animation Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 (edited) I'll apologise in advance as this is probably going to be slightly longer than anticipate but I feel I have a lot to get off my chest. So, my girlfriend has a 'friend', I say that because I think he is her friend, but he wants more than friends. I trust her 90%, we're relatively new together and I'm not one to believe trust comes in a day and I'm really trying to get over that barrier. Her friend see's more in her, I'm sure of it - and as much as she says he doesn't I'm sure she can tell he does as well. Now this all sounds rather childish, I know but her facebook page is filled with his comments, she's told me storys about how when they're out together he's tried to touch her, etc. etc. I raised the issue with her when it started, explaining I know it's not her fault this guy has a thing for her, but whatever it is needs to be stopped. She got all defensive and it ended in a row (this is what happens every time we have the conversation). A few weeks ago he asked her to spend valentines day with him as I was away (I've never met the guy, and I thought this was over-stepping the mark) so again I bought up the issue, the same thing happened and it just resulted in me feeling guilty for bringing it up. He likes every post I write to her on facebook, anything she's written about me (I know probably just to annoy me) but it's so difficult because I can't say/do anything to him because I've promised her I wouldn't but obviously whatever she is doing isn't working and it's causing our relationship to become a mess. Today I realised that this could be a lack of trust issue, there's a group of 4 of them that go out (her best friend, her best friends boyfriend - him and her) and next week they're going away for her birthday and staying in a hotel. I guess what I'm fearing is losing her or something happening and me never knowing (her friend is cheating on her boyfriend all the time), this is destroying my relationship with her and I don't know how to resolve it, and I guess never really explained why it makes me feel so ****ty because I know deep down it's because I think I can't trust her completely yet. Since day 1 I've tried to be as completely open and honest with her because I know she's something really special and probably will be a massive chapter of my life, I have some really good female friends and she's fine with that. I guess what I'm asking for is to help resolve this messy situation, do I go against what she has said and speak to him? Do I explain to her exactly what I feel? Or do I break it off because the constant annoyance and worry it's causing me? Thanks. Animation. Edited February 19, 2011 by animation
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