vanek26 Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 Hey all. So I've been seeing this girl for about 3 weeks now... we've gone out a handful of times. Our personalities really mesh well, and we've noted that we have yet to encounter the dreadful 'awkward silence.' So I'm hoping to foster an actual relationship with this girl that may potentially become serious down the road. Things have progressed fairly well so far. We hung out a few times, then started getting more physical with passionate kisses. But as of yet, we still haven't really come close to having sex at all. Now, I don't view sex as an end in itself, but rather a means to an end. I want to have sex with her because I believe it will help determine the potential longevity of our relationship. I've been with girls who gave it away on the first date which doesn't ever end well, but I've also been with girls who never wanted to advance past kissing... and in some ways that feels even worse. We had a chat about it on valentine's day, when we went out for dinner and i asked her if she wanted me to come over after. She said "sure... but my mom is home." and we both laughed about that cancelling out our chance at having sex. I still went to her place, and her mom was there, so we just all watched tv together. She also revealed that she only has had one sexual partner in the past... but nonetheless was fairly open in talking about it. I figured that this was a good step, because talking about it may subconsciously increase my chances. So that brings tomorrow. We're getting together in the afternoon. And she texted me tonight saying that she has a place picked out, and she's bringing one of her good girl-friends for me to meet. Part of me likes that she is showing me to her friends (being kept a secret usually doesn't bode well) but in the back of my mind I feel like she may be bringing a third person to stunt the intimacy. I suggested we return to her place afterwards, and she said 'sure'. So I guess I need to play it by ear. I don't want to come off as some fiend who is only after sex... but I suppose I'm unsure how much I need to poke and prod to get it. With some girls... I have found you almost literally have to rip their pants off even if they wanted it the whole time. Would you suggest I be extra aggressive in order to get to the point, or continue at this slow pace at risk of never getting anywhere at all? Thanks!
blackmagik Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 I don't think being overly aggressive is ever a good play. She has already allowed you to come into her house with her so take that as a good sign that she is trusting. You guys have also already talked and joked about it so she does know what is on your mind. Sex is always better when it comes natural and isn't aggressively pursued in my opinion. Women know what they want and when they want to have sex. You did your part by letting her know that you are interested in that. Being any more pushy than that could just ruin the relationship all together.
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