tiger20 Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 If a woman expresses high interest in me but I have low interest in her should I date her anyway? Seeing as how it's not very often that a woman is going to be interested in me I might as well take advantage of those rare opportunities that a woman is into me & not take it for granted & pass it up. Who knows if I'll get another opportunity with another woman if I let this other woman go who has high interest in me? Women who have high interest in me are hard to come by. My interest level is really a moot point if the woman I like doesn't like me back. My goal in dating is to find the woman who is going to have high interest level in me since her interest level is the most important factor in the relationship.
P&R Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 If a woman expresses high interest in me but I have low interest in her should I date her anyway? Seeing as how it's not very often that a woman is going to be interested in me I might as well take advantage of those rare opportunities that a woman is into me & not take it for granted & pass it up. Who knows if I'll get another opportunity with another woman if I let this other woman go who has high interest in me? Women who have high interest in me are hard to come by. My interest level is really a moot point if the woman I like doesn't like me back. My goal in dating is to find the woman who is going to have high interest level in me since her interest level is the most important factor in the relationship. I guess you could take her on a date or two and if nothing happens then tell her things aren't working out.
eric82 Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Of course not. Just like the your interest level is a moot point when she's not interested, so too is hers if you aren't interested in her. It's a two way street, man. Believe it or not, women are just people too, flawed, insecure, and just as worried about how you see them as you are about them. Get your sh*t together and you'll see it clearly. Once you realize this, maybe then you'll stop seeing them as some foreign unobtainable prizes to win over and start seeing them as human beings who, at the end of the day, aren't much different from guys like you or me... hormones aside
jane100 Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Of course not. Just like the your interest level is a moot point when she's not interested, so too is hers if you aren't interested in her. It's a two way street, man. Believe it or not, women are just people too, flawed, insecure, and just as worried about how you see them as you are about them. Get your sh*t together and you'll see it clearly. Once you realize this, maybe then you'll stop seeing them as some foreign unobtainable prizes to win over and start seeing them as human beings who, at the end of the day, aren't much different from guys like you or me... hormones aside Absolutely! Its nice to see sense on LS.
Author tiger20 Posted February 20, 2011 Author Posted February 20, 2011 But it's usually women who hold the rejection cards. They hold all the cards as to where the relationship is going & who they're going to reject. So a man's interest level is moot because when hold the cards on rejection. A man is always in the wrong for rejecting a woman.
spackle Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 But it's usually women who hold the rejection cards. They hold all the cards as to where the relationship is going & who they're going to reject. So a man's interest level is moot because when hold the cards on rejection. A man is always in the wrong for rejecting a woman. women hold the rejection cards? Seeing how most of the people posting here are women I don't see how that adds up tbh. If you're saying on the initial approach when more men ask women out, then yes I'd agree.
Graceful Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 If a woman expresses high interest in me but I have low interest in her should I date her anyway? Seeing as how it's not very often that a woman is going to be interested in me I might as well take advantage of those rare opportunities that a woman is into me & not take it for granted & pass it up. Who knows if I'll get another opportunity with another woman if I let this other woman go who has high interest in me? Women who have high interest in me are hard to come by. My interest level is really a moot point if the woman I like doesn't like me back. My goal in dating is to find the woman who is going to have high interest level in me since her interest level is the most important factor in the relationship. I don't see anything wrong with following up on a vibe when you think a woman is into you, even if you're not sure you're that into her. I say this because it appears that more and more, people are judging each other on a "quick view" basis and not really giving someone a chance. I know I am not an easy person to get to know, but I do have the gift of being a good conversationalist and am a fun dinner companion, so I tend to get asked out for at least a second date. But otherwise, do I think someone "knows" me after a few hours? Of course not. I dated a man that I had very little interest in, but who was a NICE person, always came up with interesting things for us to do, put EFFORT into seeing me, and you know what? He really grew on me, I gave him a real chance and while I did not fall deeply in love enough for it to last, I was very, very fond of him. We broke up very amicably, he was very hurt, but it was well worth the time and effort it took to spend time with him, and was the biggest surprise of my life that I became as attached as I did, since I was not very interested in the first few dates. This is, of course, a lot different than seeing something in someone that really turns you off that causes the lack of interest (heavy drinker, crass, sarcastic and mean-spirited, can sense total opposite value system, speaks badly of an ex, has tons of baggage, etc.). So if you meet someone that likes you, follow up. You have nothing to lose and you're giving someone a real chance to show you her personality, especially if she really might be someone who is a little shy or not the easiest person to get to know.
