todd Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 My ex and I broke up a while ago because she was insecure about her feelings toward me and wanted to see if she truly loved me or she thought had such a strong connection because I was her first and she read you never truly can get over your first. She is three years younger then me and we are in college so she always wanted to just be single, live the college life, and not want to settle down at all (I told her I was all for it, it is meant to be it will happen again). She says she has it in her head that she can not get back together with me until she knows I am the one. I was just wondering if younger women really will just break off a relationship to be single for a while or was there underlying problems that I have to figure out on my own and she jsut used the single line to me. Either way right now I am in NC and doing my own thing (working out, rock climbing, going out, etc.). Just wondering if "I just want to be single right now" should be taken as it is or as you screwed up in the relationship somehow and you have to figure that out on your own. Thanks for your guys opinions.
2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 (edited) Yes women, and guys too, use all sorts of excuses to get out of a RL, which is wrong really because it is more honest and less hurtful on the other person if you just say look it aint working, maybe another time but not just the now, instead of all this want to be friends and it's not you it's me horse ****. If they cared about you they would be honest and not keep you tagging along. My ex did this to me, said she wanted to still go out with me but just ignored me and flaked out; in short she did not know WHAT she wanted, she was indecisive but her tune really changed towards me but never had the guts to tell me and just strung me along and made up excuses for a few months. I stupidly agreed to give it another shot after saying we should just call it a day. Respect her decision tell her you agree and it is for the best, wish them well and to have a good life and move on. Go into NC and let them stew. Don't hang about for them hoping they will get back because you do not know if they will (plus they are taking all the power in the RL) and as I said it is disrespectful to you to effectively say look can you just wait about 6 months > 30 years till I make my mind up, which will probably be never; it shows they really don't give a **** about your feelings. 2011 Edited February 20, 2011 by 2011
SDA Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 This is what kinda happened to my ex.Both young and her wanting to be single is totally normal and what I have come to realize its for the best right now. We're young man we should be exploring the world and not be tied down. She doesn't know what she want's so let her do what she thinks she feels is right and leave her alone. If it's meant to be she'll come back.
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