thegreatmistake Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 So I've hit the point where I can confidently say that I'm ready to live my life with or without my ex and be happy and successful either way. If I contact her and tell her that, I can regain her as a friend (she was my best friend before we got together) and quite possibly become more. However, I was very dramatic at times with her and smothered her, and while I have found self-confidence and don't feel that need to have her around all the time or act the way I used to, I don't know what would be best for her in this situation. I know she's been very upset that she doesn't have contact with me any more and she wants to be at least friends, however I don't know if this would be best for her or if she's better off not having me as a friend any more. Any words of wisdom/insights from people that have been there?
USMCHokie Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 So I've hit the point where I can confidently say that I'm ready to live my life with or without my ex and be happy and successful either way. Your post says otherwise: If I contact her and tell her that, I can regain her as a friend (she was my best friend before we got together) and quite possibly become more. Sorry to say it, but you're not remotely close.
Author thegreatmistake Posted February 18, 2011 Author Posted February 18, 2011 I appreciate opinions beyond my own and I plan on taking at least a few weeks of NC before doing anything just cause I'm enjoying where I am in life and how I'm doing without her. I'm just curious as to whether being friends or really contact in any way would be bad for her in any way. Now that I'm feeling better about things I would hate to bring up anything that would hurt her or anything like that. From the not thinking I'm ready to live my life with or without her should I take that to mean I'm better off staying far away and just living my own life?
USMCHokie Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 ...I'm enjoying where I am in life and how I'm doing without her. Then why reintroduce her into your life...? I'm just curious as to whether being friends or really contact in any way would be bad for her in any way. Now that I'm feeling better about things I would hate to bring up anything that would hurt her or anything like that. As a neutral third party, I can see right through you...you are trying to take the moral high ground here and feign concern for her to justify what you truly want in the end. From the not thinking I'm ready to live my life with or without her should I take that to mean I'm better off staying far away and just living my own life? Yes. Both of you are better off.
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