Author 9Lives Posted February 18, 2011 Author Posted February 18, 2011 Is she? I didn't get that from this....You still haven't said where you are meeting these guys. You should call a guy out if he mentions sex right away. These guys must be social retards if they are bringing up sex during the first conversation or first date. Even during most one night stands, sex is not talked about...the moment just gets heated and it happens. What kind of guys talk about sex after they meet a girl....usually teenage virgins...ha ha Im not meeting these guys in one particular place. One guy I met at the NFL experience. I was fully clothed not revealing too much of anything other than pants and a shirt. I worked down there so there wasnt anything going on. He is a college grad and found me attractive. Invited me to a mansion party where the stars were having their get together. Before I showed up, it was already on his mind to see what I was down for. I let him know, I dont get down like that. The other guys I used to work with. He has always been attracted to me but I have not given him any indication im just gonna give him some a/ss! I just think that is how guys are these days. It is not something I am doing. Im attractive but not slutty.
Author 9Lives Posted February 18, 2011 Author Posted February 18, 2011 Ha ha, well props for that. My experience has always been that you just play it cool and the opportunity presents itself. All my ONS have been situations where I wasn't really trying and it just happened. I guess part of that goes with age, as you get a little older things are more subtle. I must perfer the guy just shut up and see if I am feeling him that way. Both of the guys Im speaking of, I wanted to get sexual with until they started asking for it so soon. Chill out!!! if I like you, we gonna connect...give it some time. I feel like Im in grade school trying to keep my cha cha from getting got!
Author 9Lives Posted February 19, 2011 Author Posted February 19, 2011 There are many, many men who know to not try and have sex with a lady right away. Or, if they get a little carried away to back off immediately if she is not so inclined. Like others have said, if you are talking about sex or maybe dressing or acting provocatively then guys might get the impression that you were looking for sex. I once knew a girl who wore the skimpiest outfits and flirted incessantly. And then she would get offended when guys came on to her! Not saying this is you. Just a story that came to mind. Anyway, despair not - the decent guys who know better are everywhere! Im not doing nothing all out the ordinary than being sexy. Nobody has ever said, you are too much. I usually ask my g/f just to make sure Im not doing too much. I just think today, guys think that that is how it goes.
Author 9Lives Posted February 19, 2011 Author Posted February 19, 2011 I think it's a function of today's society. Sex is pretty cheap and easy to get these days, and there are a lot of guys that don't know better than to treat it like it's expected. For me, I am somewhat conservative when it comes to the way I dress and act. It should be pretty obvious that I am not a cheap lay kind of girl. Yet, guys do tend to bring up sex much earlier than I'm comfortable with. I liked Sanman's 6 week thing. Guys that bring it up within the first couple of dates are not the kind of guys who want a serious relationship. That should just be a given. I agree, I think it is a function of today society but Im not having it. I have never been the type to just be throwing it around. It really gross me out to pull my pants down to someone I dont have anything for. Like Im a hoe!
Author 9Lives Posted February 19, 2011 Author Posted February 19, 2011 In my experience, if you wind up with any woman on a couch alone watching a movie it's go time or she friend zones you. Period. doesn't matter if your dating, hanging out, or "just a friend". I said before I usually give 4 to 6 meet-ups (because god forbid you say the word "date" to a woman these days) then I invite them over for dinner & a movie. They either shut me down or I get lucky. Sometimes they fall off the face of the earth, sometimes we see each other & progress. sometimes they say "I just want to be friends" & I stop talking to them. LOL! I dont agree here with this. My last ex was so sexy and cool that I was having to stop myself from giving it to him too soon. I enjoyed his company and wanted to share my body with him. It took him a month before we got intimate. It just depends on how that woman is feeling about you.
Lovelybird Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 I agree, I think it is a function of today society but Im not having it. I have never been the type to just be throwing it around. It really gross me out to pull my pants down to someone I dont have anything for. Like Im a hoe! why people don't wait for marriage anymore?
SmileFace Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 why people don't wait for marriage anymore? Isn't marriage something based around religion?
Nexus One Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 Isn't marriage something based around religion? No not necessarily. It depends on the reason why two persons want a social union. Reasons can be any one of the following or a combination of them: legal, social, emotional, economical, spiritual, and religious.
musemaj11 Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 why people don't wait for marriage anymore? Because now u can tell who is the father of the baby easily?
Lovelybird Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 Isn't marriage something based around religion? No. It has nothing to do with controlling. Actually marriage represents a beautiful picture of love between God and us. Just that human fallenness ruined it.
Lovelybird Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 No not necessarily. It depends on the reason why two persons want a social union. Reasons can be any one of the following or a combination of them: legal, social, emotional, economical, spiritual, and religious. People's reasoning have failed them
SmileFace Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 No. It has nothing to do with controlling. Actually marriage represents a beautiful picture of love between God and us. Just that human fallenness ruined it. Who? Between who? Sorry to ruffle your feathers but it was a legit question , I was just curious.
SmileFace Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 No not necessarily. It depends on the reason why two persons want a social union. Reasons can be any one of the following or a combination of them: legal, social, emotional, economical, spiritual, and religious. Ok, thanks
musemaj11 Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 No. It has nothing to do with controlling. Actually marriage represents a beautiful picture of love between God and us. Just that human fallenness ruined it. Marriage was already there before religion came around. The original purpose of marriage was an event where a man announced to everyone in the village that Woman A and her future offspring belonged to him. Marriage for love is a modern invention.
