VanCan06 Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Hey LS, So I made a thread a week back about my situation and got some good advice. Basically my ex gf broke up with me because she was "too stressed to deal with a relationship right now" and said "we should better our lives before we can have a great relationship together". Well we broke up just over 6 weeks ago, and have been in no contact for 2, at my decision. I knew how the handle the break up at the time and didn't beg, plea etc, I just accepted it, in fact after the initial response I went no contact for a week, and then we talked a few times. I was there for a month later, and I helped her with a few problems she has been having, no relationship talk though. Then decided to go no contact without really saying anything. Anyway to the point... Over the past little while I have analyzed the relationship and what went wrong. I realize I was also to blame and that "stress" most likely wasn't the only factor. I can admit didn't have as much trust in her as I should have, and even though I didn't out right say it, my actions sometimes showed that. I realize some days I took her (and out relationship for granted) and I do regret that now. That's usually how it is though right, you realize how much you took something for granted when you don't have it anymore haha. What I'm asking is, should I break no contact, and apologize for how I've acted, and let her know I realize I too am at fault? Perhaps by a thoughtful email or letter? I have accepted the break up a while ago, I'm not sad about it anymore, sure I miss her and I have memories which make me sad to think it will most likely never happen again, but that's all they are are memories. I guess I would like to give it another chance since I have realized my mistakes and we ended on good terms, our relationship was overall great, and we never fought, bickered at each other a few times but never yelled. But I realize the chances are slim, and I'm not caught up on it. I personally think I would feel better if I let her know. I know most people say, stick with no contact, you have no reason to contact her anymore. But I feel if I did, one, she will know I realize I'm at fault as well, and I am sorry...and two, I will feel better knowing I gave it one last shot, and not have any "what if?" feelings. The way I see it, if she responds, that's cool. If it's a negative message, well I tried, I at least know her true feelings, if it's positive, great. If it's no response, well that's what would have happened anyway if I hadn't contacted her. So should I send an email or letter telling her I realize I too am at fault, and apologize for my problems which contributed to the break up? We are at 2 weeks no contact, been separated for just over 6 weeks.
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