Pathfinder Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 So theirs this club called 360 and i've gone twice with just my girls. My boyfriend dosen't like me going cause he says its a place for guys to pick girls up and vice versa, but i like going to just let loose and i only dance with my girls and when a guy tried to dance with me i turn them down. I tell him when i go every time and he always says that he doesn't like it but because he wants me to be happy he lets me go. Hes a rocker boy. Likes metal music and band T's. Which in my opinion is hot, but since we started dating hes adjusted his life to mine mostly to please my parents so they let us date. Basically what i'm saying is its not his scene to be there and i kno if he went with me he wouldn't have a good time then i would feel bad and i wouldn't be able to let loose and just have fun. I feel guilty for trying to have a good time. Am i being a bad girlfriend by doing this? Should i feel guilty even tho while I'm there I'm still completely faithful as always? I don't know what to do..
Nexus One Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 (edited) Don't feel guilty, I think he understands, but is insecure that you'll fall for some player that's hunting for one night stands at that club. But don't drag your boyfriend to that club if it's not his thing and tell him that you're loyal to him and not interested in any other guys and that you wouldn't jeopardize the relationship by cheating. Tell him that you're player-proof and just want to dance and have a blast with your friends. You need to be really clear and direct to your boyfriend in a tactful way. The fact that he lets you go proves that he puts your happiness above his own insecurities, which shows he has character. Edited February 20, 2011 by Nexus One
Author Pathfinder Posted February 20, 2011 Author Posted February 20, 2011 I have told him all this many times. He gave me mace and i carry it with me. The only excuse he keeps coming back with is that he hates the place. I know hes just looking out for me and is worried about my well being but i just wish that one time he would wish me off with a smile and tell me to have fun. but i doubt that will ever happen
Nexus One Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 The only excuse he keeps coming back with is that he hates the place. I guess it's somewhat in the nature of a metal-rocker to criticize and kick against such establishments, but I don't think it's something you necessarily have to take personal. Regardless of the fact if I agree with him or not, his argumentation is weak. If you really said those thing to him, then in my opinion you have your argumentation down right. And as long he doesn't come up with a better argumentation, then he has no real basis for his insecurities. And as long as he doesn't have a solid basis for it I think it's not justified for you to feel guilty about it. But I understand your take on it. He's your boyfriend, you love him and if there's any friction regarding anything it makes you feel bad. I get that.
Author Pathfinder Posted February 20, 2011 Author Posted February 20, 2011 Yea..tonight my Mama said i could go again but I'm not going cause i know it might upset him.. So im staying home and watching stupid movies ha thanks for your advice
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