Confused728 Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 so I found out that my ex is engaged. From my understanding he just met this person in October. We Broke up for good last February. We talked on a few occasions in which he told me he was sorry for everthing, wanted to hang out with me. In August he even said he wished he could cuddle with me because its been to long. Then we had a fight and i blocked him from contacting me and haven't heard from him since.. Now i ran into someone who didn't know our situation all that well and told me that my x was engaged. I found out more info from someone else. He has only known this person since about October, this person already moved into his house! My ex used to tell me he wasnt the type to get married and based on his behavior i believed him. I heard his family thought it was alittle crazy and that he moved to fast and people werent gernally very excetping of it at first. What is going on in his head? Does he miss me and trying to cover up by getting married? What was wrong with me? Also we broke up because i questioned weather he was on drugs.. if you want to read my whole story about why we broke up.. its at this link here on love shack http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t206477/ i need advice as i feel like im on an emotional rollercoaster all over again!
Hhhh Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 hes rushing into a marriage because his biological clock is ticking, its obvisously not going to last. there is nothing to worry about, your still young find someone new
dreamingoftigers Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 My h and I were engaged by that time, it us a sign that the relationship isn't healthy.
Cee Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 Do your best effort not to get sucked in by gossip and drama surrounding your ex. It's best to remember that you are no longer connected and his life is not your business. I got sucked into drama around my ex because he relapsed on drugs, got in trouble with the law, and then he got paid to marry a woman for her green card. Yes, my ex remarried a woman from Russia. By the time that happened, I didn't care and wanted nothing to do with him ever again. If he died of an OD, sure I'd be sad, but the healthiest thing I could do for myself and him is to live my life well. Take it from me, you will stop caring once you realize your life has become pretty great without him. Sure, you are having feelings and are upset, but try not to run around and gossip and worry. Instead, leave him for dead and move on. If he is using drugs, this is not a battle you should try to wage. You'll end up a bloody mess on the battlefield.
susanfollows Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 I'm sorry to tell you this but from my experience when this happens the relationships usually do WORK. I've seen lots of friends and family get into similar situations and I seriously can't believe that it did work, but it can. I'm not saying this one is perfect but they'll get to know more about eachother and seriously what girl wouldn't want to move into a house rent free, all she has to do is be his gf, etc. Sounds like she has alot of reasons to stay and very few reasons to leave right now. Try showing up there at his house and seeing her for yourself, call him out on it right then an there if you want him back.
Author Confused728 Posted February 19, 2011 Author Posted February 19, 2011 I'm really heartsick over this whole thing. I expected him to have a gf but never an engagement so quickly to someone he has known less than 6 months and engaged only after 3! Susan, I don't think it would be right of me to show up at his house and interfere I dont think it would do any good. And I'm assuming i would be rejected by him. If he is engaged there must be a reason for it and i doubt my presence would stop that. I keep questioning where i went wrong.. Maybe i was to stubborn.. maybe it wasn't meant to be.. Maybe he never liked me. Also I used to tell him he was 36 and needed to grow up and settle down. I think after I left him he missed being in in a relationship. He did say this to me last April that being single wasn't what he thought it was going to be. We started talking again but he did something that annoyed me and we kinda of stopped talking again and tried to meet up a few times but it never happened cause i just felt he wanted to be friends.. If he did want me back he never came out and said it specifically not did i for that matter. But now its really tough! I have been depressed and in bed all day. Its really not good and i dont know what to do. I need any advice i can get.
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