La Roux Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I've known her for about 3 years. She is 4 years older than me, an architecture student and I'm an interior design student. My feeling for her starts to grow a lot further from the last 2 years, I was always trying to help her in any of her problems. We share a lot of things together, I practice music with her, helped arranged a gig for her birthday, blah blah. So, at 00:00 when it turned Valentine's Day, I texted her would she be my Valentine. She texted back that she was surprised cuz she was going to text me to wish me a new day, and then she asked me why her. [...and so we texted a lot...] To sum it up, I told her clearly that I don't like polite excuses at all, if she wanted to say 'no', she must say it straight with honesty. She said she couldn't say it clear, if I asked her that question a year ago, she would say no, but after a year, she couldn't believe that I mean so much to her. Then she told me to give her more time, and she doesn't want me to rush cuz she might run and hide from it, and she believes that I have a special place in her. That afternoon, she texted me just to ask how was my day and stuff, but it didn't sound natural like usual. When I asked her to go out in the evening, surprisingly she agreed. And when I came late 20 minutes to pick her up (cuz of a stupid stomach ache and a problem with my motorbike), she didn't seem to be a bit mad. We had...not the best date that any couple would have had, but not the worst either. Brought her home, she gave her scarf to me so I could be warmer on my way home. After that, we still texted eachother but for the whole yesterday, she hasn't texted me back. I am a guy whose thinking gets negative lots of times, still working on it but yet not enough. My feelings are very sensitive that it could make my chest feel boing and a wee bit hard to breath at anytime. I would like advices on: - how to fix my negative thinking problem - I feel lost, really love to continue but don't know how to do it right - how you see/feel about my relationship/circumstance Thank you for reading, hope that was enough detail.
mo mo Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Next time you have to be bulletproof. (anyone who gets that gets a hug!) OK back to the topic on hand.. I think you need to take control of the situation and not leave it up to her to decide what to do. She clearly likes you, but is insecure about something (who knows what it could be). I think the best thing for you to do is to take charge and let her know that YOU know that you two would make an amazing couple. Confidence is key. If she thinks you aren't confident enough about your feelings for her then she will feel very insecure.
Author La Roux Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 Next time you have to be bulletproof. (anyone who gets that gets a hug!) OK back to the topic on hand.. I think you need to take control of the situation and not leave it up to her to decide what to do. She clearly likes you, but is insecure about something (who knows what it could be). I think the best thing for you to do is to take charge and let her know that YOU know that you two would make an amazing couple. Confidence is key. If she thinks you aren't confident enough about your feelings for her then she will feel very insecure. Yes, I see myself that I haven't got enough confidence. Your comment got me back on track, thanks mate!
Nexus One Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Next time you have to be bulletproof. (anyone who gets that gets a hug!) http://tinyurl.com/4l2c2ye Problem? Let's just make that a very manly hug.
daphne Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 http://tinyurl.com/4l2c2ye Problem? Let's just make that a very manly hug. :lmao:
mo mo Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 http://tinyurl.com/4l2c2ye Problem? Let's just make that a very manly hug. If by manly you mean grab your lower back and squeeze you tight while I put my right leg up on your hip, sure.
daphne Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 If by manly you mean grab your lower back and squeeze you tight while I put my right leg up on your hip, sure. :lmao: I almost p**'ed myself I laughed so hard. That's what we all wanted. A graphic image of your two avatars going at it. I'm glad I didn't answer first.
mo mo Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 :lmao: I almost p**'ed myself I laughed so hard. That's what we all wanted. A graphic image of your two avatars going at it. I'm glad I didn't answer first. Why not? I bet you're really cuddly
Nexus One Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 If by manly you mean grab your lower back and squeeze you tight while I put my right leg up on your hip, sure. Ok, let's get it over with: http://tinyurl.com/4nzxjxo
mo mo Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Ok, let's get it over with: http://tinyurl.com/4nzxjxo get it over with?? i'm not letting go
musemaj11 Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Another 'she wanna take it slow because she is just not that into you' thread.
Nexus One Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Get a room. We just did: http://tinyurl.com/5rtsdhy
daphne Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 get it over with?? i'm not letting go You guys are just playing chicken at this point. See who'll blink?
mo mo Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 I think you want to be the bread in our meat sandwich You guys are just playing chicken at this point. See who'll blink?
daphne Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 I think you want to be the bread in our meat sandwich Hey! I think that makes me the meat and you guys the bread, n'est-ce pas ? Only if you guys looked like the two in that photo. Ok, mebbe not. You know, the OP is going to have a hard time getting rid of his negative thoughts now..
SmileFace Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Hey! I think that makes me the meat and you guys the bread, n'est-ce pas ? Well not if there is two sandwiches... bwhahaha
mo mo Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Hey! I think that makes me the meat and you guys the bread, n'est-ce pas ? Only if you guys looked like the two in that photo. Ok, mebbe not. You know, the OP is going to have a hard time getting rid of his negative thoughts now.. i dont think your mind is dirty enough to understand what i meant... and about OP.. I just want him to feel welcomed here. We're all just a bunch of kooky critters that have fun while we give serious advice. My advice was good, wasn't it?
Nexus One Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Hey! I think that makes me the meat and you guys the bread, n'est-ce pas ? Une baguette de pain pour madame: http://tinyurl.com/4pb8xy7 Well not if there is two sandwiches... bwhahaha I think SmileFace wants to join the fun. i dont think your mind is dirty enough to understand what i meant... Oh I think she got the idea.
daphne Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Well not if there is two sandwiches... bwhahaha I think that's an orgie? I'll take a salad in that case. i dont think your mind is dirty enough to understand what i meant... I don't either. SO what did it mean? For the record, I've been known to google things at work that got me into a bit of trouble. Milf, poonanny and I think she male. I didn't know what they were! I'm not kidding. It was funny in retrospect but having HR call me to mock me for it was humiliating. "But I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT IT MEANT!" And didn't know they were sexual either. My advice was good, wasn't it? Yeah, baby. It was good.
daphne Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 Une baguette de pain pour madame: http://tinyurl.com/4pb8xy7 Oh là là ! Il est croustillant ce pain.
mo mo Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 Oh là là ! Il est croustillant ce pain. bah.. the baguettes I make are better
SmileFace Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 I think SmileFace wants to join the fun. . I think that's an orgie? I'll take a salad in that case. . Umm, I am pretty sure you don't need me to make two sandwiches. Just be flexible
Nexus One Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 (edited) For the record, I've been known to google things at work that got me into a bit of trouble. Milf, poonanny and I think she male. I didn't know what they were! I'm not kidding. It was funny in retrospect but having HR call me to mock me for it was humiliating. "But I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT IT MEANT!" And didn't know they were sexual either. When going to Google you could use https:// instead of http://. Your query and the results page will then be sent encrypted over the network and internet. However that will be futile when they're recording your screen through streaming video. Also the page you end up on when you click on a result will be visible to them once you click on a result. So if you're looking for a meaning of something, try to extract the answer from the Google results while using https://. That way you'll have privacy when searching, although limited to the search results on the results page themselves. Also note that your browser keeps a history and cache. Both can be cleaned via the browser options though. Edited February 19, 2011 by Nexus One
catgotyourtongue Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 i dont think your mind is dirty enough to understand what i meant... and about OP.. I just want him to feel welcomed here. We're all just a bunch of kooky critters that have fun while we give serious advice. My advice was good, wasn't it? Just sayin', this thread is starting to make me hot, and hungry, -can I come to the picnic and bring vodka? Nothing goes with sandwiches like booze, lol. thank you all for making my night, and making me laugh, I love the humor, and I do get it.
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