rivers Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 Hi, I'd like your thoughts of my situation. I live with my girlfriend of two years, and with several other very close mutual friends in the same building. We both will be soon moving to new jobs (her first, then me) in another state. She received an outstanding offer first, and I found a nearby position later that I am very happy with, and so neither of us is giving up our career to be near the other. I am not sure whether we should stay together or not, and so I want to talk about it in a safe place, realizing that there is a fair probability that we will decide to separate or possibly even break up. If it were to happen right now, I feel that would be devasting to the current living community for the last months that we are here (and possibly for our friends for time after we're gone, especially if there are problems and they end up taking sides). I'm also worried, if we have the conversations after she moves out, that she won't have as much of a support system (she does have a couple friends in the new area where she'll be living). So what would you do and/or advise? Talk about it right now, after she moves out next month and we're living apart, or after I move into the area in a few months? Thanks!
betsssssy Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 I think the best course of action is almost always to talk about a situation as soon as it arises. If this is on your mind so much, it will almost certainly affect your behavior. Just because you open the discussion right now, doesn't mean that you will break up tomorrow. A month is not very long, and you will have the chance to really share your ideas on the subject.
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