randomniceguy Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Hello All. New to the forum. Hope I posted this in the right section. Would like some feedback as to whether I should give up or push harder: Reasons if feels like she's really interested: We talk or text every day She initiates convos as much or more than me She compliments me a lot She fishes for compliments from me We've gone out on a few "dates" She has suggested that we need to hang out again soon She's flirty sometimes and shy acting others We talk to each other late at night, sometimes until 2 or 3am She always wants to talk to me before she goes to sleep She tells me to text her in the morning a lot Reasons I feel confused or she's just using me for confidence boost: It's been a long time since we hung out We live a few hours apart Last time I asked her to hang out she danced around the issue She offers to pay for stuff (but I always wind up paying) She's really hot/cold Theres more but I dont want to type too much. I feel like we've grown really close and she really likes me too, but is just scared for some reason? Is this normal for women before becoming "officially involved" with someone? Please help, I'm inexperienced and clueless!
purplehouse Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 I'm in a similar siuation except i am the girl....and we only live 5 minutes apart. It's pretty much all layed out ready to go but i put off seeing him on Wednesday due to a few of my own issues. I'm a bit nervous about things moving forward, but i want them too. Crazy i know. He's gone away for a week so i have some time up my sleeve to get out of the mindframe i am in, hopefully when he get's back we can get this moving long. I don't have a lot of advice. The guy in my situation is very sweet and lhas let me know what he is thinking/interested in, but he also knows when to back off and give space. I really think him doing this has helped me not freak out. Don't go soppy, just be straight forward and give space at the same tme. It's a balancing act for sure! Does she know you want this to go somewhere? Maybe she doesn't know what you're thinking. good luck
Author randomniceguy Posted February 18, 2011 Author Posted February 18, 2011 Thank you for your response! It helps hearing from the other side of things. I've also tried to not be pushy and have backed off from time to time when she doesn't seem to want to talk or whatever. I don't freak out and flood her with all of the "what's going on?" questions. I haven't verbatim said that I really like her but I've sent her flowers which I thought was a pretty good indication. If you don't mind my asking, what exactly is it that makes you nervous? I don't mind waiting because I really want something long term, but at the same time I've already invested a good bit of time and effort and don't want to look like a fool if she's just playing around.
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