V4Vanna Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 I went out for drinks with a guy a couple nights ago - I had a great time and thought he did too. At the end of the night he mentioned getting together again and I agreed. He stated he'd 'text me or something.' My question - do I leave it at that and wait for him to make the move and contact me? Or do I show him I'm interested and contact him? I'm usually traditional and think the guy should make the next move - but had a really great time so am wondering if I should contact him if I don't hear from him in the next day or so, just to show him I did have a fun time.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Ahhh, the infamous "text you or something". I usually employ that line when I want to keep the woman wondering, keep my mysterious factor up. It appears to be working on you eh? Wait until he contacts you. But there is no specific rule, not sure what the deal is with woman and not wanting to make first contact. My ex was a great girl, and she made the first contact. Granted our relationship crashed and burned and I cheated on her, that's besides the point, she was a pretty good GF. If you really can't get him off of your mind, ****, shoot him a text - see what's up. I wonder how many good guys women miss out on over this "who contacts who" bs. Lol, such ridiculous games.
Nexus One Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 I wonder how many good guys women miss out on over this "who contacts who" bs. Lol, such ridiculous games. I really dislike that game too. If you really like each other, then it shouldn't matter who contacts whom. You'll like each other regardless.
musemaj11 Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 send him a three sentence text. Don't send him a long letter.
yah Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 After my first date with my now-SO, I sent him a text msg first. I've never been the first to make contact but I don't regret it and it didn't make him like me any less.
glimmer Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Text him. I don't think it matters who texts at this point, if you are both into each other. As long as overtime it's balanced ...sometimes he texts first sometimes you do. Don't always be the one to text.
oaks Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 The man always initiates contact. More wisdom from the boy who's never been in a relationship.
jane100 Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 He said he'd contact you. He will remember what he said. So let him do that. Don't chase him.
waynebrady Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 More wisdom from the boy who's never been in a relationship. So am I wrong? How does it look in the majority of all relationships? Who initiates contact more, the man or the woman? Who usually initiates contact in the early stages? Yes, I've never been in a relationship but I don't need to too know that men are the ones who initiates contact. That's common sense like the sky is blue and grass is green.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 A person who does not give you a specific date on getting together already put you on the back burner.
Nexus One Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 A person who does not give you a specific date on getting together already put you on the back burner. I'm not sure about that. Unless he has his schedule for the next weeks with him he can't guarantee to be available when picking a date right there on the spot.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I'm not sure about that. Unless he has his schedule for the next weeks with him he can't guarantee to be available when picking a date right there on the spot. I know alot of busy people who can at least give me the weekends.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I know alot of busy people who can at least give me the weekends. Alot doesn't mean nor equate to "all". Sorry.
SmileFace Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 A person who does not give you a specific date on getting together already put you on the back burner. I agree . Anybody who usually gives me a wishy washy answer was usually just blowing me off in a pleasant way. Unless this dude has three kids , a dog and a wife . I don't see why he couldn't have gave you a specific date from the beginning. I won't say he isn't interested but his ending just kept you on the back burner. If his other endeavours don't work out - I am pretty sure he will be contacting you.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Alot doesn't mean nor equate to "all". Sorry. Alot in this context still outnumbers just one.
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