BrokenFool Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Hi Guys I am new to LS but have been reading posts on here for the last couple of months just wanted peoples opinions on what I am going through Got introduced to Marie by a mutual friend 3 years ago, we talked on the phone expressed views, talked about our pasts and what we wanted for the future and I decided we wouldnt suited, well she cried and said she was going to come to my town and whether I went to see her or not was up to me I ended up going and we started going out, she lived 300 miles away so it was a LDR, I noticed a guy on here facebook and asked is that your ex ? She said NO it isnt i Swear knowing i wouldnt want her to be talking to her ex we would talk at night and she would drop my call or put me on hold suddenly and say oh sorry it was my sister ringing , at midnight ?this happened frequently well rather than go on ill summarise what then happened she started dumping me every six weeks or so - for anything and everything , and i am talking about just for saying something she didnt like , i would get dumped , deleted of facebook, bbm, have all my texts and calls ignored , i would beg and plead for a week then she would be back with me and the cycle would repeat itself, at the times when i didnt beg and plead she would contact me using a excuse to get us talking again or send me a pic message saying sorry i didnt mean to send that in 3 years i got dumped over 150 times and according to her i was to blame for every argument, she dumped me before christmas, before my masters exams, for two of my birthdays and STILL like a dumbo I kept trying for her I will give you an example of some of the dumpings and please guys give me your opinion if you think i was in the wrong we were in a hotel and everything was fine, around midnight she got a call and let it go to voicemail, she listened to the voicemail i said who was it she said oh just a friend, we had sex, went to sleep, at 4am i wake up and she isnt in bed next to me , i look in the bathroom not there, shes sat in the windowsill looking really stressed, so i ask whats up, nothing she says i couldnt sleep so was just sat here, i said no whats up you have been stressed ever since you got that voicemail, she flipped started packing her stuff, i dont want to be with somebody who thinks im a slag, i had to physicaly restrain her and assure her i wasnt thinking that and in the morning she was normal again it was her birthday, she wasnt talking to me but i begged and pleaded to go see her on her birthday, got her a cake made which looked like a designer handbag, a real rose with her name laser engraved on it, wrapping paper with our pics on it, drove up 300 miles checked into a hotel she came i saw her for 30 mins, she liked her presents we had sex and she went home, she rang me the next day saying i think we should give things another go , i said dont just say that because i did something nice for your birthday , say it cos you mean it, i do she said, 2 days later she dumped me again because i said i was tired because of the journey home ( ie 300 miles to see her and 300 miles back) and she said i dont wanna be with somebody who tries to make me feel guilty in these 3 years i have been accused of being with her for money, sex, because im lonely, called weak, a stalker because i looked at her facebook and said something about a guy she has on her friends list , found out the guy on her facebook was her ex, she had stayed in touch with him behind my back, been chatting to him at nights despite him having a girlfriend, had sent him picture messages, stayed up till 5am chatting to him, had disappeared for nights saying she took night nurse and it knocked her out, had urine infections, cracked skin between her arse cheeks, she would say to me i know i will never find anybody who cares about me as much as you do i love how you are always there for me i was telling my sister how sweet you are your my little puppy etc etc but keep dumping me every 6 weeks at the start she wanted marriage and i said we cant get engaged until you stop dumping me every 6 weeks, that never happend and later when i offered engagement she didnt want it so my question is what is going on with her ? will she EVER realise she did me wrong ? why the hell do i still love her and think about her so much ? ps: once when i DID have the strngth to walk away she invented ( im pretty much 90% sure of it) a death in the family abroad as a way of getting talking to me again, said that death had made her realise how i am always there for her love her so much etc, then proceeded to dump me a week later thanks for your replies
2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Sounds like she is stringing you along and you are letting her do it. I would seriously try and ignore her from now on for your own sanity, unless that's what you want (what is happening now). She sounds insecure, flaky and doesn't know what she wants. She seems to have one or ten other people on the go and is telling them the same things as she is telling you, you are so special and all that so you will be there when SHE decides not you. Crash and burn it dude. 2011
Author BrokenFool Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 Thanks Dude I dont know what I see in her, shes not treated me good, never taken responsibility for her actions and blames me for everything havent spoken to her for a month and a half NC for 31 days now and I have changed my mobile number and deleted my facebook profile My honest take is she was still in love or in a relationship with her ex (despite him having a girlfriend) when she got with me and it was too much for her, no matter what i did i wasnt him once whilst in the middle of having sex she started crying saying your gonna leave me i know you are i feel it, i consoled her promised her i wouldnt leave her only to be dumped a week later for saying the sunglasses she bought me for christmas were letting a lot of sunlight in to say they were expensive and designer they were quite poor on that aspect, what do i see in her ? why do her thoughts still trouble me ? why did i make up after all them times ? i think that gave her the licence to do whatever she wants knowing i couldnt walk away
Wilie Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Wow, how much abuse you going to take before you end this?
Author BrokenFool Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 To be honest how can i say it even started when she dumped me within the first two months then kept on dumping me for 3 years, yes i know i should have walked away but at the times when i would she would find a reason to contact me and i would be her little puppy again, she would feed me nice thoughts and words, buy me gifts to show me how much she thought of me and the cycle would repeat itself again and again she would put me down, ignore 100s of my calls and texts before even letting me talk to her and still like a dumbo i kept on taking it she dumped me the day before a exam, i failed the exam because my head was everywhere and then she said thats god punishing you for lying all the time she would start having sex with me then burst out crying midway still i stayed is the problem with me ???
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