tiff24 Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 My husband had an emotional and physical affair with a girl that was separated from her husband. I was pregnant at the time and he gave me an STD from it. I wanted to leave him right then and there, but I was pregnant with our 2nd child and I was scared of being alone. I still love him, but it hurts every time I think about it. I just can't understand how someone can intentionally hurt the one they love. I can tell he is truelly sorry and he has cut off all contact with her, but I just can't stop thinking that he is lying even though he tells me his plans whenever they change. So I guess what I am asking is if this will ever stop hurting if I stay with him or should I just end it? P.S. He was gone for work for 3 weeks and I missed him with all my heart by the end of the 3 weeks. So if that helps anyone give me a better answer. Thanks
Soxfaninfl Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Raising a child is tuff on your own. I do it half the time on my own. I've been separated from my wife for 11 months. You would be raising a child and a infant. What he did was wrong, but that is a choice that you have to make. I would suggest seeing a counselor to help you heal. It's going to take you a long time to heal from this.
locnlove10 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I'm sorry you are going through this especially the STD part. I hope you got that taken care of especially with the baby. Like the other person said. Although we come here for advice and opinions the decision is ultimately yours to make. True enough the trust is an issue because he broke that but if you chose to forgive him then you have to move on and not dwell on it and keep bringing it back up because it will never work like that. Raising 2 kids is very hard and the economy being the way it is do you think you can walk away from that and be able to maintain. I'm not saying stay with him for that reason but at least think about it for the sake of your children. I think you should communicate with him more even while he is gone to make sure there is no dead air and you all are keeping the communication line open because if that shuts down on top of the trust issues that''s a recipe for disaster. Maybe you all should consider counseling to see what each other feelings are thus far. I know a guy who specializes in these types of things and has helped thousands of marriages, relationships, and more. If you want you can check out the website and see if you find some value in it. At the end of the day it's your decision. I will never tell anyone to leave their situation because I really don't know their situation and sometimes no matter what you tell a person they are still going to do what they want. I hope you can work it out and you all make it work. best of luck. Oh...here's the site I mentioned magicofmakingup.com
Distant78 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I'm sorry this happened to you. You know you need to leave right now. Hope your kids are fine. Take them and go somewhere safe. The man put your life at risk sexually and not only that he betrayed his vows. How do you know when he leaves for work he's not doing it again. That's just disgusting he gave you an STD. Him saying sorry with a long face doesn't cut it what he put you through. You can find someone else better than that. Someone who will take care of you when your pregnant and not think about cheating and sticking his penis in another woman unprotected.
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