kaygato Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Do you have any stories of successful second chances? I know, I know, so many people have madew threads about this but I really would like to hear about this now. Is it true the dumper should always be the one to initiate the reconciliation?
nowwhatnow Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 heyy i have been actually wondering the same thing recently. its been about 5 months since he broke up with me and i will be home in a few months. if i still feel the same about him i was wondering if i can initiate to try again or can it only be him since he broke up with me?
Author kaygato Posted February 19, 2011 Author Posted February 19, 2011 heyy i have been actually wondering the same thing recently. its been about 5 months since he broke up with me and i will be home in a few months. if i still feel the same about him i was wondering if i can initiate to try again or can it only be him since he broke up with me? I would honestly advise you to not be the one to initiate reconciliation. I would maybe try to spend time with your ex as friends, flirt with him, but obviously do nothing sexual. See if he seems interested in you still and try and get him to be the one to ask for you back. After being broken up with my ex for the 3rd time in a span of 3 months, I learned that at least in my situation it wasn't a good idea for me to initiate reconciliation. I have zero hope that we'll get back together now...he's even with another girl now. I'm in no contact now, and I don't plan on breaking it if he attempts to call and be friendly to me. I don't think I can handle being second best in his life. I figure that if in the future my ex and I can become friends, and if he's interested he'll make a move. If I'm still intersted...who knows? It's all guesswork now anyway since right now I don't plan on speaking to him for a long time.
aerogurl87 Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 Well this is a second chance story that pretty much ended not being a second chance/still may be in limbo. I met my ex boyfriend about 2 years ago online in a game. The moment I first talked to him I wanted to get to know him better. I don't know what it was, but something drew me to him and I just wanted him in my life for whatever reason. Anyway eventually him and I became friends and started hanging out in the game more and more, until one day we took things from just being online, to texting on the phone, and then talking on the phone. We both fell for each other pretty fast, him faster than me though. We decided to try for a relationship, that looking back neither one of us was ready for. Long story short, I cheated on him and well we broke up. Eventually he asked for me back, then we broke up like 4 or 5 times over the course of 5 months before we broke up for good when he left me for someone else. So when he left me I moved on, or at least tried to. Got a rebound guy, my ex declared his hate for me and my new relationship and we tried to have a friendship that turned pretty sour until finally I decided enough was enough and went NC. We were NC for a few months until I texted him happy new year a few days after New Year's Day last year. We then went LC. Over the course of the last year or so we stayed in contact a little bit. It was cordial for the most part except when it came to talking about my relationship with my new boyfriend, that was always a sore spot in our "friendship". Every once in awhile he'd drop me hints by telling me things like I was haunting his dreams, he missed me, etc. Then this past December came and my relationship went to hell in a hell basket, my ex swooped in and told me he'd be there for me. I took the bait, ended my relationship, and my ex told me he wanted me back. Two weeks later I changed my mind, went back to my boyfriend. And you know what, I'm still in love with my ex boyfriend. That's right, it's been 1.5 years since I even saw his face and I still feel the same way I felt about him when he left me. Screwed up thing is he still loves me as well. We've put each other through hell and back, and yet we still care about each other alot. It's funny though, cause we can't get back together, our paths in life are different and honestly I don't think it would work. I think we've both come to terms with that, but who knows. Maybe one day he'll get out the army and I'll be single and we'll come together and have our own happily ever after. I don't know, but I won't hold my breath on it.
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