wonderer85 Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Hey guys and girls, I've been dating this great girl for a few weeks now and have been out on 3 great dates. There's definately a click and our conversation always flows effortlessly. My problem always comes at the end of the date where I come across too nervous and wuss out of going in for a kiss. I think I'm scared of rejection but then as soon as it's too late and she's gone I wonder what my problem is, afterall she must be keen if she keeps agreeing to see my right? So my question lies here, we have our 4th date coming up and I'm left wondering whether I've hit the friendship zone by not trying to kiss her already, and whether a kiss now is too little too late? I've purposely suggested drinks this time, hoping a few alcoholic beverages will help loosen up any inhibitions. Grateful for any advice on how I should escalate things this time round?
xpaperxcutx Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Aside from getting a a go-ahead for a kiss, have you made any other physical advancements such as holding hands and/ or hugging? Physical reciprocation from her is the perfect sign to determine interest.
Author wonderer85 Posted February 18, 2011 Author Posted February 18, 2011 There has been no physical contact at all yet.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 There has been no physical contact at all yet. Then it is imperative that your next meet and greet involve a little shoulder bumping, hand holding and even hugging. Don't hesitate to just grab her hand and pull her in for a hug. If she's not pulling away at this point, you may then proceed to kiss her passionately.
Cee Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Holding her hand might be a good place to start. Or look at her and not say anything. Your instincts will take over.
Author wonderer85 Posted February 19, 2011 Author Posted February 19, 2011 Thanks for the advice. I know the 4th date will be do or die so will just have to bite the bullet and go in for some contact early on and then hopefully she will give a small sign and things will go from there..
carhill Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 OP, do you *feel* like kissing her? If you do, don't do it at the end of the date, do it at the beginning. A light but firm embrace and a light kiss. Smile. You *feel* happy to see her and are expressing it. Her reaction to that, as well as behavior during the date, when you are consistent with light but persistent desire for closeness, will tell you if she's attracted to you. If she is, that. If she isn't, that. Whichever it is, *accept it*. If the former, no issues with a passionate goodnight kiss. If the latter, let her go, politely. Be proactive. There are billions of women in the world. The world doesn't revolve around this one.
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