Lovelybird Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 Who? Between who? Sorry to ruffle your feathers but it was a legit question , I was just curious. I believe between God and human beings. we are supposed to have intimate relationship with God spiritually. Husband in a marriage is supposed to love his wife to the degree he is willing to sacrifice his own life for her. Marriage was already there before religion came around. The original purpose of marriage was an event where a man announced to everyone in the village that Woman A and her future offspring belonged to him. Marriage for love is a modern invention. God is there before religion. Religion was invented by human beings, sometimes it fall into "bad guys' hands" so that they can manipulate and control others.
catgotyourtongue Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 I must perfer the guy just shut up and see if I am feeling him that way. Both of the guys Im speaking of, I wanted to get sexual with until they started asking for it so soon. Chill out!!! if I like you, we gonna connect...give it some time. I feel like Im in grade school trying to keep my cha cha from getting got! LMAO and couldn't have said it better, I so agree. I actually find the older I get the worse it gets. When I was in my 20's and 30's some of these men were good with waiting and being respectful even if they were horny as hell. Now that I am in my 40's it seems the men are way more greedy, expect sex right away, want friends w/benefits and seem totally put off to wait a few weeks for sex. Really? It baffles me. I know men love sex and want sex early on, often, etc. BUT can't you keep it in your pants for atleast the span of a long movie, lol? Did I say long?
Nexus One Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 I believe between God and human beings. we are supposed to have intimate relationship with God spiritually. Husband in a marriage is supposed to love his wife to the degree he is willing to sacrifice his own life for her. God is there before religion. Religion was invented by human beings, sometimes it fall into "bad guys' hands" so that they can manipulate and control others. And how was marriage not invented by humans? It's a tradition passed from generation to generation and because humans evolved from animals, there was one generation that did it first.
Nexus One Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 People's reasoning have failed them People in this world are born in all sorts of situations. So people are going to be practical to survive and adjust their reasoning accordingly.
musemaj11 Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 It amuses me how some women who are such ardent proponents of the 'divine' right of women to expect men to pay for them on the first dates in the other thread, suddenly switch to the other end of the spectrum and moan about how men expect women to give them sex on the first dates. Karma is a bitch, isnt it?
Lovelybird Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 People in this world are born in all sorts of situations. So people are going to be practical to survive and adjust their reasoning accordingly. The reasoning such as commonly accepted concept about dating right now--you should put out sex on the third date? or after one month even without any commitment and deep bonding? It amuses me how some women who are such ardent proponents of the 'divine' right of women to expect men to pay for them on the first dates in the other thread, suddenly switch to the other end of the spectrum and moan about how men expect women to give them sex on the first dates. Karma is a bitch, isnt it? If you feel you are forced to pay, then you shouldn't pay in the first place. so what motivated you to pay? you don't mean you are trying to buy sex, do you?
SmileFace Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 The reasoning such as commonly accepted concept about dating right now--you should put out sex on the third date? or after one month even without any commitment and deep bonding? So, if I don't believe in God - which means I don't believe in marriage? What am I really waiting for? Do people only wait because of God? If you feel you are forced to pay, then you shouldn't pay in the first place. so what motivated you to pay? you don't mean you are trying to buy sex, do you? No ,but some women do sell sex. ??????????????
phineas Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 That is a bit too black and white. Not everyone fits that mold. You know there's also hand holding and kissing, not just going at it like bunny rabbits. There is that. But the only time it's gone past hand holding & kissing for me is if I went for sex first time we were alone at someones house. As man who is a nice guy I can promise you if I never went for it when the opportunity presented itself I never got a 2nd chance with the same girl. They lost interest. period. There are a lot of men that will tell you the same thing.
Nexus One Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 The reasoning such as commonly accepted concept about dating right now--you should put out sex on the third date? or after one month even without any commitment and deep bonding? If it feels right for both partners and there is an understanding by both partners about the kind of relationship they're in, then why not?
SilverLining Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 I am definitely having the same results. I'm in my late 20s and having trouble finding decent men to date...that I'm also attracted to. When I say 'attracted to', I don't necessarily mean the most attractive and physically fit guy...it's more of a nice face and comfortable personality type of thing. I actually would and have dated guys who were very nerdy and on the edge of obese. I get stared at a LOT, but no one ever seems to ask me out. And when it does happen, the guy is usually unattractive and VERY aggressive. So I end up trying dating sites to find guys to date...and they all seem to be about one-nighters. I know there are plenty of great guys out there, but I don't ever seem to meet any who are willing to wait for sex, or who actually seem interested in getting to know me. I was thinking that perhaps because I'm well-endowed, I'm unknowingly attracting guys who are more into it for the sex? I just have no idea. I have tried the casual sex thing but it's just not for me. I ended up sort of seeing a guy I wasn't much interested in for awhile because he was the only guy who actually seemed interested in getting to know me. I don't want to make that mistake again. Oh, and by the way no, I don't dress like my profile pic in public unless I'm going clubbing and in that case I sort of expect to not meet quality guys. I actually dress much more conservatively because of my job.
Lovelybird Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 ?????????????? You are free to believe what you want to believe about marriage, I think the reasons for many people to enter marriage are very complex, some for love, some for hope keeping love, some for practical reasons... For me, waiting for marriage are both based on my beliefs and psychological reasons and researches. It is just a smart move, not an easy one though good things are never easy to get
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