SmileFace Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Ok, I won't post much detail since I don't really keep my true identity secret on LS. Anyway, I am witnessing a guy I know cheating with a colleague of mine. The colleague is also cheating on her s.o with him.These people are not in my age group and not my friends but we do have a business relationship. I know the guys daughter and know of his wife. It is coming to the point where I can't even talk to him or her without thinking about it. It really isn't my business. However it really burns my stomach thinking about it. I just don't know how to deal with it ? Any pointers ? It really isn't my business and the less I know the better . It is just getting to me - makes me a little peeved actually
ShatteredReality Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Such a tough spot to be in....I mean...you can't really run and tell his wife - you're not enough of a "friend" to do that. Nor can you tell either of them what to do - again not enough of a "friend". Co worker and friend are a bit different...You could mention to him that you feel their relationship is a bit obvious and you don't want any part of it so quit it or you'll report them to HR...but then that could start work drama too....No way to simply avoid them altogether?
Author SmileFace Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 Such a tough spot to be in....I mean...you can't really run and tell his wife - you're not enough of a "friend" to do that. Nor can you tell either of them what to do - again not enough of a "friend". Co worker and friend are a bit different...You could mention to him that you feel their relationship is a bit obvious and you don't want any part of it so quit it or you'll report them to HR...but then that could start work drama too....No way to simply avoid them altogether? It is more like boss and client/patient and I am HR. It is a tough spot. I mean these people aren't reporting anything to me - I just know . It is bad. I don't like it much. It is to point that I am questioning myself ,do I even want to work in an environment like this? But I am not that naive to leave a job over something I can't help. The whole situation makes me uneasy.
ShatteredReality Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Oh ick...you can't somehow site them on their conduct??? I mean...it cannot look good for the company to have something so blatant going on...and not to mention how it would affect morale and other people working there or clients/patients who might see it.... Well the one good thing about affairs is that they almost always END! Hopefully this one will end sooner rather than later...I mean if they're being that obvious about it...chances of one or both of them getting caught are probably pretty high. You could start applying elsewhere...but realistically...this situation can happen anywhere...
Author SmileFace Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 It is a small business . Who is going to catch them ... me? haha All the employees already know or don't care- we are all females - so is the boss and they are use to this type of thing with her. I have had to cover her ass a couple times with her live in boyfriend. I already put my foot down with that one. However since I actually know the guy in the situation this time - it is really bothering me. I am the newest and youngest employee but I don't like these type of games. Idk - I just need to push it to the back of my head. I can't afford to leave my job. Staying at this job will help me when I finish my degree. I don't want to end up in retail or fast food - so that is why I stay. I am not a religious or spiritual person at all . However, this is ****ing with the morals I set for myself.Ugh!
ShatteredReality Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Yeah...there isn't a lot you can do without endangering your job...I mean you can drop dime to the guys daughter or something...but that's not going to do you any favors....just don't cover for them and keep away from them as much as you're able...that's about the best you can do for now. I wasn't suggesting quitting...but if you were able to apply at other companies, if something came up you could jump on it...but sometimes you have to put up with crap like this until you get to a better place...sorry!
Author SmileFace Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 Yeah , I am just going to stay out of it . The daughter is my age - so it is weird. I am just going to keep far from it and try my best not to know anything. -thanks
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