Stung Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 (edited) How long were you single before you met your current significant other? Or, how long have you currently been single? The longest I was ever completely single was a 2-year period in my mid-20s when I was celibate and going through therapy to exorcise some personal demons and recover from a major trauma. I met my husband when I was 30; I had been single for about six months before then, but dating unsuccessfully here and there (first and second dates with no sparks or with big red flags). I moved, and I registered for online dating and met a few men at the same time, dated them a couple of times each but wasn't too interested in any of them romantically. I met my husband online at this time, but he lived in the state/metro area I had just left. We IMed/emailed/talked on the phone for another six months as friends while we each still looked for somebody more local because neither of us wanted an LDR. Finally we met in person and everything snowballed rapidly into a serious relationship from there. So technically I was kind of single for a year before I started seeing my husband, although the last six months of that year he and I were in frequent communication and we were definitely on each other's radars. Edited February 24, 2011 by Stung
glimmer Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 The longest I've gone not in a serious relationship is two years, and it felt like eternity. I didn't want to date anyone past two dates and wouldn't let anyone close to me. ...because the breakup before that completely broke my heart.
Stung Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 The longest I've gone not in a serious relationship is two years, and it felt like eternity. I didn't want to date anyone past two dates and wouldn't let anyone close to me. ...because the breakup before that completely broke my heart. Yeah, I've had my heart stomped on bad a couple of times and remained single for a long time after, unwilling to engage again. Honestly, looking back, I can remember the pain but I can no longer clearly remember how long it took to start getting interested in dating again, or how I got back into the dating scene. Everything fuzzes over with time. I do remember having bad judgment about when to get involved again and who with, in hindsight. Rebounds, oy.
Crazy Magnet Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 The longest I had gone until my self imposed single period was a maybe 2 or 3 months (from the ages of 15 to 29). Even in my self imposed single phase (about 6 months) I was dating all the time and had a brief semi committed/FWB thing (until he turned into a nut job). For me, it seems like every time I'm single guys start crawling out of the wood work to ask me out and I'll generally accept at least a first date from anyone with the balls to ask. Why not? Sadly I don't think I've ever just been totally alone with no dates, male attention, etc.
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