing stuff! I'm on 19 days and just starting to feel better. Willpower's right, you are in such a good place now and you've displayed amazing self-discipline, don't waste your time worrying about photos on Facebook. We've all been there - my ex left me for a co-worker, I was going round Facebook to try and work out how "official" she was by seeing which of my ex's friends had added her as a friend... sad or what, lol?! Worst case scenario, yes, she is going out with this guy and maybe they'll have a relationship. There, I've said it. Don't go there, don't dwell on it... you can't do anything about it, it'll just screw with your head. Concentrate on your happiness and your future, not her's. You're doing brilliantly.
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