new0726 Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 So I have a had a few pretty bad days. My grandfather passed away yesterday, and I haven't slept in almost two days. Anyway, I text my girlfriend this morning, and she was like I'm so sorry, blah blah blah. I wish I could see you. And I was like, what exactly is keeping you from seeing me then? And she just made some excuses. And I said, I'm assuming you have decided you don't want to be with me then...is that somewhere in the ballpark? And she said, I'm sorry everything has been so hard for you, excuse for me for trying to straighten out my life...I stiil want to talk to you and stuff, but I won't anymore..i'll leave you alone so you can go out with whoever you want and not wait on me...so bye. I tried explaining that it wasn't what I wanted at all. I understood she is going through a lot right now, and I was just asking if the relationship with me is something she wanted. And well...that was it. Nothing else has been said. I don't know what to do. I feel like I should get struck by lightning next.
PegNosePete Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Sorry for your loss. It sounds like she wanted to break up with you, but wanted to make it seem like your fault. She is blame shifting. Maybe she feels bad dumping you after hearing your news so she didn't want to do it. But the fact is that if she wanted to stay together then she would have said so.
Author new0726 Posted February 18, 2011 Author Posted February 18, 2011 I just don't understand. She's had plenty of time to do so. And why not bring it up herself then? Things have been fine. Just so many thoughts...
PegNosePete Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Some people are happy just to maintain the status quo even if they are not really happy. Maybe she was just indifferent, or lazy, or afraid. But when you actually put forward the idea her reaction told you that she really did not care.
Author new0726 Posted February 18, 2011 Author Posted February 18, 2011 Guess you're right. I'm just gonna leave her alone and see what happens from there.
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