4jms Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 img138.imageshack.us/g/50408554.jpg/ put an http: in front of that above Hey everyone, Ive been dating this girl for over a year. I stumbled upon the following pics about a week ago. Its from event at a friends house about a month ago. She's standing between this dudes legs at a party real close like. I looks like there kissing or something, another photo shows this guys face in her chest. Their hands are on each other... She swears she was just talking to him. then she said he was comforting her because she was drunk and crying because i treat her bad sometimes. By looking at the photos what do you think? She said I have every right to be mad but insists she did nothing with him. A week later i find texts on her phone (sexting) to a different guy about how she can please herself without me, admits doing anal, what she named her private parts. Just messed up stuff.... She said she was really sorry and doesn't know why she texted those things. Other than this I haven't ever really caught her doing anything questionable. This has been haunting me everyday since, not an hour goes by I don't think about it and the pain in my chest is almost unbearable. I feel like I can never trust her again and I never want her to go out with her trashy friends again. Its been about 2 weeks and I still feel so hurt by this. What should I do, should i give it more time or say goodbye? She's a single mom, Im 29 and running outta time to find a life partner so to speak. I have everything in life I want- 2 cars, a house, great stable income, but women are hard for me to come by. Low self esteem, trust issuses, etc...
tman666 Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Why was she out getting drunk at a party being a single mother? I don't think the photos show anything conclusive at all. However, based on what you've told us, she doesn't sound like a safe bet for long term relationship material.
Author 4jms Posted February 18, 2011 Author Posted February 18, 2011 Her mom watches her child for her while shes working, and once in a while she's hangs out with her friends. I cant keep her locked up all the time but just the body language in the photo. You cant see their faces but it looks like there just face to face. not a typical position to be just talking right??? I mean look carefully, I cant believe her when she tells me nothing happened...
tman666 Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 The "sexting" stuff that she sent to another guy would worry me the most, along with the fact that she's (according to your post) regularly going out and partying with unsavory people without you. Why aren't you able to go with her? Are you not invited? Does she forbid you to come along? Again, I don't see how the photos prove anything.
Author 4jms Posted February 18, 2011 Author Posted February 18, 2011 I guess just the fact that my girl friend is all up close with this guy with her crotch up against his. Is that ok for a girlfriend to do??? I dont think it is. She goes out maybe maybe twice a month. I choose not to go with cause i dont really like her friends. I always thought she was just with her girl friends too
Jazzari Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 What you know for a fact is that she is sexting and she let some guy put his hands on her at a party. She was between his legs - that's inviting contact. She tried some emotional blackmail by insinuating that it was your fault that she was in that position. You treated her badly so she got drunk and had another man comfort her. Then she threw out the "every right to be mad" which translates to "feel sorry for me because I'm being so understanding even though I did nothing wrong". That's all BS. She's insisting she did nothing with him but in fact she let him put his hands on her and put herself between his legs in a compromising position. That's not nothing - that's something. And the sexting was pretty blatant. She didn't seem to have an excuse for that one. I'd be pretty steamed with just all that alone. Never mind if it went any farther. You already know she crossed a line. I guess what you have to decide is whether you can forgive and more importantly - can you trust?
UpsetDad Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Dosnt look bad in the pic but the added sexting is suspicious, i would by mobile spy and watch her texts for a month as well as her computer, many simple programs out there for this. I went through a sexting affair with my wife and let me say it is never acceptable in a relationship period ! Tell her your position on it and if it dosnt stop then move on. If she is committed to you then there should not be any sexting with other men at all. Good Luck
Thedude22 Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Dump her. She sounds and looks like a dirty pirate hooker and you have enough evidence to bail on that train wreck. Staying with a person that cheats on you lowers your self respect and the respect everyone around you has for you.
here4her Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Dude turn your back and walk away!! Its this kinda stuff that give you low self esteem, trust issues, ect.. You'll never trust her, and always think about it, cause you know it looks like a little more then she is saying.
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