tiff24 Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 I found out in Aug that my husband had been cheating on me. He blamed it on me cause we moved back to our home town because i was pregnant with our 2nd child. I needed my family and he wanted to live a fantisy life out in Colorado with his 'cool cuz'. I told him that i wouldn't make any rash decisions cause i was pregnant, but I almost left him anyways. The only reason I am still with him is cause of our children. Well our daughter is now 3 months old and i still can't get over it. Every time i want to be intamite with him all i see is her and him together. I love him very much and I want to try and work it out I just don't know if it's worth it. We have only been married for two years and I am 20 years old. I just don't want to ruin the rest of my life cause I can't get over this. Please help me cause I don't know what to do. He says he would never do it again and i can tell he is mad at himself, but our life has fell into the same routine of no romance, yet he still wants love from me. Tell me what you think and if you have any advice please let me know cause i am very confused!
Linda9999 Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 You aren't going to get over it unless you get counseling, he admits what he did (all of it) and makes amends, and you work HARD on repairing your marriage. If he is blaming you, you need to leave him because he'll just do it again and again. It is a process that will take you years, and he needs to know that and be willing to work through that WITH you. Not because he feels he has to, but because he wants to.
Calli Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 He's blaming you for HIS cheating? He needs to take responsibility for his own actions and almost ruining your marriage.
carrie999 Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 It sounds to me like you married very young and started a family before you were both ready. It's bad enough that he's cheating already (which makes me wonder if he was before), but blaming you? You need IC and MC immediately.
Author tiff24 Posted February 19, 2011 Author Posted February 19, 2011 Thanks guys we did get married young, but I got pregnant with our son when I was 17 and so was my husband. So I don't know if he was just being childish and selfish because he doesn't know better. He has been trying really hard to make things right with me and my heart tells me to give him another chance, but my head tells me not to trust him. It's just very confusing cause I have two kids too and I don't want them to know only us as ever divorced. I don't know...
StoneCold Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 The two of you got married far too young....now I dont even know if theres enough maturity present to even fix this. I hope everything works out for you but it looks like you may have to take this one on the chin as a lesson and make some decisions as to what you want to do....take your time to make sure your choice is right for you. You got married based on a hasty decision...dont make it a habit of continuing to make hasty decisions.....yet dont let it take 10 years
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