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 If a woman expresses high interest in me but I have low interest in her should I date her anyway? Seeing as how it's not very often that a woman is going to be interested in me I might as well take advantage of those rare opportunities that a woman is into me & not take it for granted & pass it up. Who knows if I'll get another opportunity with another woman if I let this other woman go who has high interest in me? Women who have high interest in me are hard to come by. My interest level is really a moot point if the woman I like doesn't like me back. My goal in dating is to find the woman who is going to have high interest level in me since her interest level is the most important factor in the relationship. Yes give her a shot. You never know how these things work out in the end unless you try. However, if you are very unnattracted to her physically its a bad idea. I see too many guys who are fat or poor thinking that they deserve to date supermodels. Its silly.
Leeway Harris Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 There's no harm in spending some time with her and seeing if your feelings change. But keep in mind, try not to lead her to think you're feeling something that you're not. That could be very messy in the end.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Hell no. I barely even speak to women I have no interest in lol...messed up but that's life. Unattractive women get no kind of attention from me, unless I'm in a professional setting or a social setting. Besides that, I won't even look their way really. :S
tami-chan Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 If a woman expresses high interest in me but I have low interest in her should I date her anyway? Seeing as how it's not very often that a woman is going to be interested in me I might as well take advantage of those rare opportunities that a woman is into me & not take it for granted & pass it up. Who knows if I'll get another opportunity with another woman if I let this other woman go who has high interest in me? Women who have high interest in me are hard to come by. My interest level is really a moot point if the woman I like doesn't like me back. My goal in dating is to find the woman who is going to have high interest level in me since her interest level is the most important factor in the relationship. You got what you are striving for...what else do you need? affirmation and approval from anonymous people on the net? Grow a pair and be responsible for your own decisions.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Tiger let me ask you this. Why would you want to be with a woman who does not interest you? There is only one positive that can come from doing that if you are the manipulative type. There are some women who are only going to be interested in a man who other women are interested in. Plus having a girlfriend/dating makes a man look more desirable in general. It's the reason that some guys will wear a wedding ring and go out to pick up women. Dating a woman you don't find interesting might make women you do find interesting interested in you. Like I said though, that's a really manipulative and horrible thing to do. Essentially using one woman, to increase your social status, to get a more desirable woman. You have to be able to live with being so very manipulative.
MarlyStar Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 But it's usually women who hold the rejection cards. They hold all the cards as to where the relationship is going & who they're going to reject. So a man's interest level is moot because when hold the cards on rejection. A man is always in the wrong for rejecting a woman. So when a man and a woman have a great date and then she never hears from him again, that's not rejection? Men have just as many rejection cards.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 So when a man and a woman have a great date and then she never hears from him again, that's not rejection? Men have just as many rejection cards. I really fear for the future of the human race with all this talk about rejection cards, and who has what kind of leverage or power in male-female relations. The bottom line is people desire happiness more than anything. No one is ever going to reject someone for making them happy. To the larger point, I find nothing wrong with going on a date with someone you might not necessarily be crazy about. However, going on a series of dates with someone that you don't like is not a good idea. It's misleading and won't make you very happy in the end.
carhill Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 If a woman expresses high interest in me but I have low interest in her should I date her anyway? If high initial interest is your attraction style, stick to it. Approach only women you have high initial interest in. Note: As you go through life, you may find your attraction style changes due to personal growth, experience, relationships, etc. Accept that. If you're asking the question, her high interest in you appears to have little relevance to your attraction style. That's good information. If her high interest does not impel you to want to explore that potential, it doesn't. Go with that.
Questionis Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Tiger, you're not at pick and mix You don't need to try everything. Just date the girls you like. Lots of people seem to date for an ego boost, that can only take you so far. You want to invest in your long term happiness, not be out on the hustle every day of the week. You might be out there wasting time with this girl you don't really like and the girl of your dreams walks past. What will you do, pretend she is a friend? try to take her number anyway?They'll all make you look bad.
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