sweetblubrry Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 It has been 3 weeks tonight since he broke up with me out of nowhere. It has been a nightmare. We both work at the same company so there are times where I do see him but for the most part I don't. We have a lot of mutual friends and they have told me that he is just confused. He doesn't know who he is or what he wants in life. He said it didn't have to do with me (during the breakup he said it did). The breakup was just an insane amount of excuses and whatnot and him breaking down crying. I had to work with him Sunday for 2 hours and it was the hardest 2 hours of my life. To stand there and pretend like nothing was wrong, to be happy, confident, smile, all the while feel like I was dying a little more as each minute passed me by. To hear his voice in the room and it brings so much pain. None of his friends have a clue as to what is going on because he is basically shutting down and not talking. Definitely going thru some life stuff right now. :/ It kills me that he did this. I miss him so much. How could he? How could he tell me he loved me so much and then just disappear from my life? I don't know if he is staying away to avoid drama (obviously my friends he works with are giving him the evil eyes now) or if he really just doesn't care. I want him back in my life but I refuse to break NC. I hate this. I feel like I am living in a nightmare every single day. And there is no way to break free of it. I constantly deal with it at work and within myself. I just want things to go back to normal. I want him to figure things out and realize he made a big mistake and come back. We've never had any problems what-so-ever no fights, nothing. Am I doing the right thing by being silent?
JasonRules Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 How long were you together? What was the nature of your relationship? Did you ever meet his friends? His family?
Leandro Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 yes, stay silent. He dumped you. Let him find out who HE is. Let him find out what he wants in life on his own. 3 weeks is good! Most people break at 2 or 4 weeks NC and then start over from there. Don't be one of those people. Stick to it!
Author sweetblubrry Posted February 18, 2011 Author Posted February 18, 2011 We were together for 7 months in a relationship. I never met his family because they live far away but he has met mine and it was great! And yes we have a lot of mutual friends.
Trovador Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 NC in the same workplace is hell, as the dynamics after a break up are different than those of a normal relationship... In my particular case, (a workplace romance too) nothing has worked out... NC, LC, intense friendship, normal friendship, enmity... you name it... we always end talking again, it's like a curse, no matter what we do there's no way we can go our separate ways... what I intend to tell you it's that maybe, just maybe, you two can talk a little while you get to move on, that's what I am doing, because NC at the office is a ****, but if I found myself falling again for her I'd resort to NC with a vengeance... Another option is taking a leave of absence and hope to grow stronger at home (I did that but my ex called me everyday ha ha) Or look for another job...
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