BringThaNoise Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 So me and this girl were "unofficially" together for about tow and a half months. Like we were always together and we hung out a lot in and out of school. I mean she really liked me. She chased after me so hard, but when I finally asked her out she turned me down at first. She said that she thought I was indifferent towards her or that I didn't really like her like she liked me. So I left her alone and a few days later she came over and broke down sauing she needed me and that she need me. So we began going out. About a week later, it ended. I mean when we were together I didn't really treat her like my girlfriend. I treated her more like my friend and didn't take our relationship to the next level. Things just got too complicated and artificial and it just didn't seem like we had a relationship. The timing was off and we weren't really on the same page. When she ended it, it was on impulse. She was out with her friends and I got a text saying that she couldn't do it anymore. She felt like I never liked her and it seemed like I was just dragging her around. Her last boyfriend was a complete ******* towards her and treated her badly and she has a hard time trusting people sometimes because of him. A few days after she ended it we talked and a few days after that she initiated another conversation and it led me to ask her for another chance, but she said she couldn't do it at the time because she didn't want me to pretend that I was liking her. We've been broken up for about two and a half months. The first month was rough. There was a lot of family drama and it affected me. Like I begged and pleaded for another chance and I came off as clingy and I know that. The second month was very limited contact and I've kept no contact for the past 17 days. When we did talk, she never said she stopped liking me. I mean this girl fell hard for me, but I never caught her. I just kind of let her fall. Things were just too complicated and artificial the first time around. I mean I still do have feelings for her and deep down I think she still does too, but I think she still thinks I never really liked her. So when I told her I did, she thought I was just bull****ting her. Long story short, this girl REALLY liked me. I took a long time to ask her out. She said no then realized she REALLY liked me. First week was kind of akward. It ended. First month I made a dumbass out of myself. Second month was better. Last 17 days have been NC. I want to try to talk to her one final time, but I don't know how to go about it.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Why did you treat her like a friend when she's supposed to be your gf? Have you ever wondered if you are passive aggressive?
Author BringThaNoise Posted February 18, 2011 Author Posted February 18, 2011 I didn't think she would come back. It was weird. Like her friends would always ask when I was going to ask her out and always told me she was mad because I didn't ask her out yet and I knew she really liked me, but I just waited for some issues to settle before I did. When I did, she just thought I liked her as more of a friend and I guess she thought like I was just "pretending" to like her to please her. It was just an awkward way to start off a relationship. I mean it began with uncertainty and it was just weird. But the fact that she wanted to still go out with me after waiting so long showed me that she really was different, but I didn't really show her that. I didn't really lead. Like I was used to her initiating everything and I got a little too comfortable.
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