Torredor Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 [FONT=Calibri]Hi guys[/FONT] [FONT=Calibri]Need your help in deciphering something. I met a girl at a wedding couple months back, exchanged a few words but not much as she sat next to her friends and I mine. Anyway I really wanted to talk to her but the evening passed before I could, so I found her through a mutual friend on Facebook, yet we haven’t added each other. Sent her an email and asked if she would like to meet for coffee. She agreed, we met and had a pleasant chat. We didn’t exchange phone numbers but kept sending emails back and forth for the next month or so as we both went on holiday. A friend of mine had a wedding coming up and I asked this girl if she wouldn’t mind going with me. She agreed and we arranged the finer details. I picked her up from her home and drove through to the wedding about 50 miles away. We chatted and all was going well. After the wedding ceremony, alcoholic drinks were served and I asked whether I can get her anything as I will not have anything right now as I’ve never mixed well with alcohol and besides I haven’t eaten in 10 hours and still have to drive. At the reception champagne was being served and I politely asked that not too much be poured for me. I saw the alcohol percentage was 7,5% and I thought no harm could come from champagne being poured only two fingers high in those slim champagne glasses. Wow, I’ve never made such a blunder and boy did my world spin after three toasts and three tiny sips. I immediately told my date I’m not feeling well and my world is hurtling at a hundred miles and hour. Luckily she chatted with the girl next to us, so the evening wasn’t a complete waste for her. On the way back I apologized profusely for my lack of judgment and behaviour. Early the next morning I took her back home and to be honest not a lot was said. Probably because we were tired but I think mostly because the realisation of what happened hit me and I was incredibly ashamed and embarrassed and have a tendency of brewing on my mistakes.[/FONT] [FONT=Calibri]I decided to send her a email the Monday after in which I were to apologise one last time but tell her that I like her, thought we could’ve chatted for hours, wanted nothing more than for her to enjoy the weekend and that I dearly would like to see her again. She replied the next day and I’ll quote: “I have to tell you, that I feel the same way about u!” I sent two more emails after this to which she has replied to first one only but that’s not why I’m here.[/FONT] [FONT=Calibri] As it was Valentine ’s Day recently I’d send her a text message wishing her a happy day. Nothing lovey dovey it was a quote from a TV-show we both like, that joked with the traditional Valentine’s gifts. I also asked whether she would like to go to a Valentine’s ball in town. I didn’t hear from throughout the whole day so I texted again just to check if she got the first message. She did, said it was sweet and that she couldn’t go as she had made prior arrangements. A couple of days later I suddenly got the urge to say good night but it was slightly late so I just sent a short text through. Nothing long 40 to 50 characters, again nothing suggestive just a plain and simple good night … I haven’t heard from her in two days now. Not replying to the last email I can understand as she is a third year student and has a busy schedule but what am I suppose to read between the lines if she doesn’t reply to the text. How could things take such a turn for the worse in a week?[/FONT] [FONT=Calibri]Now I have a few thoughts. When she said she also liked me, should the method by which we contacted each other have changed? Should I’ve called and texted now and more frequently than emailing? Wouldn’t it be a bit odd to just suddenly change things like that but if I should’ve, how do I fix things now? I really do like her! Should I ask her if perhaps the Valentine ’s Day text gave the wrong impression or if she perhaps expected more? She couldn’t have expected flowers and chocolates after only seeing each other twice in two months and only corresponding through emails … could she? I just feel the Valentine’s text was the start of my dilemma or am I being paranoid.[/FONT] Help!
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