kdark Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 Recently, I have been meeting and hanging out with a lot of very fun, and very attractive women from my classes in college. BUT, every single one of them has a boyfriend (or girlfriend in one case). One girl in particular, she told me that last year she had two boyfriends at the same time, and they both knew about each other, but now she was dating another guy she had met just a few months ago. Now another girl, I found out she has a boyfriend, but she honestly doesn't sound too happy with him, and complains about him whenever the topic comes up. I know another girl who does this as well. They aren't happy in their relationships. So why can't they end them and be single rather than complain all the time? That's what I do. It seems like it's a rare thing to just up and meet a girl who is just single. No baggage, no ex's in the picture, no children, and certainly no boyfriend. Just, single. I don't want to call them(these particular girls, not all women) serial daters, but the thought had crossed my mind. I've been single for a little over a year now, and I think I'm ready to give a monogomous relationship another shot. Is it too much to ask that I want to meet a woman who has been single for a little while, and has no baggage, like myself? Or should I keep my ear to the ground and swoop in when I hear one of these high quality women are single? How long were you single before you met your current significant other? Or, how long have you currently been single?
Disillusioned Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 My whole life, all 43 years of it. BTW you know what really burned my ass??? A couple of years ago, some hoity-toity matchmaker told me to my face that I don't deserve a relationship because I make less that 6 figures a year. I'm not pulling your leg.
angielove Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 I've been single since January 1st 2008! So just over three years. I have dated a few people during this time but not seriously and not for long.
catgotyourtongue Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 Hi no it's not too much to ask, but it seems like you are having a hard time finding what you want. Sorry about that. I have been single a lot in my life, I prefer it most of the time. I have commitment issues and a large social life, work hard, love my freedom, etc so I am only in relationships for a short time, rather than single for a short time. I have had several year long or two year long relationships but most of the time I am single. I love the freedom but I am at the point where I am finally eager for something more solid and permanent, or just more connected. Tired of the casual dating, online crap, lol and games. As for me, no ex fiances, no ex husbands, no kids, but I sure have a lot of baggage, ask anyone who has dated me, lol. So you never know... Crazy can lurk anywhere, and what looks like no or a little drama can turn on a dime & vice versa. But baggage is baggage, and most peeps have it, young peeps just have a lot less. So best to judge each situation individually. best of luck to you, I hope you find a great girl without too much baggage.
lenny Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 I'm not allowed to post because I have baggage galore. I was single and free for about three years (minus one 2 month stint) before my current relationship.
wbr4p Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 7 yearsssss..(just like that girl in The Ring movie who calls u up and says 7 days) yeah 7 years of no action
Cee Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 As for me, it was exactly 6.5 years before I met my current squeeze. And, oh my god, that felt like an eternity. But it was well worth the wait.
befreckled Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 I was single for 6 years before I met my current bf. Before those, I was in a relationship after relationship for a decade. Serial monogamist.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 Single in what sense of the word? I haven't had a LTR GF in almost 2 years but I've been with 11 different women since then.... :S Does that count?
Eclypse Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 I was single for the first 19 1/2 years of my life, and then been in a steady relationship for the last 10 or so months. Going pretty sweet atm
paleblue Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 ive been single since 7/08, by choice. dated lots so far. this is the second longest time ive ever been single. the last time i was single was for 5 years when i was like 19 or something. im 38 now. honeslty at this point, im actually feeling comfy with myself again.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 This is the longest ever for me -- almost 2 1/2 years. I dated someone for a few months in there, and went on a few single dates.
carhill Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 It seems like it's a rare thing to just up and meet a girl who is just single Yes, I didn't start finding those until I began to travel more in my mid-30's. Since then, I'd say the current 'single' period is the longest, since my exW and I physically separated in June 2009. At my age now, there are far more options, but I'm just not feeling it anymore, between having a circle of close friends and recovering emotionally and financially from the divorce. Being an only child and my parents both now being deceased, I don't have any genetic/familial pull for relationships and marriage and am quite comfortable and happy being alone. It will take a really balanced lady to change that.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 I was 18 when I first started dating... so I would say 18 years? My last LTR was 2 years ago.
Questionis Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 4 years 8 months. I've been on lots of dates though... Really dreading my half a decade anniversary though Damn you mr right!!!!!!!! Where the hell are you!!
Anxiety Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 37 years, and during that time there was a 10 year period without a single date. I've just started a new streak of 3 months, hopefully it doesn't last as long as the previous one.
Jynxx Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 25 years if you ignore relationships of under a month and start from birth. 3ish years if you start counting from puberty and count a ONS as a restart of the singleperiod.
heartshaped Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Maybe it's your area? Here it's the same way though. I haven't been single really except for a few months from when I started dating. The first guy I ever dated I dated for four years and the guy I'm with now I've been with for two. All of my girlfriends are taken too and have been so pretty since they started dating as well... But the last time I looked at the statistics there was a much higher percentage of men in my area than women so I think that might be behind some of it as well. The type of woman you are looking for is out there though. I wouldn't compromise on what you want just because you are having a bit of a hard time finding it.
Sivok Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Longest I've been single has been a year. I've currently been single for about 5 months
Butterflying Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 ...and before that it was three years. What's happening for me is that I've become more selective. I haven't met any guys who want to be in a relationship (because there are so many women willing to be FWB's) a lot of men don't have to have a girlfriend to get sex. So they're like "Why buy the cow when you get the milk free?"
Bridgey Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Well, I was 15 when I started my first serious relationship, I'm currently 19, and I was single for about 2 days in between my first relationship and my current. So either 15 years or 2 days
GivenUp0083 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 From age 24 to 27, 3 years and 7 months.
J200 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 It seems like it's a rare thing to just up and meet a girl who is just single. No baggage, no ex's in the picture, no children, and certainly no boyfriend. Just, single. I don't want to call them(these particular girls, not all women) serial daters, but the thought had crossed my mind. I'm a female and was single from 21-27, no BF and no sex! Just lots of porn and self-pleasing! For me, it's actually HARD to meet someone because I am so anti social and I have no friends and didn't have many friends when I was younger either. You would think that it would be easy for a woman to meet a man if she's attractive (Which I am). However I was so anti social I could never talk to anyone and had no friends to go out with or hang out with or introduce me to anyone. However, now in my 30's I do have immense emotional baggage from the two ex bf's in my lives. They are nowhere in the picture, however the emotional damage will probably last until the day I die.
Star Gazer Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 At 24-25, I spent my entire third year of law school (through the Bar Exam) technically single. I dated a lot, and had a TON of fun, but managed to avoid commitment. T'was a really good time. Right now (32) is the second longest... Almost 9 months! I'm startin' to feel the itch again.
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