purplehouse Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 (edited) Hi, I met a guy at the end of november, there was an initial attraction between us from that moment. we have been volunteering together since then and i noticed he would always talk to me/look at me. He recently got in contact with me and we went out last Saturday night. So far he has been great. There is no pressure from him, we are taking it slow just getting to know eachother. we have talked on the phone, as well as through facebook and he is really keen to get together again soon. He told me he really likes me. So anyway I like him back. I'm attracted to him and getting to know him has been really good. I definitely see potential here for a relationship which is what we are both looking for. The thing is i haven't been very happy with myself lately. A year ago my life went through a drastic change and i put on 5kg.( I am only 5'1and so it's noticeable, plus i haven't been able to work out like i used to so it's also loss of tone to add to it) None of my clothes fit and so i haven't felt like myself for a while. I am working on fixing this and i'ts a simple fix really, just need to stay motivated. But because of this and the changes of late my self esteem has gone down a lot and it's really making it hard to put myself out there for this to go anywhere. He is open, willing and ready and i keep making excuses to put off seeing him again. (we were going to see each other 2 days ago for a cuppa but didn't happen because of me) He is going away for a week and so that has bought me some more time to sort myself out. How do you accept someone might actually like you for the way you are. I don't feel good enough and i don't like myself right now so this is hard. how do i not let this one slip away due to my own issues?? I just want to add that when i was with my ex a year ago i felt so good about myself and heaps of confidence. (including in the bedroom etc) I am really anxious about that aspect this time because of the change in my body. I find the dates the easy part, but because i know this might actually go somehere i seem to be halting it... Edited February 18, 2011 by purplehouse
nwsingleguy Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Go out with him and have a good time. In the meantime put a plan in place to feel better about yourself. Exercise every morning and go on a diet if need be. Don't push a potentially great guy away because of your own issues, it sounds like he is already into you...enjoy it and use it as motivation to better yourself. Icing on the cake for both of you if it works out.
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